The title actually suggests a lot of what I want to talk about. I am a man of 24 and in my life there is neither love nor sex, I am not even close to change. Yes, I know that women don't like grumbling men, but I just wanted to share it with anonymous people and possibly get some advice that people more experienced than me would give me. For years, I just haven't been able to create anything serious with women. The situation is tragic. I'm not a virgin, but I haven't had sex in a long time. Interestingly, I am quite liked. It sounds immodest, but it really is. At least visually, they always liked me. When people get to know me, they also like me, but I still fail and fail. I don't know what the problem is. I am constantly trying to develop and improve. I read a lot of books, but not because of women, but because I love doing it, and I'm also an absolute music lover and I love listening to music. Maybe I'm too good. I have tried to work in this direction as well, but it is difficult for a person to cheat on himself and pretend to do something that is not, even though it had an effect. I just don't realize what it is that repulses women. One of the problems I know I have is that I am very passive, but I can't believe even that this is the problem with the women I've been with so that it doesn't happen. Otherwise I work and support myself. I had periods when I visited all the discos in Sofia, but I realized that the chance to find a girl in a club or bar is extremely minimal. I'm talking about a serious relationship. People even think I'm a downloader, but maybe that's just how I look. I've never flaunted that I can take down women because it would be funny. I don't know why this happens. At first glance, everything is normal for me, but I still can't get out of this circle. I don't know what exactly to do to find a girlfriend. I sound hellishly desperate and I can't stand it, but I need a solution. It's not a fixed idea. I have my goals and aspirations, but in the end it is good to have a person next to you to support yourself. Experienced men and women who read this hope to give some suggestions on what would be good to change in yourself. I do not want regret, do not misunderstand me. I just want advice. however, in the end it is good to have a person next to you to support yourself. Experienced men and women who read this hope to give some suggestions on what would be good to change in yourself. I do not want regret, do not misunderstand me. I just want advice. however, in the end it is good to have a person next to you to support yourself. Experienced men and women who read this hope to give some suggestions on what would be good to change in yourself. I do not want regret, do not misunderstand me. I just want advice.
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If you look good, that's a big plus. Just when you like a girl on the street, in public transport, in a cafe, in the store and you go, you ask something sideways or you meet directly. In two weeks you will be dating at least two girls. Then things are logical ... if you have a field - on the second, third meeting sex, etc. If you fit in with sex, you continue, if not - the next one. You don't really have a problem. Young, handsome, independent. Conscious. As they say, a dream man. Just be more confident and don't analyze too much. Thinking interferes with these things.
It is never too late, one must have patience.
I absolutely understand you, but it's not scary! Why don't you download tinder? In general, most people use it for dating for sex, but this is not always the case. I have acquaintances who have established very good relations with people they met in Tinder. A good option is at least for sex, and you never know what can happen :) give it a try
People go to have fun in clubs. You can find a serious friend elsewhere - listening to music together or talking about books. And don't be silly because it repulses women.
It may seem cliché, but you will meet the girl when you least expect it. I was in a similar situation (I'm a girl), but in the end I met a boy through mutual friends and we've been together for a long time. No need to worry, everything will be fine.
Well, because you're passive, that's what it's about. I've also been single since I was 19, I'm tall, I have a good job, I look ok, women take me down (I almost don't) (but I'm passive, I don't know what I'm waiting for . That's why I started going to psychotherapy, they told me that I had an affair with my mother and similar things. You may have such subconscious things. I'm passive, because if I find a serious boyfriend it's like cheating on my mother (I'm not fucking, that's the scheme in psychoanalysis), that's why I sabotage myself. This may be a problem for you, but keep in mind that it is very difficult to realize and the fact that it sounds absurd at first glance does not help. However, by delving into childhood, you may find certain events that shaped this behavior (and it is more common to NOT find certain events that should have happened, in order not to form this behavior - for example, your father had to clearly show that he is emotionally attached to your mother, but in Bulgarian families this becomes difficult because women often put their children in front of their husbands). Change is not easy.
Unless you search, you will not find.