Hello! I want to share my experiences during my vacation .. It may be silly, but I feel worried and have no one to tell. I'm from a small town. I have been living and working in Sofia for many years. I am 32, sporty and cheerful. I was tired of the stress in the capital and decided to go to my parents' hometown during my vacation. We have a great park at the foot of Rila. I started going there every day, I train in the morning, then I rest in a nice place near the river. Yes, I feel charged by nature, but I noticed that people are whispering about me, they comment on me in a negative direction. Personally, I do not know those who go for a walk in the park, because as I said, I have not lived in the city for years. I arrive by car for a short time and return to Sofia. And so I hear from many countries comments on my address, which are already starting to irritate me. I just want to rest, I'm not looking for anything or anyone in this town, I love nature and this park. I relax, I read, once a butterfly landed on my arm ... But these vicious comments like how old I am, why I'm alone, why I pretended to be a teenager, I can't take it anymore. I'm not comfortable leaving, my mother will be offended .. I tell myself not to pay attention, but when once again I hear something behind my back, I feel sick .. I know that my topic is not interesting, this is one shout in space, I know that there is a lot of aggression in people and everyone wants to get it on someone. What do you think, write your opinion and advice on how to deal with gossip and negative people. Thank you! But I can't stand these vicious comments like how old I am, why I'm alone, why I pretended to be a teenager. I'm not comfortable leaving, my mother will be offended .. I tell myself not to pay attention, but when once again I hear something behind my back, I feel sick .. I know that my topic is not interesting, this is one shout in space, I know that there is a lot of aggression in people and everyone wants to get it on someone. What do you think, write your opinion and advice on how to deal with gossip and negative people. Thank you! But I can't stand these vicious comments like how old I am, why I'm alone, why I pretended to be a teenager. I'm not comfortable leaving, my mother will be offended .. I tell myself not to pay attention, but when once again I hear something behind my back, I feel sick .. I know that my topic is not interesting, this is one shout in space, I know that there is a lot of aggression in people and everyone wants to get it on someone. What do you think, write your opinion and advice on how to deal with gossip and negative people. Thank you! that there is a lot of aggression in people and everyone wants to get it on someone. What do you think, write your opinion and advice on how to deal with gossip and negative people. Thank you! that there is a lot of aggression in people and everyone wants to get it on someone. What do you think, write your opinion and advice on how to deal with gossip and negative people. Thank you!
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I think they just envy you. You don't have to pay attention to people's stories at all. I know it's cliché, but it's true. I know women who have children in their 30s and are terribly well-maintained, go to the gym, for me it's not pretending to be a teenager, it's just taking care of yourself. If you feel good about it, you don't have to care at all about what people will say about you. At least, a woman comes who lives in Sofia, looks good, is supported, what can the envious say? I am a woman myself and I would be happy to do the same as you one day and feel good. I guess it's hard for you, I also don't like such things, especially when you don't need to hear them, people just look at you and you already feel the negative energy. Think and take care of yourself, this should not bother you in any way! Whatever you do, people will always be dissatisfied. Personally, I have encountered this many times, I have heard whispers, but I have never taken it to heart. Yes, I cried, I wondered why they talk like that, judge without knowing, it just doesn't make sense. We humans have become extremely angry and that will not change. A matter of upbringing. Grit your teeth and don't care. Well, 20 years old.
So it is in this city (and in small towns in general), everyone is interested in the lives of others without getting into his work!
Hello, most people in small towns are like that, there are decent people who have decided to stay in the city for the sake of peace, but they are few and gather in groups with each other. I am from a small town and a country of the so-called urban gossip and people full of pessimism. Don't pay attention to them, they are just congested, forget what it's like to be happy with the little things in life. You say that you live in Sofia, you should be even a little relieved that you will return home soon, go out and train and in general, if you hear a bad story, move to a place where you will not hear them. You are now more attractive in the city and you are interesting to them, do not take it personally, there is no logic but there are people who do so study and they are very interested in the lives of others, because theirs is gray. "Energy vampires" as they are called in Psychology. P.S. Head up and don't care. Lisa
"It may be stupid" I've read so far and I think up and down it summarizes the essence of the problem. More importantly, it summarizes the author's view of the "problem". And as we are here ...
To the author - just do not listen to them. There is no other way to bury yourself. To the commentators - I do not think that this behavior is typical of people from small towns. It's the same in Sofia, so it's up to the people. They are extremely aggressive and pour out their aggression as much as they can. I have no desire to retaliate, it is not mine, I do not feel good entering into a dialogue with such people. It happens that when I keep my composure, I say smart and things on the spot, but in most cases - I do not stay calm, but fall into explanations, and such people (negative and aggressive), just waiting ...
I used to play sports in the countryside and a neighbor made fun of the fact that his daughters didn't do such a thing, they did things, but they didn't. Rural guild. He must have meant their tumultuous life with boyfriends. Well, he left suddenly, one of his daughters after him too, the other alive and well, but she also paid a high price to take care of her sick mother-in-law. The author just didn't care. Life shows what awaits the little souls.
Rejoice. If the villagers think of you, you have succeeded. You work, you rest, you don't show off, you don't harass. If someone slanders you, it is because his / her intellect is in the one-digit numbers.
Hi, I'm glad to see that there are people like you. I am a 25-year-old youth and I recently moved from a big city to a village. I'm very well, I walk in the woods, I listen to the river, the birds in the morning, the crickets in the evening. People around them are interested in what a good-looking young man does with his life. I heard all sorts of scathing and cunning comments. I'm not trying to convince Suljo and Puljo that I like it or to be angry that they don't approve of what I'm doing. I just say to myself: Everyone has the right to an opinion, so much freedom is allowed. My neurotic neighbor is unlikely to care if I express my opinion out loud that she is ruining her child with her neurosis. Why should I care that he thinks I'm weird because I walk under a tree by the river? It annoys me that these people who make comments don't realize that just as they don't sleep, so do I. Do not pay attention not to others, but to your thoughts, because their attacks come to you in this form. In general, everything is in the thoughts: envy, complexes, anger. So approach the problem indirectly. You have no influence on people's opinion, but you have a choice on what you focus on. Choose to thank them for making you stronger. Thanks to my countrymen, I am no longer interested in opinions at all. However, these people do not give you advice out of love and compassion. Tomorrow, if you are not alone in the park, but with a man and a child, will they be happy for you? Aman from "benefactors" Choose to thank them for making you stronger. Thanks to my countrymen, I am no longer interested in opinions at all. However, these people do not give you advice out of love and compassion. Tomorrow, if you are not alone in the park, but with a man and a child, will they be happy for you? Aman from "benefactors" Choose to thank them for making you stronger. Thanks to my countrymen, I am no longer interested in opinions at all. However, these people do not give you advice out of love and compassion. Tomorrow, if you are not alone in the park, but with a man and a child, will they be happy for you? Aman from "benefactors"
This is typical for people from small towns and villages. You live in Sofia and this makes them think that you live better than them, you have more opportunities and they sit in the small town and lead a monotonous life. When someone starts thinking and doing things that are not typical for most people, such tales are told and the one who separates from the "herd" starts thinking crazy.
1. They are Bulgarians, and this is more than inherent in our people's psychology. We are bilious, nasty and envious. 2. They are from a small town, and this in itself multiplies the factor "what does Woote" do? Do not put them on at all and know that if someone talks about you, then you are more than the individual. Brother.
5, but Sofia is full of peasants - it is normal to be there.
n.10 is a typical example of a person full of negative energy. It floats over his head like a dark cloud and you will notice it for miles. People like him hang out in cafes all day and sow wisdom.
Until 13 Then be careful, when he comes out, so that no lightning strikes him ...
And why do you consider the words in your address to be negative? Or do you think it's bad to be alone at 32? I think you are looking for what people will say about you and you judge for yourself that what was said was negative and vicious. The reality is that there is nothing wrong with being alone, nor is it bad to be 32, even more so it is not bad to feel young / teenager /. If she was really cheerful, and just wanted to rest, and wasn't looking for anything or anyone in this town, you wouldn't hear their comments at all, you wouldn't even pay attention to what people were saying. But you seek approval, so you listen to people's talk and when you hear what really bothers you, that you are alone, for example, you define it as malice. I don't see anything wrong with a 32-year-old woman not having a husband and being alone, if you thought like me you wouldn't accept the comment, why is she alone, as vicious and negative. The problem is in your TV!
Apparently you really left the town in question a long time ago and that's why you forgot what the people in such settlements are like. They're not bad, but their lives are so boring and monotonous that their only entertainment is commenting on others, especially if it's someone new or someone they haven't seen in years. Because the neighbor can talk to her as much as they want, but she lives there and it's not interesting, look, but when the "Sofia girl" appears, who hasn't been seen for a long time, then there's just no way we can miss looking at her from top to bottom. downstairs, of course with a slight envy and not to discuss at length everything from her hair, through her clothes, to the fact that she is unmarried and instead of hanging out with us in cafes, oh, she reads horror in the park. You know, you've just been something like a celebrity for a while, however, none of these gossips would admit that they secretly dream of being in your place, so it is more convenient to humiliate you by convincing others, but also yourself, that in fact your life is not so good, because your dress is crazy, your hair is one-of-a-kind, you don't have a family, etc. Don't impress them so much. If you stay longer, they will find new topics and new people to discuss.