No Sex And That's It !!

   Haha, she cheated on him and how do you look him in the eyes, with a clear conscience?!?

   Oh ... What kind of people are you to wipe your youth and nerves for years. You just sweep the trash and you're done.

   And it will get worse !!! ;););) I'm 42 years old, it's not my age!

   your nymphomaniac is simple, life is not just sex, it doesn't even matter

   Определено нещо не е наред. Може би има проблем със самочувствието или нещо друго го тревожи, може да е здравословно. Явно има нещо, но не иска да ти се разкрие. В такъв случай най- доброто решение е след толкова време да сложиш всички карти на масата. Трябва да му обясниш, че го обичаш, но това не може да продължава и, ако нещо не е наред, трябва да ти каже, за да разрешите въпроса заедно. По- добре е за теб да се оттеглиш от него щом не те задоволява или дори да не правите секс, поне ти дължи да ти каже защо. Обясни му, че ще го разбереш за чувствата му и не го притискаш, за теб той е прекрасен, но ще те изгуби, ако не ти каже истината защото ТИ ГО ДЪЛЖИ. Настоявай за истината, а ако отказва да ти сподели какво става се отдръпни и започни да излизаш и да си правиш кефа. Има някакъв проблем, който той е направил със сигурност или нещо, което го кара с малко самочувствие в леглото. Не се притеснявай, какъвто и да е проблемът си е негов, ти не бери грижа за него до момента, в който не ти обясни. Имаш пълното право на изневяра, да, но за сега не прави отново това действие.

   M-57 I was there and it was awful. For several years, I literally vomited at the thought of sex. I went to doctors - from "You're old too" to "Sure you don't love your wife" to "Do you want depression pills?" Good thing the better half didn't dump me. After much reading on the internet, I decided to do private hormonal research. What do you know ... my hormones were at the level of an 80-year-old man. With this information I went to the "hormonal clinic" where they failed to find the cause of low levels of "male hormones" and slightly elevated levels of female (men also have female hormones, no kidding), but ... I've been on for 3 years. Hormone replacement "- testosterone injections and feel great. I lost 20 kg, every morning when I wake up - woody as a student, libido is the ceiling, life is good again. Let me tell you first hand - he is traumatized by this much more than you can imagine. It is very difficult for men to admit this, even with the closest people. You need a plan of action. The fact that you seek advice means that nothing is lost. Infidelity just for sex is the worst solution because sooner or later you will make a mistake, he will understand and that will be the end. Find a moment and open the story about "while I was searching Google for something about my female affairs, I came across an article about hormones, male and female and I'm surprised what impact they have on mood, health, sex, etc.)" Connect it with the fact that "I'm not sure what you think, but it seems to me that our intimate relationship is not as it was two years ago. How about we go together and do some hormonal research." Now, the first time you mention it, you'll probably hear "Enough, I'm fine." However, I guarantee that he will think about it. After week two - again ... "How about hormone tests". I'm not in Bulgaria and I don't know how much they will cost, but it's worth it. Tests: 1. Testosterone (Total) 2. Testosterone (Free) Very important! 3. Prolactin 4. Estradiol (Sensitive assay) I can sign on a white sheet of paper that: 1. Testosterone (Total) will be in the lower limit 2. Testosterone (Free) will be below the lower limit 3. Estradiol will be either very close to the lower limit (if there are signs of depression) but will more likely be close to the upper limit since there is no libido (desire for intimacy). If the hormonal balance is disturbed, things can be fixed in about 2-3 weeks with injections. I will follow the topic to see if there is a development :-) However, I guarantee that he will think about it. After week two - again ... "How about hormone tests". I'm not in Bulgaria and I don't know how much they will cost, but it's worth it. Tests: 1. Testosterone (Total) 2. Testosterone (Free) Very important! 3. Prolactin 4. Estradiol (Sensitive assay) I can sign on a white sheet of paper that: 1. Testosterone (Total) will be in the lower limit 2. Testosterone (Free) will be below the lower limit 3. Estradiol will be either very close to the lower limit (if there are signs of depression) but will more likely be close to the upper limit since there is no libido (desire for intimacy). If the hormonal balance is disturbed, things can be fixed in about 2-3 weeks with injections. I will follow the topic to see if there is a development :-) However, I guarantee that he will think about it. After week two - again ... "How about hormone tests". I'm not in Bulgaria and I don't know how much they will cost, but it's worth it. Tests: 1. Testosterone (Total) 2. Testosterone (Free) Very important! 3. Prolactin 4. Estradiol (Sensitive assay) I can sign on a white sheet of paper that: 1. Testosterone (Total) will be in the lower limit 2. Testosterone (Free) will be below the lower limit 3. Estradiol will be either very close to the lower limit (if there are signs of depression) but will more likely be close to the upper limit since there is no libido (desire for intimacy). If the hormonal balance is disturbed, things can be fixed in about 2-3 weeks with injections. I will follow the topic to see if there is a development :-) I'm not in Bulgaria and I don't know how much they will cost, but it's worth it. Tests: 1. Testosterone (Total) 2. Testosterone (Free) Very important! 3. Prolactin 4. Estradiol (Sensitive assay) I can sign on a white sheet of paper that: 1. Testosterone (Total) will be in the lower limit 2. Testosterone (Free) will be below the lower limit 3. Estradiol will be or very close to the lower limit (if there are signs of depression) but will more likely be close to the upper limit since there is no libido (desire for intimacy). If the hormonal balance is disturbed, things can be fixed in about 2-3 weeks with injections. I will follow the topic to see if there is a development :-) I'm not in Bulgaria and I don't know how much they will cost, but it's worth it. Tests: 1. Testosterone (Total) 2. Testosterone (Free) Very important! 3. Prolactin 4. Estradiol (Sensitive assay) I can sign on a white sheet of paper that: 1. Testosterone (Total) will be in the lower limit 2. Testosterone (Free) will be below the lower limit 3. Estradiol will be either very close to the lower limit (if there are signs of depression) but will more likely be close to the upper limit since there is no libido (desire for intimacy). If the hormonal balance is disturbed, things can be fixed in about 2-3 weeks with injections. I will follow the topic to see if there is a development :-) Testosterone (Total) will be in the lower limit 2. Testosterone (Free) will be below the lower limit 3. Estradiol will be either very close to the lower limit (if there are signs of depression) but will more likely be close to the upper limit after no libido (desire for intimacy). If the hormonal balance is disturbed, things can be fixed in about 2-3 weeks with injections. I will follow the topic to see if there is a development :-) Testosterone (Total) will be in the lower limit 2. Testosterone (Free) will be below the lower limit 3. Estradiol will be either very close to the lower limit (if there are signs of depression) but will more likely be close to the upper limit after no libido (desire for intimacy). If the hormonal balance is disturbed, things can be fixed in about 2-3 weeks with injections. I will follow the topic to see if there is a development :-)

   Abe, I don't know what's going on with these men / boys. My friend drives 17, I'm a little older, but when we go to the real part / penetration / and it still falls. When we push him, his erection is good, but then I don't know what's going on. He wants me, I know there is no other girl. Is your husband drinking, smoking, stressed? In general, smoking, especially in industrial quantities, does a lot of damage to the erection, and so does alcohol. Another option is to be stressed at work or on another occasion. It's strange for a healthy young man not to have an erection or desire at all. It is also possible if he watches a lot of porn or masturbates a lot a day, with my friend this is one of the problems, the second is that he is worried about his body, strange as it may sound to a man. The last option is to be sick of something.

   Number 4, being asexual doesn't mean that the others are nymphomaniacs and sex maniacs. Author, one of two: either he has a mistress or there is a problem that torments him. Talk to him seriously, and if you don't find a serious reason for his behavior, then he's just like that, and I'd pack up in your place.

   Have you ever thought that you could have a mistress ..

   I understand you completely! I am in a similar situation and I cheated, which I regret ... It is very unpleasant, after all, this is a need. My advice is to talk openly with him and ask him what makes him behave this way.

   Hey, you don't have infidelity for nothing. For you, I cheated is like drinking coffee!

   He has another one and is tired in the evening

   In another topic in the section, the hens competed to spit on the author's friend that when she is in a cycle and can't have sex, he watches porn and masturbates. I see the situation here is the same, this time against the author. The author - your problem is in the different sexual needs, obviously not as sexual as you. There will be no such connection, there is already infidelity and it will not be just that. You better split up, because in time you will get there again, but it will be even worse.

   Hello everyone and thanks for the answers. Let me answer some of your questions 1 to cheat on him, but I had the courage to say it in his eyes. And this infidelity did not come easily. To number 4. I don't consider myself a nymphomaniac. If for you sex is irrelevant for people like me it is from, and for others it will be only important. Number 5 thank you. Number 6 thank you for such a detailed answer this gave me a lot of hope. In response to numbers 8 and 10 Yes, I have thought about it countless times, but in no way can I catch it. 11 is difficult but not irreparable in my opinion. 12 I will try to answer you briefly. At first this infidelity did not come to light, but I was dry for 3 months. It was a game with a shower, I couldn't play with my yellow friend with batteries. And then I decided to realize what I was doing, but let go of the urge stronger than reason.

   Interesting, but at home the opposite is true. I (46,) like and love sex, she (45) obviously hates it. We have been married for 20 years and sex is "mature". Over the years, I found that if I do not "stretch" - no sex. There were years in which sex was there 7-8 times a year. Unfortunately, we had conversations and told thousands of stories, I was on a "meeting" with another woman (I didn't even think to cheat, at least until recently), but to no avail. This with hormones I do not know if it will help because we are from a small town and may not do such research. I'm on the verge of divorce and everyone on their way. There's no point. I will follow the topic with interest. I can learn how to handle her at home

   As far as I'm on this site, the female part is much more roaring that there was no sex and is almost unnoticed at home - hahahaha. At a rate of 70 to 30 or 80 to 20, women roar more about sex than men. And in public, when you talk to them, they almost don't feel like it at all and don't want to hear about sex. Sex doesn't matter, does it, dear ladies? Now, as in another similar topic, someone will join me to tell me that women only fucked with top men and that they felt sorry for the decent boys, they didn't want to crush them. Ahahahaha .. take it ...

   For women like you, it has a definite name! I am a woman, but I will support the man! Are you like an animal, every day you want? I do not like such people. You press him and that's why he doesn't want the man! Tell me, do you work? And does your husband work? If your husband has a hard job and comes exhausted, without any strength, tell me how he will do? Once you've cheated, you'll do it again. I had an acquaintance THE SAME as you were. She eventually left her husband and perished. With this experience, with the other experience, it doesn't work, it doesn't work. Instead of screaming about sex when you come home from work, talk to him! Ask him, how he spent the day, how he feels, are there any problems at work? I'm sorry, but you're FULL selfish ... Paris.

   To the author: "I cheated on him, but I had the courage to say it in his eyes." Your relationship is doomed. The second worst thing a partner can do (№1 is to cheat) is to share with their partner. I'm sorry. I hate to be right, but I'm usually. By the way, I am writing an essay on nature, sex and relationships that I plan to publish today or tomorrow. I guess it will be interesting to many people ...

   Up to 19 by the author Unlike many other families in our I work (and it works quite a few hours 12 hours a day 5 days a week) he sits at home. I didn't say I wanted every day. Praying every day is simply because there is no sex. With regard to infidelity, I will not make excuses and there is no way to turn back time to prevent this mistake again. We haven't even done it in almost three months now. For you, if sex with such a frequency is ok, it's not for me. And I want children. With an innocent conception there is no way

   You're still 27. If you don't have children, split up. It will get worse over time. Don't let that happen, lose a few more years and be late.

   M-57 @ 17 - Before you say "Enough with these hormones, it was" - it's hormones, my friend. Take out the box of photos from 20 years ago and look at them. Now look in the mirror, then look at your wife. To see a difference? The aging process is not just an accumulation of years, but what happens to the "chemistry" in the human body. For example, Growth Hormone "which maintains the regenerative functions of the body" decreases very progressively with age. This is the process that nature uses to get rid of us (no one dies) to make room for the new generation. all other hormones too.There are two ways of aging - natural (when all levels decrease in sync following the "annual cycle") - a man of 20 wants sex every day, 30 - 2 times a week, 40 - 1 time, after 50 - if it happens to me, etc.). The second (is this life) with external factors. No one lives a perfect, peaceful life, free from stress and tension. For example - you worry that the store is not working. As a responsible head of a family, you turn around all night looking at the ceiling and thinking, "If I did this or that, what would happen?" However ... the growth hormone is released in impulses, and the main pulse is during night's sleep, 1-2 hours after you fall asleep, ie. during the REM (Rapid Eye Movement) phase. Why when you sleep awake, you wake up in the morning rested and ready, and when you sleep "badly", in the morning you are beaten? There is no HRT pulse to regenerate the body and brain. In many cases, a (seemingly unrelated) hormone with abnormalities can cause a catastrophe if it is not "corrected." Take Prolactin for example. Directly responsible for breastfeeding after birth. Men also have it (why?!?) In small levels. Now, if Prolactin is low - reduces the ability of gondals (balls) to produce Testosterone (responsible primarily for "male function"). Low testosterone - "I can't." However ... contrary to expectations, high Prolactin no longer stimulates production but suppresses the production of certain enzymes in the brain associated with "desire for sexual activity" - "I can't do it, leave me". This is just one example of how complicated life is :-) and how philosophical questions like "Who am I", "I'm hungry here", "Does he still love me" can be reduced to a chemical reaction. For the small town and the tests ... In English there is a phrase "Risk vs reward" - risk assessment (to do something, or not to do so) referred to the prize you would receive (if you did or not). You say, "I don't know if this with hormones will help because we're from a small town and they may not do such research." and "I'm on the verge of getting a divorce and everyone on their way." Next to every small town there is a big one! Think of "Risk vs reward" - what would it cost to take a day off during a session and visit a doctor? To spend a few hours together (literally) instead of you on the couch and she on the face? Now consider a divorce in 20 years! Lawyers, worries, stress, trauma (for you, for her, for the children, for the relatives). If you are near Plovdiv, let me send you to a well-known hormonal doctor ... Abe, what can I tell you ... have you seen Lili Ivanova lately? - What would it cost to take a day off during the session and visit a doctor? To spend a few hours together (literally) instead of you on the couch and she on the face? Now consider a divorce in 20 years! Lawyers, worries, stress, trauma (for you, for her, for the children, for the relatives). If you are near Plovdiv, let me send you to a well-known hormonal doctor ... Abe, what can I tell you ... have you seen Lili Ivanova lately? - What would it cost to take a day off during the session and visit a doctor? To spend a few hours together (literally) instead of you on the couch and she on the face? Now consider a divorce, after 20 years! Lawyers, worries, stress, trauma (for you, for her, for the children, for the relatives). If you are near Plovdiv, let me send you to a well-known hormonal doctor ... Abe, what can I tell you ... have you seen Lili Ivanova lately?

   Well, split up, woman. It's so simple. You see that things are not going well and you want children. There will come a time to stand in front of foreign men with your pants down. What complicates your life?

   To M-57 bravo Useful and valuable comment, I'm a chemist and some things I did not know. I'm in the same situation, only I'm older-42, I love sex very much, but there is no sex. Very sad. The man is healthy at 49 but rarely remembers / with me maybe /. Ironically, the more a woman wants, the more a man doesn't want. I think it's worse not to want than not to be able to

   M-57 @ 25 Let's see ... Most people here (I don't want to offend anyone) share either "It's the same with me" (it's a consolation, but it doesn't help) or give advice - from "Well, drop it" to " Well, reconcile, that's life. " The advice is, yes, but each problem is individual and much more complex. It's like going to the doctor - "Doctor, my stomach hurts" and the doctor giving him a pill. So, without asking you when, where, what is the pain ... I will try a little differently. Not so much "advice" as an extended explanation so that readers can compare and draw conclusions. At least I want someone with prostate cancer (who doesn't know yet) to reassure themselves that "Well, it's not just me." So, the "condition" started when I was 50, physically healthy - no obvious problems, maybe a little overweight, I had the same "symptoms". I can't get out of bed in the morning, at 3 in the afternoon I find myself answering my colleagues in Bulgarian, I don't remember the children's birthdays and just thinking about sex makes me nauseous, literally. The woman, 45, in very good shape, reaches out and I pull. I started going to bed early to get asleep before he came, just so he wouldn't tease me. At that time we were in the 26th year of marriage. Over time, the relationship began to "stretch". Here is the place to say that we have been married for 34 years now and probably the main reason for the "longevity" of our marriage is ... "Sit down for a while and talk about something". I said everything too (see above) and she "I'm running out of patience to wait for this conversation, let's see what we do." No, it wasn't "Trying a threesome, open marriage, toys, etc." whatever anyone would think. We gave ourselves a week during which everyone could "research" on the Internet what is being done. She had to study the psychology of marital relationships over time, me, what happens to the physiology of an aging man (because I don't). I went to specialized forums (respectfully, not like this one, and I'm there - a new topic "I love my wife and I can't." Do you know the first answer I got? And where are your hormonal tests ??? Uh? I thought that I have in my head. I ask "What tests", 10 people answer for 30 minutes, all the same - these and these hormones. There I realized that men have female hormones too, go find out. I went to the doctor, released the man hormonal picture, he called on the phone and said - "Well ... everything is within limits, you probably don't love your wife anymore, can I recommend you to a psychologist? "No kidding, he said. The family doctor. I call ... when you say ... but something bothers me.

I call him - can I take a copy of the results? After much muttering he agreed. I took them, blackened name, address, SSN , I scanned and bear fear me, not fear, I posted on the forum. In short, they opened my eyes for a few hours. "It's low, it's high, the attitude to it is bad, it's OK ..." Horror Those who live in the states know what it's like not to have insurance and to go to the doctor, I have the best health insurance that exists in America (for reference, I'm not scaring a penny out of my health pocket) but ... sexual health is not covered (there is no insurance in the United States to cover this) The insurance does not cover "I can't" visit the hormonal clinic Hashimoto - welcome, come in. So I called to ask about the price and again ... "Woman, sit down and tell you something ..." A woman will be fine on the spot, she shouts "We will not go to Bulgaria this year, go to the doctor". I came across a young doctor (God bless him), looked at the tests, launched another one (and he has to eat) and shouted: We will fix you, don't worry. Just listen to me and don't miss a visit (every 3 months for the first year). Now, how, where, what ... I sent the first essay from a series of moderators for publication on these issues (see above). There (if he sees a white world at all) we will be able to go into details. In conclusion - this is what a woman of 51 and a man of 57, with 34 years of marriage behind them, can look like, on hormone replacement. I don't think I should mention sexual problems - the photo speaks for itself. https: // ibb.