For my age / over 30 / I have enough experience with men. I loved, they loved me. Girlfriends often ask me for advice and there is usually a reason. When they listen to me, they don't confuse. I don't know if I'm writing so much because I need advice now or I just need to share to see what the story looks like through other people's eyes. Thirteen years ago, I dated a boy for a few months that I was truly in love with. I didn't just go with him, we lived together. I haven't gotten along better with anyone. We had no secrets, we did not lie, there was always something to talk about, although we did not part for 24 hours, we did not cheat and we did not have scandals, and small disputes were resolved quickly. Perfect? !! I don't know, it's in my memories. It so happened that our paths parted, and we both lived elsewhere. The friendship between us remained and for me this is the best. We last heard from each other on the phone in 2004, and then he mysteriously disappeared. I looked for it anyway, through whom, but I didn't find it. I only learned that she was abroad, where I was, and later that she had a serious girlfriend. When I finally found out exactly where he lived, I asked my friend there to contact me. She promised and for months nothing happened on the issue. On the eve of March 3, that is, 10 days ago, he himself found me, on Facebook, among my friend's friends. I can't describe my joy to you! We exchanged Skypes and phones and now we communicate every day, that is, every night! :) He hasn't had a girlfriend for a while.
We talk like we used to. We tell each other who lived how all this time, share who felt how after our separation and realize how nice a couple we were and how we still get along great. I can't just look at him as a friend, the butterflies in my stomach flutter every time we talk. I have no plans to reunite, although I secretly hope to see you soon and make it happen. I'm not asking this question directly yet, we're just joking that we have to get married, because who else would we get along with like that ... My mother and friends say I don't worry too much because things can stay in the virtual world, but I don't stop thinking about him. When I think that we used to get together like that, we first became friends and talked for a long time ... Does history sometimes repeat itself? Bobby we just joke that we have to get married, because who else would we get along with like that ... My mother and friends say not to worry too much, because things can stay in the virtual world, but I don't stop thinking about him . When I think that we used to get together like that, we first became friends and talked for a long time ... Does history sometimes repeat itself? Bobby we just joke that we have to get married, because who else would we get along with like that ... My mother and friends say not to worry too much, because things can stay in the virtual world, but I don't stop thinking about him . When I think that we used to get together like that, we first became friends and talked for a long time ... Does history sometimes repeat itself? Bobby
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My ex always said about his old girlfriends while he was with me "Old newspaper is not read again" - this is the only useful thing he taught me. There were reasons to break up with someone. People do change, but the character remains the same. So ... I broke up with this one and I haven't looked for it since - and that's fine. I don't believe that your man doesn't have a girlfriend - he's probably lying to you because you keep paying attention to him online. Offer a real meeting - you will see that I will make excuses. But even if you didn't have a girlfriend and get together, things will end like last time - an old newspaper just can't be read again! Did the old love not catch rust? If it led to a rift, it wasn't love at all at first! True love transcends all boundaries
And I am of the opinion that you should not fly in the clouds from now on, because in words everyone can say what you want to hear. What's more, you're far from each other, it's not like seeing yourself in the neighborhood tomorrow or someone you know telling you from until his daily life. It's not bad to keep in touch online. If you want, make sure you see each other. Number one is right with this for the old newspaper, but when I think about it, there are one or two people that I would reread several times :))) Just because of the thrill from before, at least for those with whom I have good memories. But to delude myself that we will meet again, just because we understood each other and we had a good time - it's dust in the eyes. There is a reason for every end. And you are no longer in those years, you are big mature people, I guess changed. Do not hide high expectations, unfortunately the reality is far more cruel.
As you yourself said - Old love does not rust. There will always be people we will never forget and keep in our hearts and souls. People no one else can replace. People in front of whom everything else makes no sense. Love leaves a memory in us forever, if it is real. Sometimes it fades over the years as in your story. You haven't seen each other, you haven't heard from each other for years, but when it happens again, all feelings come back. I hope you are together again, I sincerely wish you! :)
Tighten it up, people! Of course you have a chance !!! Apparently he loves you too and probably he has been looking for you as long as you have been looking for him. But drop it. At the same time, you did not separate because of a misunderstanding, but because in those years people go to study and so on. Don't trust these pessimistic people who are already absorbed in the gray of everyday life and find it impossible for anyone to be happy. Don't give it up so you don't regret it one day!
Don't get involved !!! And I am of the same opinion as the comments so far - they are more or less the same. I used to meet a friend from time to time and it worked well for me - I made some useful conclusions and answered a lot of questions, but that's it. He doesn't think anything will happen. You can write to joke, but don't put so much emotion, control yourself!
Thanks for all the comments so far, even for the pessimistic ones that make me think. Of course, I will give time and I will not recklessly take our relationship to a new stage. Number 1, I know he's not lying to me about his girlfriend. Besides, we've really been together for hours, every day, and if there was a girlfriend, she would show up. I repeat, our relationship with him is based on trust and sincerity, and that is exactly what made me fall in love with him at the time. We did not break, our paths diverged, and this is different. Thank you, number 3! To you too, number 4! I don't want to miss it, but I don't want to force things. It's time for a really serious relationship, but let it be as it should be, and if it should be. I will write how things develop. :) Bobby
I would like to say that although I do not have this experience, I have an unrequited love with which we talked and heard every day. I have loved him for 6 years and still when I see him I shiver.
Number 7, does he know about your love? Bobby
if you love him don't hesitate, girl, don't be late, try again, I'm with you, I know what it's like not to listen to your heart, and to run away,
Thanks, number 9! We still talk every day and see you as soon as possible. Then it will be understood what can and cannot happen. But there is a chance, I feel it! I hope you find love too!
We are already May 22, and with the boy in question ... what am I talking about, he is already a man, we continue to communicate every day virtually and by phone. We make plans to visit, but since we live on two different islands, and each has its own commitments, we have not yet decided who will go to whom. We just know it will be soon. From there, whatever is written. :) Bobby
I am a man of your age, I am in a similar situation as you! I had not seen her for years, neither live nor in a photo or phone, I was looking for her, I went to the place where she lived several times, where I had lived before (abroad), but there were still obstacles, I could not find her and I saw her, which I regretted, about 6 months ago through common acquaintances I saw that she has a profile with a social network, I can tell you that we have never been more honest! and YES I have a great desire to see her as she sees me (at least so she claims), I will try to take a vacation this summer to this destination and if it is written .... mmmmm! on the 8th sky! :) but .. blessed are the believers, whatever the sword shows, it will happen, this is not a small period of time and there are many details that will be too long to comment! but in my opinion ... definitely worth a try! don't you try one day you will wonder if you did the right thing! Success! :)
Yes, number 12, our situations are very similar! Long live social networks, right? !! :) From the bottom of my heart I wish you success during the holidays and to tell you later! :)
Number 12 and the author, share how your stories developed, I find it very interesting :) I hope you are with your loved ones :)
Number 14, only now have I seen it written here. My story is at a standstill. We still hear from him quite often on Skype, but in these two years a lot of things have happened in the lives of both of us, so we still haven't seen each other live, unfortunately for me. I know that if we see each other, what I expect will happen, but the meeting may not be scheduled, as it goes on in time, I know. In short, I'm still in anticipation ... or not. However, I am happy that we have contact with him, because he is really important to me. I hope you are with your loved one! :) The author / Bobby /
Two days ago, my story got a happy ending (for now). During the time we were waiting for, my man experienced a new love story and we didn't hear from each other for a while. Three months ago I came to work in a new European country, in the capital, and it turned out that ... he is here too! With his girlfriend. He wrote to me a few days ago that they had problems and was trying to break up with her. And we saw each other two days ago! See you in 15 years! An extremely pleasant and full of thrills and conversations meeting! The feeling of reciprocity, of wholeness, if I may say so, has not disappeared. Butterflies in my stomach too! My feelings for this man have not cooled down and I know he is mine! ;) I will give him time, I will wait for him to fix his relationship with the other woman, I will let him look for me and I will hope things work out. I want it! My heart feels that he wants me too! We also plan new meetings and hear from each other again every day. Squeeze my thumbs, please don't let my love escape again! :) Bobby / the author /
Hi Bobby! I will tell you my story. It is connected with an old and short but strong love of mine. We met in a chat in 2000. He is Bulgarian, but has lived in another European country since he was a child. What was special was that he was 10 years old. younger than me, and despite my age concerns, he insisted we see each other. Then I was divorced at the age of 35 and he at the age of 25. We had a very romantic first date and we liked each other once. We even lived together for about 3 months with me in Sofia, during his summer vacation and vacation - he studied and worked at the same time. We understood each other wonderfully, we talked constantly, in love everything was perfect. Everything between us was great, but the circumstances of life separated us, we did not want him - he had to return to work and finish his education for another 2 years. We discussed the possibilities of being together for a long time, he asked me if I wanted to get married and go there with him, but I didn't have the opportunity then, I had a business here and a 14-year-old daughter from my first marriage who needed me to be with her. with a bunch of commitments. I told him that it was best to return to life and health, if it was written we would see each other again. The boy left with tears in his eyes, but let me not go into details. I felt quite depressed after I left, but I felt I had no right to stop him, and I felt that nothing would come of it at the moment. Since I wanted a family and a second child, and the years went by, I said that I should forget him and I embarked on my search and correctly asked him to break off contact. I met my current husband, with whom we have been since 2002. and we have a 13 year old daughter already. Neither do my husband, nor have we been any great loves to me, he divorced, me too, we just came together out of sympathy and reason for the common goals of asking for a child (he didn't have one). And so the years went by, I had even forgotten about the boy at one time. Around 2006, he found me in an interest club and we exchanged a few sentences. I found out that he got married and in 2006 he had a son. He always found occasions to tease me with a post, but I was very distant. In general, I did not know the details of him, and I did not ask, so as not to give the wrong signals and deepen things, I looked at my life and family pragmatically and rationally. Every year we wrote to each other and only officially in the club up to 2 times by accident, but he always put some subtext in his posts, but I pretended to be distracted. And so until October 15, 2015, when I open my mail and look at a letter from him ... and what do you think, some incredibly beautiful explanation in love, only a woman can dream of such an explanation! I wondered what was going on, I even asked him if he was sure that he had not sent this letter to me by mistake, that is, that it was for someone else? It turns out, however, that I am not wrong and the exact recipient. And it got complicated! In short, it turns out: The old love does not catch rust, as you say. The boy is already 10 years old, but who is lame. He tells me that he tried to give me signals, but did not want to interfere with my family life, so he remained silent. In the interest of the truth, since 2010 I also have some peculiarities in marriage, but I am silent. The man has been very aggressive for months. He wants us to meet this summer in July, when he's on vacation, and we've been talking seriously, I have no idea what exactly, he said. that only face to face he wants to tell me. I tried to cool him down a bit, but he didn't, there was no way, he wanted a date. I am very surprised, I did not believe that such things would happen again. In the interest of the truth, I love him a lot, I love him as before, but I said to myself, I will be more serious, because I do not have the strength for another disappointment. So, he has nowhere to go and in July we have to see each other for life and health, he has kept his tickets. I have no idea what exactly is going on in his head, we'll see. After all, 16 years have passed, he is a 41-year-old stable man, I am also different. We exchanged photos and he tells me that I have not changed in his eyes and he likes me and dreams of the moment when he will hug me. Well, I'm in your hall, I wish you beautiful little moments, for more and I do not hope! I wish you success, I understand what is wrong with you!
Hello, number 17! :) Your story is quite exciting! I can't wait to find out if you met in July and what's happening to you now? !! Is the thrill still alive? I have recently been to Bulgaria. My man and I had some interesting months of dating and drama because the other woman in his life was terribly confusing, as were other details. After all, our love is alive, I was completely convinced of this after our romantic moments! We keep in touch, and I hope to get together. Things happen as they are written. Once we find ourselves on the other side of the world, quite "accidentally", then a common future is not excluded. I am an optimist. May your wish come true!