Hello! I would like to share my story. I have never written on the net on such topics before. I will write it briefly. My wife and I are both in our late 50s. We have been living together for 8 years (second marriage), everything went very well in the relationship (strong love, understanding) ... until the moment when my wife changed. He began to get annoyed by the smallest things. I sensed something was wrong, I checked her messages ... and I understood why. She had an affair with another. They wrote to each other. It was as if a freight train had hit me. I couldn't believe it. I didn't know where I was, and how exactly it happened to me .... I talked to her, she admitted. It was because I didn't pay attention to her and she looked elsewhere. And we had talked about it a few months ago. She told me "I don't get attention, I don't feel like a woman" I didn't pay much attention to that. I WAS WRONG. Two months passed in agony and conversations at home. I don't know what world I'm in yet. I love her . Now I feel like I love her more. I'm even crazy about her. So 2 months after the start, she decided to end this relationship. Literally days ago. And days before it ended, she told me everything. She saw him 6 months ago, it was love at first sight on her part (I don't know about him), she thought about him. 4 months later she decided to write to him. 2 months of writings and at most 6-7 views. There was no sex (I know her, she is principled, and I asked her). She also told me that she couldn't imagine living with this person (she didn't really know him). She doesn't know if she loves him or is in love, but she had feelings for him. After 2 months of agony at home, I told her to choose. She decided to be with me. But I see her thinking about him, and she told me. I know she's strong, I know she'll make it. I think it's a stagger, something like a straw drowning man. She looked for it and got it.
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There are many videos on youtube about this problem. I would advise you to watch them
And I'm 25 and you're 50. You look a little naive to me without taking offense. 6-7 views and you think you haven't slept. Man, don't expose yourself, she's ready to dump you for him, and you think they haven't slept. Would she think so much about him? Not only did he fuck her, but he liked her a lot, that's why. Also tell him to pack his bags and you'll see how he suddenly turns the plate.
Candidate lover. At least you know that if you don't take action by muttering, it works.
I can't figure that out, almost 50 years old? !! And until what age should we keep the pussies of these women? And again the man is guilty! How could someone not say: I have free time, I am driven by freedom, whether they trust me that I do not deserve. And if he hadn't felt in time and had sex (wasn't there? Did he just want to share?). What if he had a relationship for several years? After all, he wants me to believe that he doesn't lie to you at least a lot. However, she confessed immediately. Most women admit only the obvious. And again I will ask until what age (of the woman) men for every "mistake" ("mistake" because there may be no mistake at all) will be punished by spreading their legs elsewhere ??? Is it true that a woman in her 50s has such self-confidence that they have lined up for her?
6-7 views, and there was no sex !? Come on, do you believe? If a woman and rust leave, there is no stopping! Apparently he considers you a jerk, and will continue the game. Come to your senses!
Remember how you treated your wife in the beginning. Is there something you did then that you don't do for her anymore. It will probably sound funny, but even a little help at home in the household is much appreciated. Think about the last time you complimented her on what she looked like, if you asked her how her day went. Think about the last time you made a nice gesture to her. How much time do you spend with her, do you put her in the background for work, friends ... Maybe that's the answer to everything. She hasn't cheated on you physically, maybe she still really cares about you, but the fact that she's looking elsewhere for attention shows that she's missing something. Don't think I'm blaming you for what happened, I'm just thinking from my feminine point of view. I don't think it's too late to change things. If you love this woman, fight for her. Show her
I'll tell you straight, who is a sensitive slut, not to read. He will do it again. She has already proved that she can, she shows how she thinks about the other. Throw the scumbag in the street where he belongs. Old bags and betas will immediately pour out the silly argument: "you didn't pay attention to her, she hinted to you, it's your fault." Remember that those who share the above opinion are probably born with an extra chromosome or smear lead paint with kerosene on their sandwich. A little training for these downs: grumbling about "I don't feel like a woman" is not even a hint of trying to communicate about and solve the problem. If she felt neglected, she could have shared it seriously, directly, humanely to the author - the slimy girlish hints are for the high school, not the married couple. The relationship is built on trust, and the cutie has made the conscious choice to insult him. Before one of the lesbian genders uses words like misogyny without knowing their meaning, it is not - if the author was a woman and her husband cheated on her, I would say the same. I hope this lyrical digression was helpful to the aforementioned people (joke, I don't care).
Don't DECEIVE YOURSELF. Of course they had sex, otherwise she wouldn't be so stocky. One today, another tomorrow. If you live in a lie - ok. If you're so afraid of being alone ... fry in your own sauce.
She was principled ... to admit that when he put the knife to the bone, she admitted. She's been with him, but she won't admit it to you, because women don't like to run a secure branch while holding on to someone else. He will meet another and stumble again, and you live in delusion. By the way, it's very rude of her to remind you that she thinks of the other. Besides sending her away, you're sorry to see her so unhappy ... I'm outraged. And from both of you. From you because you are stupid, and from your wife because she is impudent. Tighten it at the waist, that it will give you a lot of anger.
She told you what you want to hear!
Ah, the classic in the genre "you don't pay attention to me, that's why I looked for it elsewhere" .... And when she looked for it, did she find it, ajeba? If she is sincere that she has no serious intentions towards this person, she is not sure about him, and especially if sexual intercourse has not taken place, which would complicate things for you, there is a chance for your relationship. My ex-husband and I have experienced it. And he thought he had found his great love, but when it got hot and we divorced, his mistress came out like ... a fart of panties, you'll forgive me for the expression. You can always find thrills aside, but happiness, love and support are hard to come by. And yes, everyday life often lacks the attention it has at the beginning of any relationship. But there are other things I wrote above that are much more valuable than superficial romance.
And? Do you miss her? Enough, look for another.
Um, a lot depends on the relationship, on the person. I also did something similar about half a year ago ... My boyfriend and I were together for 3 years, I endured a lot, I survived thanks to his disgusting nature. and already in one period the glass overflowed. And I started writing to a boy, I've never seen him, just scribbles. Maybe I had. a thrill more than just something new and different from routine. Well, my friend found out we were writing to each other ... we said a lot of things to each other. But we gave ourselves a second chance. Since then he is different, his character is still so nasty, but the things he does for me make me forget his bad traits. Shows more love and respect before sloro accepted me as a thing, something unnecessary. Now things are more harmonious. Now I'm very sorry for this mistake, I blocked the person in question and I don't look away anymore.
Until 14. I found your story interesting, so I will allow myself to ask you a few questions. 1. How long did you write to the other man before your boyfriend found out? 2. Why didn't you tell your friend that you were writing to someone else to startle him and make him realize? 3. How did your friend find out? 4. If your friend hadn't caught you, how would you proceed and what would you think would happen?
Let me ask ladies who don't feel like women, do they make their husbands feel like men? There are weak points in any long-term relationship, but there are people who stand and just wait for such a moment to look away. And of these "principled women" to be most afraid of, it is they who sink and lose their minds in extramarital affairs, forgetting children and men, and most of all their principles. This is exactly what they hope no one will suspect of infidelity. F31
I don't know how at almost 50 you still trust women? I'm 30 and I haven't met a woman I can't trust again for 10 years. For me personally, women are rubbish and I secretly despise them inside me, but that doesn't stop me from having a few women at the moment who think I love them, and I don't really care about them at all, because I know they must be full too. rubbish, that's why I lie to them and I don't dig into it at all. You understand that I once loved someone who broke my heart in a very low way, and since then I have given it back to everyone. But that's the way life is, women are stupid whores who can't offer anything, but they want a lot and are always looking for a better one and they will lose you at the first opportunity. Just waste it and start them, and you don't have much time without it. I have a friend around your age, buy a super expensive car and change stupid women a few a month,
hehe, this generation of fun - there were videos in the tube about this problem to watch it. Because this is not an event as old as the world? And in the tube there is everything about life, first there :) Author, the others told you. At the age of 50, to wonder what exactly happened .... Honestly, do you really think that she "chose" you for something other than security and various amenities that you provide her? Are you so afraid of loneliness that you tend to close your eyes to such great impudence of an old lustful bag, which, believe me, if you were 10-15 years younger, you would still throw yourself on the "carousel". But after so many years of riding, the pumpkin has finally boiled over, that after people scratch their things, they go back to the hut, for sure. Until the next time they decide they lack "attention".
(From the author) she is a typical representative of the zodiac sign Aries. She has the confidence of a beautiful woman, and she is also beautiful and sexy, at least for me. She has a very strong character, I admire her for that. She can certainly handle what's in her head. As for sex, I know her very well, if she had been with him she would never have come back to me. It is principled, and we have talked a lot on this topic. She also swore to her child that she had not done it to him. I believe her. And we sleep in the same bed. He tells me that there is hope that the relationship between us will improve. I strongly believe that things can be fixed thanks to the lesson that life has given us. It certainly takes time. I started to overwhelm her with compliments, trying not to press her. I admit the fact, of course, and for the end. I'm not that naive. I think I'll leave it at that for now. What do you think?
(Again from the author) I would like to share something else. Her decision to be with me is based (in her words) that she wants to live her old life. Another basic thing, we have a house that she built (with common money) with a lot of desire and love. He says that for nothing the world would part with this home, and he could not imagine living in it with another. She couldn't imagine living with this man because she didn't know him. Their love is not consumed. She just knows him based on what he told her. One more thing, before she made her decision, I told her that if she chose him, I would want half the money from the apartment, and she didn't have it. However, he offered to give them to her, but she flatly refused. Analyze please Thanks in advance for the comments
When I read your words that she is principled, that you believe she did not have sex with the other, I thought of my girlfriend. She fucked left and right and had a habit of always bringing her lovers home under the status of family friends. While they drank the brandy, the man proudly explained to her lovers that his wife never lied and how lucky he was with her. She lowered her head modestly — it would be funny if it weren't so sad. Human meanness is boundless. What bothers me even more is the fact that this is a second marriage for both of you. By no means do I want to offend people who remarry, I know that there are scalded people among them who are looking for a second chance, but those I know personally have always divorced because of infidelity. You do not write anything on this issue. And the fact that she didn't have sex with this man, just get him out of your head. Of course she did.
№14, a touching story, only written correctly.
Friend, with age, women grow old and men mature. Fact! She's looking for one last train. If she is dumb, she will do it and she will be independent, shortly after that there will be snot and tears. If she's smart ... Woe to you ... :)
"19. (By the author) she is a typical representative of the zodiac sign Aries." My opinion is that male Aries find it difficult to play roles (I am an Aries), Charlie Chaplin is an exception. BUT !!! Aries women are terribly false! "She also swore to her child that she didn't do it with him. I trust her. And we sleep in the same bed." My wife swears that she has always been faithful to me. It wasn't like that. And for a child, in my case children are trying to interfere with their oaths. I stopped her at the moment. I'm sorry, I don't remember exactly what the children would have sworn, and I can't say for sure that you would question that much. Probably there have been such oaths, and the truth was the opposite, let them share? !! Take her to a lie detector, better than believing in oaths (up to BGN 200).
Same thing .... The last train :)
I'm 16 again. I didn't want to tell stories and stretch out sweets, but I couldn't help myself. I have a girlfriend who has been married for 13 years. her husband's first marriage and he was the only man in her life. A very "principled" woman kept repeating that she wondered and wondered how people could cheat, how women could bear to be touched by another, etc. Her husband went abroad and she you started writing with someone and so, as your wife could not imagine being with another, living with another and in general a lot of morality, a lot of things. So writing, writing after a date and sex on the first date. I don't care at all that married women have met another man so many times and they only looked at each other as if they were 14 years old. And my girlfriend did not imagine many things, but now only her lover imagines is not that she lives with him but various other things. Even married women can't imagine living with someone else in your house, they know they have to tell you that. He certainly imagines doing other things, otherwise why would he think so much of the other that he will even be noticed. It's very good that you trust her to hope she's telling the truth, but she doubts me a lot. F31
The novel: A middle-aged fool. Expect the sequel :)
Take a bottle of Coca-Cola, tie it up and start shoving it inside until tears flow and drive her away ... what is this thing, he loved her, she didn't cheat on him, in principle it was 6-7 meetings GOD, but when you are 50 and you know that there are no others you will tolerate ...
Son, how do you have to be told that this slut is lying? He will scatter everything in the world just to keep his "investment" (home, roof, stupidity) and not go outside. Ask yourself the question: if you really know her so well (she wouldn't come back if she did it with him, she had principles), then why are you here? Why do you doubt her? Why not anticipate this? Do you believe her so fanatically? No, and you shouldn't! You don't know her, my friend on the street. Do what you want, your life is yours. You already know what she's capable of, ask yourself if she'll do it again after you're so confident in her. Life is too short to keep statistics on failed promises and disappointments - once is enough.
Of course, she had sex with him, she was just afraid to admit that she didn't eat farts. Number 30 told you right. The question is what do you want. You can go on with it and hope that things don't escalate to parting or play it on a wounded honor and break up, hoping the next one has a virgin belt (iromize). Just understand that we are all human and we want attention, diversity and emotion. Eventually, although it is difficult, you can try to make a lemonade from the lemon served to you, figuratively speaking, namely to ask for a threesome or something like that.
(by the author) 10 months passed. in the end we did not part, everything is going in the right direction so far. Love and understanding. However, I always try to know where he is, so far I have not felt anything like having another relationship or something that hides. I open my eyes to 4. Regarding infidelity, in a conversation she swore to her daughter that she did not have an intimate relationship, said that she was sorry and ashamed of her act ....
Don't believe her oaths - do you know what I heard when I knew the truth.
Author, as I read only you and believe in the explanations of the impudent patch. Not bad, people believe in more absurd things. Now everything is supposed to be flowers and roses, but you open your eyes to 4? You imitate family happiness and lie to yourself that if you don't mess with that one, everything is ok. Yes, but she didn't cheat on you emotionally, if he hadn't revealed her, she would have passed on a physical level. Being honest and principled, why didn't she tell you, but learned it from her correspondence? You are naive, to say the least, that you will be offended. This with the zodiac sign, it just breaks ... :))) Drive, you are not the first, you will not be the last.
Author, whatever it was. We are human - everything happens. You want to stay with this woman and you love her, she has also decided that she wants you to stay together. You both want to grow old next to each other, you have invested a lot in your relationship, you know each other, of course, you live together harmoniously - this is not a given in a relationship and obviously you both value your lifestyle. I think a change of atmosphere and romance will do you good to freshen up your relationship a bit. Why not book a surprise or excursion. There are certainly places that you love and associate with good memories or brand new destinations that will be interesting for both of you. Go somewhere for at least a few days, rest, relax. Take long walks, take her to a romantic dinner, watch the sunset, visit interesting sights. You will see,
I support numbers 21 and 26. A person who does not cheat does not blow his left and right, but simply does not. Exactly those who blow it, in 90% of cases do it the most. She, the woman, rightly said that she did not imagine living with the other. This is probably completely true. Infidels of both sexes almost always have a nice and cozy place to go home and a naive partner who beats like an ox, just to please them in everything. Such people never divorce. They just have a few lovers and they don't care.
№ 37 - I don't understand people like you with what happened. Either you are without your own dignity or you are sheepish naive. Unless you are like the author's wife. I think the latter is most likely when I read what advice you give him. After 6 months of flirting and mocking his trust, reward her with excursions, vacations, dinners, sunsets and sights. Honestly, I'm sick of such "positivism." Maybe he should shower her with expensive jewelry for the good she did for him and refresh the relationship? If I were her husband, I would refresh her with a jester in the false year. And you lie a lot when you think that such infidelity, no matter physical or emotional, is ever forgotten. Because this is not a nuisance, as you call it, but a betrayal.