Hello, I never believed that I would write in shares. no. Let me share my story ... I work as an aircraft mechanic and travel quite often, I arrived in Lithuania in September working for a large airline (freelancer-aircraft mechanic) together with my colleagues from my previous job. We are staying in a nice hotel where mostly young girls work. A month after my arrival I started talking to one of them, working at the reception, and I saw that she also has an interest, to be honest a lot of people had to her .... Anyway, things happened and we went secretly, so that she has no problems in her work. At first, understandably, she was quite withdrawn, it was obvious that she was afraid of me. Ah, here is the moment to share that I am 29 years old, I look good, normal, with a sense of humor, I have never had a problem with women ... Anyway, over time I realized that she has some barriers caused by a problematic relationship 3 years ago with her first love and after that she had a short-term relationship with only one other boy, I dare believe her. I don't know how and what happened, but I fell in love with her, she is modest with big blue eyes, I sink into them every time ... But she didn't have what I saw in her, even though her eyes were in love. , as if she was putting up barriers, I work a lot 6 days a week for 12 hours, but I was always ready to take a taxi or set fire to my car and tired, sick no matter what I wanted to see her ... We had problems because of her attitude, I I thought there was another, that she didn't care and in the end it escalated so that the day before I went home for Christmas and New Year in Bulgaria we broke up. I realized how much I miss her and despite my pride I did everything I could to give me another chance - I wrote to her, we talked. In the end, she was inclined to see me after the holidays, I was flying in the clouds ... The day I traveled, neither news nor a bone from her, I see her online but she doesn't write, she doesn't care, it hurt me a lot, I finally asked her what's going on, she told me that she just doesn't care so much about me: ((It was a blow with a wet sock, it just pissed me off. We had an appointment to see each other the next day, she was out of town, it turned out that mother her health problems, I immediately calmed her down, offered help, I was ready to light up and go to her ... The next day she wrote to see me before my shift, if I could see each other accordingly and to my surprise, she was looking at me. in her eyes, she had made tea, cookies, and when I asked her if she was happy to see me, she said- Yes, I am happy and she hugged and kissed me !! Happy end, yeah great ... but no. The next few days I was on night shifts and we met at the hotel, the first two days everything was great, looks, jokes and suddenly he stopped writing to me, he stopped smiling. I was resting on Friday, she on Saturday, so we could spend Friday together, I sent her a message to ask her if she had any plans to see me and ... seen. I wrote to her again, is everything okay? Only then answer with the dry, let me tell you on Thursday, are you ok? Accordingly, I went crazy, I immediately started why you behave like that, how I deserved it, is there another and such questions. She obviously didn't like my behavior and said that everything was fine, but she was doing some things at home, talking to a friend of hers and what I wanted so much ... It hurt me a hell of a lot, I didn't answer anything ... the next day it happened to me dumb that I was still having problems due to lack of attention, which irritated her, and I went to her, apologized, my eyes watered. This is happening on Wednesday, she didn't say anything, she didn't write anything ... On Thursday, I already obviously felt that something was happening and I went to her at the reception when no one would ask her what was happening on Friday, she was clicking on phone, dropped it a second and told me "we are done, thats all", I just froze !! I asked her what it was on Sunday, why she was doing it and she said that there was nothing to talk about ... I went to work, there was no way my heart would jump out. I couldn't stand the evening - I wrote her what happened, why are you doing it, what did I do wrong? !! She replied, I'm sorry, just like I told you I don't care much - that's ...
Which I know is not because I've dated enough women and I know that look, I wrote her to tell me the truth, in the end, in my opinion, in order to shut up, she said that she just doesn't like me and that's ... Wonderful thing, you give the fool (this is me) hope and then you stab him to the bone !!! I stopped, I still had to leave a little dignity, although I crossed all boundaries and I thought I exposed myself. The next day I met one of her best friends, who I know likes me as a person, and I asked her in plain text, what should I do because I am emotionally crushed? She told me that she would ask and write to me, after 2 days I received an answer from the young lady's friend with the butcher's knife that at this stage it was better not to do anything ... The girl I am in love with was quoted as "She is lost a bit "and if we continue our relationship we will hurt each other, so I asked about" I don't care about you ", she told me that this is her way to hide, she doesn't really feel that way, but she deliberately chooses this time ... And now 7-8 days have passed, I changed my attitude abruptly, I just pass her like a fast train, she's blocked everywhere, I don't even look at her when she's at work, in the beginning, I saw her watching me pass her, now she also plays a role, knowing that we are returning from work hiding in the room or laughing out loud, but one of my colleagues who drives the official bus told me that according to him she didn't look like before, she was sad, she didn't have a smile like before ...
This thing is hardly related to me, I just want to hear an opinion from women, what kind of situation is this. I've had a lot of relationships, I've been cheated on, I've created, I've been hurt, I've done it too, but very rarely have I been willing to do anything to be with a certain woman as is the case, and to her "just she doesn't care. " And I was ready to invite her to Bulgaria, my contract is until May ... these are 4 months in which I either have to hate those blue eyes from the bottom of my soul (I know this thing) or I don't know, -soon I do not see much choice in this situation. The other thing I want to say is that there are comfortable flights, I dare say that I am doing quite well financially, money is not a problem at all, nor to travel, nothing is a problem and she knows it, except .... "I dont care "- this is the problem !!!
Thanks in advance to those who read my story and sorry for the spelling, after a night shift I write, I just pour out my pain, if any lady has an idea of such a situation, let her share her experience :) in which I either have to hate those blue eyes from the bottom of my soul (I know this thing) or I don't know, rather I don't see much choice in this situation. The other thing I want to say is that there are comfortable flights, I dare say that I am doing quite well financially, money is not a problem at all, nor to travel, nothing is a problem and she knows it, except ....
"I dont care "- this is the problem !!! Thanks in advance to those who read my story and sorry for the spelling, after a night shift I write, I just pour out my pain, if any lady has an idea of such a situation, let her share her experience :) in which I either have to hate those blue eyes from the bottom of my soul (I know this thing) or I don't know, rather I don't see much choice in this situation. The other thing I want to say is that there are comfortable flights, I dare say that I am doing quite well financially, money is not a problem at all, nor to travel, nothing is a problem and she knows it, except ....
"I dont care "- this is the problem !!! Thanks in advance to those who read my story and sorry for the spelling, after a night shift I write, I just pour out my pain, if any lady has an idea of such a situation, let her share her experience :) nothing is a problem and she knows it except .... "I dont care" - that's the problem !!! Thanks in advance to those who read my story and sorry for the spelling, after a night shift I write, I just pour out my pain, if any lady has an idea of such a situation, let her share her experience :) nothing is a problem and she knows it except .... "I dont care" - that's the problem !!! Thanks in advance to those who read my story and sorry for the spelling, after a night shift I write, I just pour out my pain, if any lady still has an idea of such a situation, let her share her experience :)
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Abe boy, that's the mentality, what do you expect? Get away from this woman. Leave her. You will return here, find a Bulgarian woman. She told you that she didn't care, you read in her eyes that it wasn't like that. Come on, please don't be fooled. It's just that at the moment there was no one else at hand, now she must have found a more suitable one. More attractive financially. I'm sorry for you - a good, decent boy, and so humiliated for a woman who does not deserve it.
The woman had no feelings, for her it was just an adventure with a stranger. Don't delude yourself that she was in love, a person in love doesn't do things like "your love". You are currently paying for past mistakes in relationships.
Man, won't you mother explain to you what kind of piranhas these republics are. You're a low ball for this girl. Probably suffering from a much better party, a foreigner probably. As you dived into her hotel, do you know how many more have passed? Thank you for not sticking to you.
There is another 120%, another whom she truly loves, but obviously not mutual, just as you obviously love her, but she does not love you. Don't deal with her anymore, leave her, you will never be happy together, even if he finally cuts her off and she goes with you as a backup option. Such love is not love but poison, stop poisoning yourself, close the page and move on, the future ahead of you is bright with this profession, so do not despair, forget it.
I was expecting this type of comments ... Comment 1 in the end said something very wise - she doesn't deserve me !!! Comment 2, I think I really pay for what I did before ... Regarding the financial side, she doesn't care a gram, imagine there are such women. I also went out with a Russian and a Ukrainian woman, believe me, it is obvious from a kilometer what they are looking for - they are looking at the clock, they are looking at the car. The girl has no one else, simply because she does not allow anyone near her and is conscientious, but she is just very hurt .. I guess her ex-boyfriend has reached out, except for the piles of infidelity. Otherwise, from the type of women prostitutes - no problem to find at any time, I drive a very conspicuous car, clothes, watch (everything that gold diggers look at), but I'm not looking for that, I'm not like that ... Anyway , Thank you after all From the "fool" with a broken heart :)
"4 months in which I either have to hate those blue eyes from the bottom of my soul (I know this thing)" - this shows what a commodity you are. Women feel and cut receipts on time. You were just a jerk, she got what she needed! Where you work, don't show off your set, it will eat your bread!
Tip - get rid of it!
You can't understand the northern people. The way of thinking, morality is radically different. For them, practicality, coldness, alienation are a way of life. We have a familiar family of Poles living near Lithuania. For years we went on vacation together in Morocco, Greece, Egypt, they came to visit home. We were in Krakow for a semester, my husband is lecturing at the university. We called them to see each other for coffee and they invited us to travel so many kilometers for a coffee :). Is she mercantile? Obviously, aircraft mechanics take good money, there is no need to look around, she knows everything about TVBV and your job position. 'You are young, be careful with foreigners. Before you become attached, talk to colleagues about their value system, about the way they behave, the emotional side ...
I don't want to judge, but women are the stronger sex precisely because of men like you ... Beauty doesn't work by force. While reading all the time, I think that only you want this relationship ... That's why I don't take down women or flirt. It turns out that only I want it and I'm kind of an unwanted intruder. If there is an interest to prosecute them as a judge, a contractor prosecuting a debtor is a humiliation. I don't think she cares about that gram. It is possible after he loses you to appreciate you. But if you get along this time, be the one who should be followed, let the power be in it and make it prove to you ... Despite the song, there is no love, but come on. Love is complementing was - I to you you to me. Complementarity.
As a mechanic, you have nothing to offer her, only with a vision and a sense of humor. And you are 29 - neither experienced enough in life, nor young and fresh. And when you come here to brag, one of them dumps you and you do it to the great drama.
All the people gave you adequate advice to think about, and you instead "refute" every single comment, why did you write in shares? Comment 11, you wrote it clearly and precisely, yes we women are the stronger sex, because there are many naive people like you who see with their own eyes that they are played and lied to, but do not want to believe and live in their own world, in which they think they are loved and desired, so they do not stop giving up. I do not want to comment on women from other countries, but I fully support comment 2, which he explained to you - She is full, you were something like a "thrill", not because she loves you or has feelings, but because you are a foreigner different from her. Everyone wants to have a relationship at least once with a person from another ethnic group. Even if she was hurt, she wouldn't do that to you,
Run away. Another from the hotel. Beautiful, young women, but they are always replaced and steam is the leading factor. With so much to send from this relationship, do you expect a rosy future? He does not fly by eyes, hair, body ... there must be attraction, but he is looking for a Man, not another one. Obviously this woman is one of those.
It seems to me that he is "testing" you, testing you. Precisely because her heart was broken, she tries her best to protect herself from hurting her, and she will torment you until she is convinced that you are sincere and that you will not use her and throw her away as a thing. Maybe it's a self-defense mechanism. Many people who have trauma from failed relationships behave in this infantile way. Recently, an acquaintance of mine admitted to me that she had feelings for a man who loved her and waited for her for a year, but for fear of being abandoned again (her boyfriend cheated on her and kicked her out of their apartment), she pretended not to share. his feelings. He, on the other hand, fell out of love with waiting, darling, just when she was about to confess to him and try to get married, what an irony ... If I'm wrong - your girl is nothing more than a selfish, sadistic, cattle,
For the first time I read such a stupid statement - I'm referring to number 12. I listen and I can't believe my eyes!
Well, when she told you that she didn't care about you - it was true, and with her actions she showed it to you. She didn't let you down, so it's ridiculous to feel betrayed. After that confession, you should have left her alone and not become annoying. It hurts when it's not shared, but learn a lesson and don't put the cart in front of the horse next time. a female opinion
by the Author, some of the comments show that you did not understand the story. Another part is 100% right. Nor do I intend to brag, point out or anything. I shared facts and just poured out my soul at a time when it was quite hard for me ... I did not look for it, nor anything, of course I will not expose myself and I push where I am not wanted !!! I took off my pink glasses and I see the situation more clearly, the girl changed shifts, a few days off she probably has a third person involved. The reason for getting here is clear, she doesn't care enough, I read a thought on this occasion "I had thousands of reasons to leave and I decided to stay, you had thousands of reasons to stay and decided to leave" ... This is , I am not her man, respectively she is not mine. It hurts a lot, but for the betrayed trust, so that the male part can be calm, I will not expose them, I continue to ignore it and we don't notice it anyway. It will be interesting when he sees me with another, although it hardly matters, but no matter how this door is closed for me, another opens - it always happens. Thanks to everyone for the tips :)