Hello. I am a 22-year-old girl and I have been working for a company for a year. From the very beginning, I was the black sheep simply because I am the youngest and I look good, innocent and defenseless. I also made mistakes, like any new worker. My colleagues began to treat me with contempt, even rudeness, and I did not retaliate because I did not want to deepen things. I pretended to be unaffected and that there was no problem, but in fact I was crying in the toilets. That was my main mistake. One of them began to invent my actions and words and spread them among my colleagues. Of course, I denied these things because they were not true, but no one believed me, because this colleague was before me in this job, and she is in a higher position than mine. In fact, he doesn't like me and intrigues me to get kicked out. Her attempts never stopped, but a year later I'm still in the company. However, things got rough. More and more things began to be copied to my address by most of my colleagues in my field. I had already tightened up a lot and became more responsible and dedicated to my work. I dare say that I work properly, I am strict in my duties. And yet, of course, it happens that I make small mistakes, even rarely. But when they get used to you not getting up, they obviously don't even want to see you get better. I try to prove myself to them every day, but they don't see it because they are busy seeing only my mistakes. And when someone else messes up something they just laugh and no problem. And I am the only one who follows all the set rules. My colleagues do not follow them, as if they are just for me. And yet I am afraid and I stick. But just whatever I do for them will always be insufficient, they will never see my diligence. And in my personal life I am not like that, on the contrary - I oppose, I am brave, vital. And the moment I cross the threshold of work, all self-confidence evaporates from me, I feel crushed and unnecessary. Since I know that the prevailing advice will be to change the company - I can not (personal reasons). I will be grateful to anyone who took the time to tell my story. :) who took his time for my story. :) who took his time for my story. :)
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Why are you still standing there? Are the jobs over? What you do is not heroism
That's the way it is, in years to come you will think differently. Do not underestimate people while you are resting talking on the phone about you. Do not underestimate the ego, no matter how you see the person, and especially older people who know everything, but in general, if you do not follow yourself, you become part of it, and learn from these people. M29
It's just a job ... stop giving work that meaning. Just change it.
You'd better look for another job or enroll to study something. I was crushed at work just like you and I just left. I started studying and that's it ... There will almost always be rubbish in the workplace. M 20
It's not so strange that a fellow boss crushes you periodically. Many managers are like that, even to edify others.
The author: If I could, I would change my job. Circumstances at the moment do not allow me and I have to be there. To number 3 - That's right, it's just a job, but I spend more time there with these people than in my personal life and with friends. In fact, people live at work and do other things from time to time.
Personal reasons? Well, if it's for money, they'll give you a salary everywhere. Do you need to waste your nerves and health, suffer bad treatment and feel inferior to the grass? Look for another job. You will always find something for the same working hours, for more or less the same salary. Don't wait for a moment when you will cry in the evening that you are at work in the morning. You haven't joined the work team, now you are a lone wolf and there is a woman who intrigues at your expense. How long do you think you will last? You still go to the bathroom crying like you're a teenager from an American movie. If you haven't joined these people in a year and you haven't won at least a little sympathy, then it won't happen. It's only a matter of time before your nerves start beating out of the workplace. You will become forever sour and gloomy, you will quarrel with everyone you meet, you will have the feeling that you are still misunderstood. Jobs as much as you want, but your mental health is one.
Just look for a new job and move without having to interrupt your work experience and run out of income accordingly. There's no reason to stay there, I just don't believe you. Your health is most important.
Hello! Everyone has advised you to change jobs, but I don't think that's right. That's exactly what they want - to surrender and leave. Prove to them that this will not happen, especially since you have been there for a year. Ignore them, watch them from the sidelines, and when they make a remark to you, turn on an intrigue, or make a rumor about you, just make fun of them. Do not show weakness. Are they gods that you have to like? !! We go there for work, money to deal with somehow, not to please Dragancho and Petkanchin. Even if you change jobs, imagine that there is another girl in the same situation in your place? And will he have to leave? And so on? !! It will be difficult for you, I know, but try. I wish you all the best and success!
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