Hello! I rarely write here, but I don't know who to turn to. Let's say I'm 20 years old. I had an abortion in the summer, it was my biggest mistake I would never forgive myself, but I was under mental harassment ... Anyway, that's another topic. The truth is that since then I constantly refuse my friend, even when we try, I feel pain or imagine that there is one .. I do not know .. I am uncomfortable, I am even disgusted ... Even when he touches me there I get one nasty and disgusting .. I have no problem, however, to give myself pleasure .. Please, I'm crazy already .. I want real advice on how to act, should I visit my doctor, am I a psychologist ..!? I will also be grateful to someone who really understands to advise me!
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You will have to move on anyway. There is no point in blaming yourself or imagining what it could have been. We all make mistakes, but we must be strong and learn our lessons so that we do not repeat them. In your case, if your boyfriend has lost your trust in some way during this period or your fear of an unwanted pregnancy will block your desire to be close to another person. I think you need someone you trust. Of course, a condom also has a calming effect. A psychologist, if necessary, is a good alternative. Check for phones. Good luck!!!
Isn't that your friend's problem? As soon as a man starts to disgust you, remove him, from personal experience I tell you ...
You just had a big trauma and it's normal in my opinion. Talk to him, tell him you're not ready yet and you need time anyway. If you are comfortable with the idea, visit a psychologist. It can help you overcome these feelings.