Hi, I'm a girl of 18 and I haven't had a boyfriend so far. Lately I feel kind of very lonely and I feel like I need sex, I don't even know how to describe it. I'm not repulsive or anything, but I just don't know how to deal with boys. I am very worried and I have the feeling that I have some barriers and as soon as I feel some intimacy of the opposite sex I lower them. I don't know how to be more relaxed and unobtrusive. And I'm not the type of person to hang out with someone for one night ..
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Relax everything with your time until you find a serious friend you can satisfy yourself
I fully understand you and I have never found a solution. I think it comes from a lack of experience and intimacy with people of the opposite sex. And sometimes, when you like someone but are shy, you deliberately avoid them out of anxiety. At least that's how it is with me. Good luck!!! F19
Yes, this is the problem: "I have some barriers and as soon as I feel some intimacy of the opposite sex, I lower them." This in turn leads to a feeling of rejection in the interested person and insult as a result of which he ceases to be interested in you. Maybe stable amounts of a well-known social lubricant will help? Yes, according to my observations, nothing happens otherwise, most people are too stiff and congested to relax and do something. And what's going on? Well, nothing happens.
Are there people you are interested in, so to speak, intimately? "Maybe it's time for you to get in touch and the rest of it will come from there." Basically, a person who has not been intimate with the opposite sex for a long time, really begins to need love, hugs, kisses, sex, etc. - That is - you feel completely normal. I recommend that you transfer this energy to someone you find attractive, and from there you know how to act. If necessary, watch porn, but focus on communicating with the opposite sex. Even so, the boys keep muttering that no one is paying attention to them.