Hello! I am 16 and live in a small town. I don't know exactly how to formulate my topic, but I will try to be as clear as possible. So, I've never had a boyfriend in my 16 years. I support myself a lot and I'm beautiful, a lot of guys like me, they look at me, but they don't offer me. And how can I have a boyfriend after no one has proposed to me? Everyone around me has boyfriends, they ask me why I don't have them and I don't know what to answer. I myself do not know why I never had. I'm in something like depression. The truth is, I'm angry at what it's called. I am told that one day I will have a boyfriend, but when - for so many years no one has offered me and I as a desperate will wait for the "right boy"? Don't I deserve love? I want to know that at least one person in this world loves me. My late father was the only one, who loved and supported me, my mother hated me and harassed me mentally and physically every day, I only have fake friends and I don't have a boyfriend. Yesterday I said to myself - since no one loves me, then why should I love someone? I never asked for help from anyone, because there is no one and I learned to deal with everything alone in life. In my old school (up to seventh grade) I was ridiculed every hour. When I moved to another grade, I said to myself that no one would hurt me anymore, and I would do my best to keep my dignity. Now I have built quite a high self-esteem and people respect me, but again they don't like me because I look bloated. But I don't care, I like myself, I rely only on myself for everything and I will do my best to be well. I don't want more suffering. As for the boys, I'm on this wave - I would only have sex with someone, but I don't want feelings. Even if it turns out that someone loves me, I told myself that I would not love anyone and I would not love him. I said to myself - for so many years no one wanted me, I lasted so long without any love - neither from friends nor family, not to mention boys. So I don't need love, I can do without it. I am independent, I will not fall at anyone's feet, I am the most important and I will take care of myself, and without that hardly any boy will truly love me - what should I stumble on? I'm told I have to have a boyfriend now - but what can I do when no one offers? I will not have a boyfriend, whether I want to or not. People like me only because of my appearance, and I need support, but obviously I won't get it. Fuck everyone, I don't need love and drooling. Since they don't love me, I won't love them either. I will love only myself. You'll say I'm narcissistic, but I don't care. Why give to people when they won't appreciate it?
When I think about it, I want someone to love me and take care of me, I need love, and at the same time I don't want a boyfriend because I'm angry that I didn't have that much time and everyone made me laugh. How come all the other girls had at least one boyfriend and I didn't? I don't care if anyone will like me, I think I'm a great person and I will walk proudly and no matter what happens. I will no longer allow anyone to hurt or ridicule me. after they won't appreciate it? When I think about it, I want someone to love me and take care of me, I need love, and at the same time I don't want a boyfriend because I'm angry that I didn't have that much time and everyone made me laugh. How come all the other girls had at least one boyfriend and I didn't? I don't care if anyone will like me, I think I'm a great person and I will walk proudly and no matter what happens. I will no longer allow anyone to hurt or ridicule me. since they won't appreciate it? When I think about it, I want someone to love me and take care of me, I need love, and at the same time, I don't want a boyfriend because I'm angry that I didn't have that much time and everyone made me laugh. How come all the other girls had at least one boyfriend and I didn't? I don't care if anyone will like me, I think I'm a great person and I will walk proudly and no matter what happens. I will no longer allow anyone to hurt or ridicule me. that I am a great person and I will walk proudly and no matter what happens. I will no longer allow anyone to hurt or ridicule me. that I am a great person and I will walk proudly and no matter what happens. I will no longer allow anyone to hurt or ridicule me.
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I did not read the topic, I gave up after the 4th line. One word - filmmaker. Tighten up and press on the more important things, the boyfriend is not important and it is not done by force ... the quota has come. He stabbed her.
Hi girl :) I'm a 16 year old boy. My opinion on the matter is similar to yours, but there is a slight difference. In principle, I do not think that a person needs love to live well, the question is who exactly understands this. For example, I have never had a boyfriend and so far only 3 girls have liked me, but nothing has happened. I am writing this to you to see that there are many like you, with the difference that I do not need much love and attention, I am just such a person. I do not think that in the future I will change and I will want more love from someone, because I am independent in some things. I have friends, I don't care about the rest now. I don't know if I will find one, I don't know if it will be worth it, I may be left alone for the rest of my life, I may be with someone and I may be happy or unhappy. Look at it this way, no one can be 100% convinced, that something will happen - it just happens. I'm not saying you shouldn't dream, dream, but what exactly will change that? No boy will bring you anything you do. You can stay an old girl with a lot of cats, you can die alone and there is no one to close your eyes, maybe tomorrow on the corner of a street someone will invite you to a meeting. Nobody knows what will happen, we just assume that it could happen, it could be otherwise. I don't believe in destiny, I just think so, there may be something definite, there may not be. The chance is 50/50 - for this to happen to you, otherwise that. It's the same with you, you may find a friend, you may not find one, it's the same with me - I may find a girlfriend, I may not find one. Don't think that - you will only hurt yourself, you will achieve nothing if you think about it, except to reach a dead end and sadness. And for your friends - they tell you that you will find someone. I do not support them, but I do not say the opposite. You may find a friend, you may be alone. The saying "There are passengers behind every train" is NOT TRUE !!!! There are many people who are alone for one reason or another, but alas - they are alone, the saying does not apply to them. It may or may not apply to you, no one knows. Whether you want a friend or not doesn't matter much to her - you can get it, you can be alone - the chance is 50/50. I'm telling you this whole thing to make you realize that not everyone succeeds. But it doesn't mean that it has to be the same with you, it depends on your luck. There is nothing you can do. Your friends or acquaintances, no matter who, just want to give you hope and courage. They see that you are in pain and you are a loving girl, they just want you to be happy. They believe in the thesis I wrote about above. Now it's up to you to decide whether to believe it or not. Personally, I recommend you not to believe in this thesis - it is not scientifically proven that there is someone for everyone, yet people are not a boy / man to a girl / woman (1 to 1). There will always be someone alone. Otherwise, about your attitude - I'm similar, I'm independent and I don't care if anyone likes me. We cannot always rely on someone, always he / she will not rid our skin of a problem or something. It is always better to be able to take care of yourself, but of course it is nice to have someone to help you from time to time in difficult situations (family, friends, no matter who / who, at least is / are trusted) / a / i) However, you contradict yourself with only one thing - you don't care if a boy likes you or not. If you write the topic, then you care, there is nothing else. There is nothing wrong with that, the problem is that you shut yourself down for no important reason. It happens to everyone that in a given period there is no friend. Even if it is forever, it happens. That will only torment you. I do not judge you, the choice is yours, you decide whether to continue like this or to change. From experience I can say that if you are angry about something for which there is no one to blame (animal, it doesn't matter), you will not be happy inside. You better get out of this defense, if someone likes you, you can, for example, invite him to a meeting, it's not a shame for a girl to invite you (it hasn't happened to me, but I don't think there's anything shameful). Have fun when you can, as you can, otherwise your life will be meaningless, and always leave yourself a moment to be alone (because you will certainly need some rest from people in general, sometimes they write. ) Do not be influenced by ridicule - this is a very big mistake, I was so influenced before. Just don't care if they make fun of you, then they may be idiots and minors. :) Relax, let people near you so you can have fun, but don't let them near, because then you suffer. And in terms of love - if you are destined you will have a friend, if you are not destined you will not have, as I said - 50 to 50. You have nothing to worry about on this issue. I think I was clear enough, remember - "There are passengers behind every train" is not always valid, have fun, do not let people close to you, because you will suffer, do not think about love, because it is harder. That's it :) I'll definitely be hated (I hate this stranger, but it fits best here) for my comment, but anyway. That's my opinion. And to be alone, big deal, there are much more important and exciting things than it (not always, but there are). Have a nice day from me;) CerberusKing
But everything is correct;)
You will find the perfect boy! When something is late, it surpasses others! Girl, 12 years old, Varna
Like you, I think that love is a fictional concept. I got annoyed watching movies about love. Why did they support this myth? At 16, I was ready to go with anyone who offered me. But there was no such thing. At 20, I started offering. Everywhere a refusal, when it comes to something more serious. I said ... I will now live for myself, selfishly. Everyone is selfish and I will be. At 25, she appeared. She offered me and fought for me. It was as if I was everything to her. He accepted me as I was. I fell in love. And at one point, I wondered if I thought of another more than myself. We are now planning a child. So I met love too, but only at 25. Your thoughts are as familiar to me as if they were yesterday. I kissed the girl because I had forgotten what a kiss was. I would not love because it is a weakness. And they definitely wouldn't command me, as long as they taught me. Now all those thoughts are in the past. She didn't say, I didn't do anything. I who would not be called. Well, when it got under my skin. Love is a weakness. But I admit she is stronger. But I'm so in love that I don't care. I changed my thinking and behavior because of her. She never had to, she can't. Everything with care, understanding and predisposition not. The paradox is that it was when I was narcissistic that I stopped caring about others. Once they used me, I will use them. Only my interests mattered. And I was fine. And I was not looking for love, because it was a fictional myth. And just then, she accidentally appeared. And at the same time he gave me something that I don't think there is sincere love. Even when I made her cry, she still loved me. He loved me sickly. Gradually, over the years, the defenses fell one by one. And I felt that the presenter wasn't really me. You say I got here. I tell you what happened next.
It's not appropriate for a 16-year-old girl to flirt because she doesn't have a boyfriend. It's infantile. You know that almost everyone who has boyfriends has not found true love and everything is from day to noon. Is it better to change your boyfriends like handkerchiefs at 16 or to find true love with which to have a serious relationship at, say, 20? I'm 15 and I've never had a boyfriend either. They offered me two or three boys, but can I commit without feelings, but only because the others have? There really is a time until you meet love.
There are people who would appreciate you giving for them. You just obviously haven't met them yet. For example, I'm looking for a girl just like you. It is a pity that the moderators will not let us exchange fb and try to get to know each other :)
Honey, I really want to watch your seira when the wizard appears, who will burst your ring, and then only when you see him write on your messenger, your knees will shake. I understand you've been through a lot of trouble, but don't think that the boys have to take you over like you're a fortress, and you just have to wait like a princess in a tall tower. You need reciprocity in these things, but you will understand this a little further. For now, you really need that old man who will make you cry while the beast possesses you, and whose name you will whisper while you fall asleep. Then he will disappoint you, you will write again in this forum, where the next one will come ... and in a few years we can talk about love again. Success!
Very big congratulations for "I am independent, I will not fall at anyone's feet, the most important thing is me and I will take care of myself ..." And what does "YOU MUST have a boyfriend already" mean? !! It's a lot like "you have to get married," "you have to have kids." All you need is what you decide you need.
Learn to give first before you want to receive and you will probably understand what love is. Start with attention first.
So was I, after a few years that changed. It happens because about 20 boys are definitely not excited about relationships - hormones shake them, they are looking for sex. That is - they choose girls who are more provocative in terms of behavior / clothes. You probably dress more restrained, you have more restrained manners. Which is perfectly normal. Give yourself a few years - you will surely find a friend for a relationship, do not rush. In my opinion, unknowingly because of the loss of your father, you think that maybe in a relationship you would find his love in someone else - but this is not the case. You can receive true love not from everyone, you will see even more that not everyone is sincere. Talk to your mother, tell her you need her to tell you she loves you. Tell her it's hard for you. It is also difficult for her.
You must first understand that most "friends" in this life are friends at the table and for nothing more. True friends are getting harder and harder, most are looking to take advantage of you. You obviously seem inaccessible in the eyes of the boys and they are afraid of being rejected by you. No one likes to be rejected, but men take it harder if they show it less than women. So, in order for a boy to come to you, you have to show yourself in a softer light. Of course, not to grumble or toss around someone's neck, but to radiate tenderness. And you're probably radiating despair right now. No matter how much you think it is not noticed, be sure that others feel it. And another thing, I want to tell you that by not having a boyfriend so far, you haven't missed anything! Most people your age, and not only, are driven by instinct, so it is very likely that you will come across a boy who uses you only for sex and then you will feel much more disgusting than now. Don't work so hard. Black Sabbath
Apparently they don't like you because of him. Stop filming
There were hardly any boys who didn't like you .. Maybe they were afraid to tell you .. Maybe because it's hard to talk to beautiful girls .. Especially to be offered .. the fear of repulsion is great .. That's why you have to be more open .. I don't know what kind of boy you would like .. Very much like you and I'm tired of waiting .. And I'm starting to wonder .. is it really worth it .. If no girl is interested in me .. it's not really my fault .. I know myself .. obviously they don't know me .. otherwise they wouldn't have pushed me away like that .. I guess .. the disappointment of vain expectations is exhausting .. If you want to "just have a boyfriend" don't bother .. your partner would also have feelings .. and he would like attention .. Mithridates (Vates)
Don't worry about it at all, when the time comes, it will happen, and it will happen by itself, believe me. Besides, in today's modern world, all 14/15 year old pickles (excuse me for the expression, but this is the reality) let boys in their crotch, so be different, be unique!
Black Sabbath is in every topic - painkiller. It is very funny!
Black Sabbath is "she" if my memory serves me right .. I'd like to contact her ..
19, I'm not in every topic, there are even some that I haven't read. Open all the topics on the first page and check, instead of writing nonsense or you can't stand me so much that you see my signature? : D But it's fun when someone doesn't like you. : D Apparently I've hurt someone a lot. Black Sabbath
Darling, I don't see why you despaired when your whole life is in front of you. In addition, very few student relationships last longer. As for your classmates, in 2 years you will take your own path and in time all these school problems will be irrelevant. If you do not meet your boy now, this can happen in your student years if of course you intend to study. Last year, one of the teachers told us how she met her husband during her studies. In my class there were cases of people who could not stand in the 9th grade, they improved their relationship somewhere in the 12th and now almost 6 years since we graduated, they are very respected.
20, why? And yes, for people who don't know, I'm a girl because my signature often confuses other users. Black Sabbath
It says 19. On the contrary, you're cute. That was a joke. And for the young gentleman - there is no painkiller in female form. ;)
Love, if it was optional, a whole section on this site would not exist, maybe even 1-2 more would fall away. One just loves and stops thinking about oneself to such an extent, one does not feel like putting another in front of oneself. . Yesterday, for example, I didn't feel like pouring water, but my friend wasn't feeling well and was tired, so I went to the kitchen and made him tea. A week ago he wanted boiled potatoes, I didn't like them at all, but I cooked for him to make him happy. I give very simple and everyday examples. Love doesn't have to be pain, you get more vulnerable, but no one said you had to crawl on your stomach and pray for mercy. It's sweet that you don't want to love because you haven't seen love, but it's naive ... you don't choose whether to love or not, you just choose whether to be in a relationship or to be alone. This,
25, seriously? !! Black Sabbath
Girl, I don't know what movie you got into, but just because you have a boyfriend doesn't mean he'll love you. Everything that happens in your life is a consequence of your words and thoughts. Fix your thinking and you will fix your life.
I'm just desperate because a lot of guys liked me, but absolutely no one has ever offered me and I don't know why. What's wrong with me - I'm beautiful, I'm radiant, I have a sense of humor ... Even if it's not perfect or "true love", I just want to experience my first boyfriend. At this age it is normal to have, and the fact that no one has ever offered me depresses me, I am ashamed because I lie when someone asks me about boyfriends, otherwise they laugh at me. I want to get a boyfriend to calm down at last, but it's super hard because no one offers me. -Tuesday
The sooner you find out that no one is napping about you, the sooner you will find a boyfriend.
Author, I am a man. I can't understand why you always say, "nobody offers me." Well, there are no rules in love. Why don't you suggest, or at least make a strong hint? !! They may not offer it to you because, for example, if you are beautiful, they think you are busy or that you will cut them off. I really can't figure out what's stopping you from offering? !!
I think the boy should propose to the girl, not the girl to the boy. If I propose to someone the first is strange, second I will lose my dignity and independence, and third the boy and his friends will start making fun of me. I have never seen a girl offer to a boy before, it's always the other way around. Author
One would say that you are 30 when you see how desperate you are that you don't have a boyfriend yet. And the others, having boyfriends, what? A very large percentage of them do not like each other, they do not know what that means. So even if you have a boyfriend, don't be sure that he will love you. Such things take a long time, but some can't stand it because they're just looking for sex. I'm an 18-year-old girl and I have to worry three times more that I haven't had a boyfriend so far. I don't even know any boys, let alone anyone who suggested them to me. But I'm not angry because I know I'm not attracted to them. I don't have nice thighs, breasts, ass and thank God, because I don't want anyone to "love" me for that. You have to stop having high expectations. Loving is not easy.