Girl, 14 years old. I come from a small town and study in an "elite" high school. I expected to make friends, but unfortunately that didn't happen. I have been without friends since grades 4-5 and everyone at school insults and mocks me. In 4th grade I moved to 2 different schools. I had friends in my first school, but I had problems with the class, so my parents decided it was best to move to another school. I was in 4th grade then, but I also had problems with some of the teachers. I moved to a second school. For the first few months, everything was great, but then gradually everyone started insulting me. I don't know why, really. I have financial means (well, my family is not the richest, but it is not poor), but I have never abused or taken advantage of it. In fact, I have never bragged about my parents' abilities and I have never considered money to be a determining factor. I also have excellent grades, but I'm not a jerk and I often go out. The problem is that I am always with my mother, because there is no one else. It's great with her, I've always had a great time and I'm so grateful to have her, but you know what I mean. However, with friends it is different. In general, everyone makes fun of me because of my appearance. I'm not fat, nor who knows how ugly. I just don't know why. But I have absolutely no self-confidence. I'm just a deluded girl, curled up in a corner and under constant pressure, what will be another mockery from my classmates. My whole class (except 2-3) is damn nasty, but I try to ignore them, but it's a lot harder, as it sounds. I don't want to bother my parents with nonsense and worry them further. The problem is that the boy, because of whom everyone insults me, is back in my class. It's getting unbearable and I just can't stand it. I do not know what to do. I don't have a gram of self-confidence and maybe that's the problem with not being able to find friends. I am too shy and worried about everyone, because my classmates always make fun of me. As I always say, I'm not kidding. They laugh at my every action, my every word, whatever I say, just absolutely everything. I just can't stand it, I'm desperate and I don't know what to do. Summer is coming, and I have to be alone again, because apart from my mother I have no one to go out with. I'm desperately desperate and I'm just fed up !!! Thank you all for your time, as my story is not short at all, but I just had to share it all with someone. Thanks in advance to the editors for my published story and I apologize for the spelling mistakes!
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My feeling is very familiar. Honestly, I never thought that I would ever sit down to write something here, but I have always tried to help people and I would be very happy to help you, I sympathize with you and I have been through this. From 1st to 6th grade it was like that, I didn't talk to anyone in my class and they made fun of me a lot for my appearance and everything, I admit I may not have been beautiful then, but I've always wondered about such people who make fun of others. By the way, I'm 16 now. So years ago I was trying to understand why this is so and why they do it, and the answer is that the problem isn't just with you, that way they just feel stronger. All you have to do is not worry about opposing them. I know it's a lot harder than it sounds. Before I enrolled in high school, I was worried it would be the same there, but now everything is great, I met a lot of people I like. Maybe over the years, but I learned that in this life - a life in which everyone is trying to stand out in any way or you are a leader or they weave. Now no one tells me anything and I have friends for whom I am very grateful. Most people who don't know him even think I'm evil or conceited because I don't pay attention to almost anyone, but that's because we choose the people I want to communicate with. Everyone is different, I couldn't tell you what to do because I don't know if you're capable and strong enough to do it. Maybe try to befriend someone or just ask them what their problem is. And think about yourself, that is, I want to say about your future, one day you will achieve much more than these evil people. I met a lot of people I liked. Maybe over the years, but I learned that in this life - a life in which everyone is trying to stand out in any way or you are a leader or they weave. Now no one tells me anything and I have friends for whom I am very grateful. Most people who don't know him even think I'm evil or conceited because I don't pay attention to almost anyone, but that's because we choose the people I want to communicate with. Everyone is different, I couldn't tell you what to do because I don't know if you're capable and strong enough to do it. Maybe try to befriend someone or just ask them what their problem is. And think about yourself, that is, I want to say about your future, one day you will achieve much more than these evil people. I met a lot of people I liked. Maybe over the years, but I learned that in this life - a life in which everyone is trying to stand out in any way or you are a leader or they weave. Now no one tells me anything and I have friends for whom I am very grateful. Most people who don't know him even think I'm evil or conceited because I don't pay attention to almost anyone, but that's because we choose the people I want to communicate with. Everyone is different, I couldn't tell you what to do because I don't know if you're capable and strong enough to do it. Maybe try to befriend someone or just ask them what their problem is. And think about yourself, that is, I want to say about your future, one day you will achieve much more than these evil people. that in this life - a life in which everyone is trying to stand out in any way or you are a leader or they weave. Now no one tells me anything and I have friends for whom I am very grateful. Most people who don't know him even think I'm evil or conceited because I don't pay attention to almost anyone, but that's because we choose the people I want to communicate with. Everyone is different, I couldn't tell you what to do because I don't know if you're capable and strong enough to do it. Maybe try to befriend someone or just ask them what their problem is. And think about yourself, that is, I want to say about your future, one day you will achieve much more than these evil people. that in this life - a life in which everyone is trying to stand out in any way or you are a leader or they weave. Now no one tells me anything and I have friends for whom I am very grateful. Most people who don't know him even think I'm evil or conceited because I don't pay attention to almost anyone, but that's because we choose the people I want to communicate with. Everyone is different, I couldn't tell you what to do because I don't know if you're capable and strong enough to do it. Maybe try to befriend someone or just ask them what their problem is. And think about yourself, that is, I want to say about your future, one day you will achieve much more than these evil people. Most people who don't know him even think I'm evil or conceited because I don't pay attention to almost anyone, but that's because we choose the people I want to communicate with. Everyone is different, I couldn't tell you what to do because I don't know if you're capable and strong enough to do it. Maybe try to befriend someone or just ask them what their problem is. And think about yourself, that is, I want to say about your future, one day you will achieve much more than these evil people. Most people who don't know him even think I'm evil or conceited because I don't pay attention to almost anyone, but that's because we choose the people I want to communicate with. Everyone is different, I couldn't tell you what to do because I don't know if you're capable and strong enough to do it. Maybe try to befriend someone or just ask them what their problem is. And think about yourself, that is, I want to say about your future, one day you will achieve much more than these evil people. Maybe try to befriend someone or just ask them what their problem is. And think about yourself, that is, I want to say about your future, one day you will achieve much more than these evil people. Maybe try to befriend someone or just ask them what their problem is. And think about yourself, that is, I want to say about your future, one day you will achieve much more than these evil people.
Maybe you're really not confident in yourself, instead of responding to the blows and standing up boldly, you hide in a corner. If you want all this to change, you have to work on yourself, so others will like you and you will have girlfriends. If you want, write on skype payner-FEN 3 OR ON FACE
How come your whole class (except for 2-3) is hellishly unpleasant and you want to have friends at the same time? It doesn't happen that way - both to want friends and not to like anyone ... And in order not to like them, obviously your opinion of yourself is very high - maybe you think you are above others. So - I speak from experience.
№3, in some situations it is, but in hers I do not think. I'm sorry, but who would like people who have the confidence to make fun of their appearance? I understand and support you, author! I know what it's like for someone to use you, to put complexes in your head and the like. I'm telling you, I prefer to be alone. And believe me it's better than with the wrong people. I got rid of those who called me friends, and now I'm fine. I have a friend from another city, she is the only one I can share a friend with. The others are familiar to me, but that doesn't stop me from being able to talk to them, stop on the street, or go out. I feel good, I'm not lonely, I have parents who are very crazy and cool, so I'm not sick and somehow this compensates for the fact that I don't have a girlfriend with whom I can go out at any time. But I'm fine again .. you have to realize what I realized. Rejoice that you are alive and well, that you have a family, and the hypocrites - fuck them. When you finish 12th grade, you will find and make new friends. Congratulations and good luck!
From the author to number 3: So, first of all, I'm not saying I want my friends to be in this class. Exactly the opposite. I never wanted to have bloated users like them for my friends. And no, I explained several times that I don't have a high opinion of myself and I don't even have a gram of self-confidence, unlike some other people, like my classmates. I don't think about anything else at all, just the opposite, and I almost always think the problem is in me, even if it's not. However, the fact that I mentioned that I am more intelligent than the others and not so frivolous does not mean that I think I am above the others ... However, thank you for the comment and for your time. :)
to author 5 of 3: I was the same as you - and I thought I had very low self-esteem and that's why others don't like me, but the inferiority complex ALWAYS comes with a superiority complex. It's just that the Ego hides the second part from us, because we don't like to know it - that's how it becomes subconscious. In our eyes (ie according to our Ego) we are the victim, we suffer, and others mock us and are the "enemy". That is why it is very difficult for us to believe that we can actually perceive ourselves as something more than others and therefore feel inferior. Usually the Ego invents very clever ways to deceive us - in many people the complex of superiority is clearly visible, but in some (like you and me) it is very subtle. Years later, I realize that I have not found more friends in high school, mainly because I perceived myself as something more than others. It was not convenient for me to admit it then, then I thought that others were mocking me baselessly. Or I thought they envied me, but there was really nothing to do. And the truth is, I was just an inaccessible individual with high self-esteem. I perceived myself as something more than the other "simpletons" and then I was annoyed that they didn't accept me and that they were making fun of me. It wasn't until grades 11-12 that I began to realize that my own behavior was the reason.