Hello, my story may be a bit longer, so whoever doesn't have time can pass by, I just want to share and hear your opinions !!! I am a man of 30 years. from Sofia, as the last few years were nightmarish for me personally as the death of my closest person (relative), then I broke up with the woman I loved so much because he betrayed me, and last winter I was in a hospital outside the country and I almost kicked the bell and I'm still recovering for 10 months since then. After my separation from my ex-wife, I had many adventures, etc., but I was internally hurt and overwhelmed by the fact that I missed things for something more serious, and the women with whom I had adventures with one or the other pressed me and quickly it all ended mostly on my part. After the winter of 2017 and the fact that I barely survived, I decided to pause everything this year. I do not work, but I play sports, I go on vacations from time to time, the doctors just advised me to look after myself for at least a year! Last month, however, something unforeseen happened to me, because I do not work and fill my day with other things, so I am often online on Facebook until the moment when I commented on a photo of mutual friends, I met a girl aged 29, we knew the same people but we didn't know each other personally, even she sent me an invitation for friendship. The other thing is clear, word for word became a conversation and so for about a few weeks we wrote to each other non-stop, and she herself offered to see me. I was quite wondering if I should meet her, but despite everything I said to myself it could be for the good one never knows. We agreed and I was waiting for her at the appointed place, thinking that I would hardly like her visually live, I would drink my coffee and bye. Yes but no, the chick came and I chirped was uniquely cute and charming, we sat down for coffee was around 9pm as this coffee lasted until 1 and then a walk. Apparently all the time she was flirting with me, looks, jokes, etc .. Everything went well and the next day my messenger broke or it called me directly. At one point, no matter how much I rebelled (internally) after the conversations and I took everything that I was biting and this had not happened to me since 2013. when I met my ex-wife. The next day the girl offered to see me again in the evening and we saw each other sitting at a restaurant, talking about everything as well as relationships, etc. She herself told me that a few months ago she broke off a long-term relationship and that she saw her ex. you are in a moment of weakness during this time, but generally everyone said to themselves what he went through, etc. At the end of the evening we went for a walk and sat in a park near them, continuing to talk and at one point there was silence for a few seconds and I started to kiss her, as she pushed me on the shoulder and said oh, no, no while she was oh no, she didn't pull me and she jumped me! We kissed a few times and then he told me I don't want relationships now, etc. As I did, he answered okay, no problem on my part, it got quite late and he told me that he had to leave because it was early for work, I offered to send my refusal. I went home and wrote no answers, but called me directly and wished me good night. The next morning there were apologies like "I'm sorry if I reacted sharply, etc." and if you want we can hear each other, see each other, etc., but I don't know if last night's incident will happen again, I said and no problem, although that it was clear to her that it doesn't suit me very well. We continued to communicate, a few days later she had a birthday and I decided to send her flowers to work, after which I received a call with thanks and it was obvious that she was happy in her voice. Everything is fine so far, but after that call everything stopped, no calls, no writing anything. Within a few weeks I tried to understand why she was behaving the way I had written to her twice and we heard each other once in 3 minutes and everything was asked in two or three words, deliberately avoiding me. It's good to be like that, I was angry because her attitude was insulting, she could still say and I would understand any reason for her to avoid me, after all we are already mature people! A few weeks passed as I stopped chatting and studying on Facebook, that when I saw her online I remembered and got annoyed, until the moment when I had a name day two days ago, and she wrote to me out of nowhere because she greeted me most politely and I just thanked her and that was not a word more than her, but I did not write anything more. I was quite angry because they hadn't played such a children's number for me soon, as if we were 18 years old. What's worse is that I really liked her a lot and this happens very rarely. After about 10 days I have RD, so I wonder if I should delete it completely, because I don't want to think about her at all, and definitely then she will remind me of myself again, for some reason. Just her behavior made a super bad impression on me and I think that there is no second chance for a first impression, even if something changes on her part that I doubt. After so much crap lately, I thought that maybe something nice and new is on the horizon, but alas! not a word more than her, but I did not write anything more. I was quite angry because they hadn't played such a children's number for me soon, as if we were 18 years old. What's worse is that I really liked her a lot and this happens very rarely. After about 10 days I have RD, so I wonder if I should delete it completely, because I don't want to think about her at all, and definitely then she will remind me of myself again, for some reason. Just her behavior made a super bad impression on me and I think that there is no second chance for a first impression, even if something changes on her part that I doubt. After so much crap lately, I thought that maybe something nice and new is on the horizon, but alas! not a word more than her, but I did not write anything more. I was quite angry because they hadn't played such a children's number for me soon, as if we were 18 years old. What's worse is that I really liked her a lot and this happens very rarely. After about 10 days I have RD, so I wonder if I should delete it completely, because I don't want to think about her at all, and then she will definitely remind me of myself again, for some reason. Just her behavior made a super bad impression on me and I think that there is no second chance for a first impression, even if something changes on her part that I doubt. After so much crap lately, I thought that maybe something nice and new is on the horizon, but alas! that I really liked her and this happens very rarely. After about 10 days I have RD, so I wonder if I should delete it completely, because I don't want to think about her at all, and then she will definitely remind me of myself again, for some reason. Just her behavior made a super bad impression on me and I think that there is no second chance for a first impression, even if something changes on her part that I doubt. After so much crap lately, I thought that maybe something nice and new is on the horizon, but alas! that I really liked her and this happens very rarely. After about 10 days I have RD, so I wonder if I should delete it completely, because I don't want to think about her at all, and definitely then she will remind me of myself again, for some reason. Just her behavior made a super bad impression on me and I think that there is no second chance for a first impression, even if something changes on her part that I doubt. After so much crap lately, I thought that maybe something nice and new is on the horizon, but alas! even if something changes on her part that I doubt. After so much crap lately, I thought that maybe something nice and new is on the horizon, but alas! even if something changes on her part that I doubt. After so much crap lately, I thought that maybe something nice and new is on the horizon, but alas!
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Emmy stupid job, fact. Who needs all the unwinding and playing, you're not really 16. Unless she comes up with a very plausible explanation, cross it out.
Brother, have dignity, a woman is not just appearance, you have lunch in person, do not bother, cut and tear the chain
Well, in my opinion, you are in a hurry to "rejoice", much less to make some balances, etc. It is normal for a person to do it, because he wants everything to be clear and orderly, but with these things he does not it works exactly that way. I wonder if she had torn you apart from sex, then what would you think: D Just like you men to us, we to you women :) Joke aside, in your position not to let them spin you on a spit, big man I think you can judge your battles and not dramatize unnecessarily :)
If you only know how many 'mature men' disappear and appear out of nowhere in a woman's life, known as 'ghosting', they abandon the children they have done, say they love, and cheat ... Well, dear, even if not You're one of those 'mature men' - why do you wonder if there are women like that, since the attitude of your gender towards us is touching, and we're all thin people, kind of, so? !! Some are because of poor upbringing and bad family examples, and others because they have been hurt by emotionally crippled people, and they are tired of behaving humanely, but only getting bullshit in return, and they start behaving like the people from whom were injured. There is a third type of people - people like me who do not deal with anyone because I have seen decadents. No wonder, think logically, men can do it? !!
Don't bother, don't poison your life with unnecessary thoughts and excitement. It's not right when things are so wrong from the start. He put on a hiccup and moved on. You are 30, not 60. I wish you happiness and success!
There is no second chance for a first impression, but there is a chance for a second impression - getting to know a person does not happen from several meetings. And I can't judge people objectively. For example, I can't give you an adequate opinion without more details of your personal life and without seeing what kind of person you are in the long run.
Women can be mega fat-headed and simple creatures, and most of all - trivial, but - they definitely don't know what they want, which I think is very primitive behavior. Sometimes, even if they have something good in their hands and create it themselves - they can run it over for completely side reasons - it doesn't have to be another man. Either he abstains because of some nonsense, or he simply plays you because he is still hiding from his ex, or there is a third person. And I became a victim of such teenage "hem-boli-hem-srbi" behavior on the part of 30 years. a woman (I'm 35), with whom I told the game and I will still have to miss. Such ridiculous "outbursts" in life are really quite insidious naughty numbers, which almost resemble some kind of hoax. Just at the first signs of this - one must distance himself from the harmful other side, so as not to waste time and nerves. But of course, when we are human and have feelings, we will always try several times during which time we will hurt and suffer. Isolation is an instinctive and expected reaction, but one must beware of it, because it can be a trap for repeating the situation - standing aside after a while you just throw yourself into a relationship that may seem like what is necessary, but not to be lucky enough to be like that - and back in the dark. Maybe you just have to accept these things and wear out the pain until you get to the real thing ... similar attitude towards you. so as not to waste time and nerves. But of course, when we are human and have feelings, we will always try several times during which time we will hurt and suffer. Isolation is an instinctive and expected reaction, but one must beware of it as well, because it can also be a trap for repeating the situation - standing aside after a while you just throw yourself into a relationship that may look like what is necessary, but not to be lucky enough to be like that - and back in the dark. Maybe you just have to accept these things and wear out the pain until you get to the real thing ... But to such childish tricky hevezals and mockers - fuck them, man, it's laughter, and not laughter for you, but for the being he demonstrates similar attitude towards you. so as not to waste time and nerves. But of course, when we are human and have feelings, we will always try several times during which time we will hurt and suffer. Isolation is an instinctive and expected reaction, but one must beware of it, because it can be a trap for repeating the situation - standing aside after a while you just throw yourself into a relationship that may seem like what is necessary, but not to be lucky enough to be like that - and back in the dark. Maybe you just have to accept these things and wear out the pain until you get to the real thing ... But to such childish tricky hevezals and mockers - fuck them, man, it's laughter, and not laughter for you, but for the being he demonstrates similar attitude towards you. we will always try several times during which time we will get hurt and suffer. Isolation is an instinctive and expected reaction, but one must beware of it, because it can be a trap for repeating the situation - standing aside after a while you just throw yourself into a relationship that may seem like what is necessary, but not to be lucky enough to be like that - and back in the dark. Maybe you just have to accept these things and wear out the pain until you get to the real thing ... But to such childish tricky hevezals and mockers - fuck them, man, it's laughter, and not laughter for you, but for the being he demonstrates similar attitude towards you. we will always try several times during which time we will get hurt and suffer. Isolation is an instinctive and expected reaction, but one must beware of it, because it can be a trap for repeating the situation - standing aside after a while you just throw yourself into a relationship that may seem like what is necessary, but not to be lucky enough to be like that - and back in the dark. Maybe you just have to accept these things and wear out the pain until you get to the real thing ... similar attitude towards you. because it can be a trap for repeating the situation - standing aside after a while you just throw yourself into a relationship that may look like what you need, but you are unlucky enough to find it - and back in the dark. Maybe you just have to accept these things and wear out the pain until you get to the real thing ... But to such childish tricky hevezals and mockers - fuck them, man, it's laughter, and not laughter for you, but for the being he demonstrates similar attitude towards you. because it can be a trap for repeating the situation - standing aside after a while you just throw yourself into a relationship that may look like what you need, but you are unlucky enough to find it - and back in the dark. Maybe you just have to accept these things and wear out the pain until you get to the real thing ... But to such childish tricky hevezals and mockers - fuck them, man, it's laughter, and not laughter for you, but for the being he demonstrates similar attitude towards you.
Do nothing .. absolutely nothing .. live your life as if it is not there ... it will appear on its own in time and then you will think of it ..
Number 7, find a woman older than you and you will not have such problems :)
There is no word AT ALL!
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I'm a girl and I'm in a similar situation is a "man" of 25. Very immature and stupid attitude, I do not know why they do it. I have always liked precise and clear attitudes without hesitation, let alone not writing and stopping all contacts. We are not 18 as he said we should do it. Eventually, after a month of trying by me, I stopped doing it once a week. Do the same.
From the author: Thanks for all the comments left by you. Precisely because I also like and hold on to accurate and direct people, respectively, I really hate vague and unspoken things. And I have no intention of messing with the woman anymore, it's definitely not worth it at all! Basically, people like some in the comments he mentioned sooner or later think of us for one thing or another! When they are left alone, frustrated by a third person or bored, then they think of us, but it's like after "Rain Hood". For me then, however, all the sympathies I had for this man have long since disappeared, and I will remember him only with bitterness! I think that this woman, after leaving her ex and seeing herself in a moment of weakness with her ex and then meeting me, she herself doesn't even know what she wants and most likely fits! But he didn't even have the courage to tell me in his eyes what the real reason was, even if it wasn't! After not writing for a long time and congratulating me on my name day and disappearing again and not rubbing / blocking me, I think she keeps me in reserve for anything. But it doesn't matter because in the end her act is hellish offensive! I'm still wondering whether to delete it permanently or leave it so that after a while if it appears I will rub its nose to see how strong the feeling is after that! I'm not that kind of person, but I really can't stand people like that! To Comment 1 - Yes, it's a stupid job, and it's not even worth the attention! To Comment 2 - Thanks brother! I have the dignity the question is that they do not have it which is a pity! To Comment 3 - I was not "happy" in advance, but just approached humanly! I do not dramatize but share! To Comment 4 - Very hateful! Well, you see yourself dear ... as there are such men, there are also such women, gender does not matter, but rather what kind of person you are! To Comment 5 - Thanks, that's right! Nothing has started yet and the nonsense is obvious, I imagine if things had happened how wrong everything would have been! By Comment 6 - Definitely getting to know each other is not possible for a few meetings, but I'm amazed how he can expose himself for only two and present himself in my eyes for exactly what is not! To comment 7 - Thank you friend, you are right about everything. Your comment has nothing to comment on, in it you said everything exactly and on the spot and it is super objective! To comment 8 - I agree with you, and I think it's a matter of time! And when that time comes, maybe I'll explain some things to her if I have the desire at all! Until comment 12 - This boy should do it at the age of 25. which is actually already a man, is downright unacceptable! Just imagine in the future what kind of man this will be, ie no! Congratulations to you for losing it early!
Yes, these are irritating, indecisive women who lack integrity. Cut that bitch, she's obviously playing dumb games and something's wrong with her, don't get attached to her, don't pay attention to her.
The key to the shed in this case is that the lady was definitely expecting casual sex from you. After you just kissed her and didn't bring things to sex that night, the next day she regretted her "light" behavior and abruptly gave it back. There is probably another man with whom she is in a serious relationship or intends to be in one, but whom she clearly does not want enough to behave like that. There is also a small chance that you pushed her away with something, but here I can only guess. The commenters before me gave you quite precise advice on how to get out of the situation - stop any communication with her on any occasion. If you wish a happy birthday, just say "thank you". The number is not teenage, but is normal for many women who are looking for "one-time outings" and then regret it.
Immature behavior! That says a lot. Don't bother !!
I recently had a similar case, just not worth the time and nerves for such a person!
From the Author: I want to end my post by saying what happened to the respective "woman". On my birthday, she neither wrote to me on the wall on Facebook nor in a personal message! My astonishment came when he called me directly on the phone and congratulated me by saying that she wanted to do it in person and not with scribbles! Accordingly, my birthday passed and I wrote once after that, and again two or three begged answers followed, almost no answers, and in the end there was not even an answer! I stopped writing at all and in fact I had written a total of 5 words crosswise. And here a week passed and she sank again, not a word! This annoyed me terribly again and why did it! After the meetings in question, she covered herself even then and ignored me, after which I stopped looking for her. She joined me on Facebook for my name day and congratulated me and disappeared until my birthday, then she called me to congratulate me and disappeared again, if I try to look for her it's a tortured job and it doesn't make any sense, as if I'm burying myself. I just can't understand this behavior from a 30-year-old adult. man, I've always looked for logic in things but I can't find any here !? Anyway, I'll either delete it from everywhere or just leave it "hanging", I have no idea yet, it's a pity that I really liked it and I suffered a lot from it! To number 14 - Very strongly as I absolutely agree with you! Definitely playing some dumb games! It's not worth it, I know, I'm just amazed, but it will pass. As for attention, I've been here! To Number 15 - I guessed it after the meeting that took place in the restaurant. The restaurant itself was close to my apartment, then in the park, before and after the kiss, and I hinted that I lived alone and nearby in order to find out where it was headed. Well, it wasn't about sex either. The probability for me is that she just wanted someone to scratch her female ego, get it and cover herself! I don't think I pushed her away with something after she called me about RD. To Numbers 17-18 - I absolutely do not think to deal anymore, I'm done with this "smart" woman!
Off, victim, are you a man or what? Men behave in exactly the same way when you only want casual sex with someone. You pretend to be jesters, super interested, hypocritical, lie, just for one sex, if it happens. Then look for it only when you feel like it, check how it is, if there is interest in you, to pass it, if you see that it does not work, check a few more times, all on occasions or invent some occasions until you realize that you will not fuck her and disappear into nothingness. Let it be you, with your games, everything comes back!