These days I'm going on vacation with my friend. We have been together for 1 year. But there is one problem. When I am with him, I show symptoms of fear neurosis, which was discovered some time ago. It's not that serious ... - at times I have attacks of suffocation, I tremble, I sweat profusely and my stomach starts to shrink. Usually by worrying or accumulating more stress. And now I am not only excited, but also worried, because for the first time I will be with him for a whole week, just the two of us, and in principle we do not live together all the time. We have not yet established ourselves in this way. And now I have no idea how to deal with these seizures and this anxiety. I love him, I want to be with him, and these are not love butterflies in the stomach, but panic and absolute anxiety. I'm worried about snoring, I'm even ashamed to go to the toilet ... and as silly as it sounds, it's all due to this neurosis, which I can never deal with except pills. And I don't want him to think of me as a madwoman who drinks herbal sedatives every night before bed .... I really don't know how our vacation together will go given this fact.
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Look what, if you really have serious intentions for this person, it is clear to you that at some point you will have to know your canines. It is pointless to hide anything from him - not for snoring, not for pills, not for herbal sedatives before bed ... He has the right to see you and know you in your whole being, as well as you know him. Illusions and "voting" as if in front of someone are meaningless. Instead of worrying, focus on how good you will be - search the Internet for walking routes, excursions (for example, a boat trip around the coast), or a great restaurant with panoramic sea views, the mountain or the city. Imagine how one morning you would surprise him with breakfast in bed - something specially arranged and made to look very beautiful, and also be nutritious and delicious. How will you spend time and attention for each other. These thoughts of good things and pleasant anticipation should completely push back worries, worries and doubts. Don't give any chance to the neurosis to ruin your vacation!
If you're worried about everything, you better not go on this vacation. Holidays are for people to rest, to have a good time, not to worry. If you don't realize this and don't relax, it will be a nightmare.
You got something in the movie that you have to be perfect, and your friend is more than a man, almost God. But darling, we are all human, we all snore, we go in great need, we fart, we burp, etc. All to one! And you have nothing to fear, to imagine what could happen worst. You snore and you leave because of that - well, great, you got rid of a fool. And the chance of this happening tends to 0. The chances of having a good time without napping and overcoming yourself are significantly higher. Imagine yourself in 10 years, then you will laugh at how naive you were. He has fallen in love with you - a man with your pros and cons, not a doll sitting in one place and there is nothing human in it. Now imagine that you are not going on this vacation and you have not overcome yourself. You will have to bang your head against the wall, so many missed moments ... There is a very good thought on this occasion: "Fail faster to succeed sooner." I know it's hard for you and I've been through it, but believe me - the growth that is ahead of you is something unique and worth it. Pills also have nothing to worry about, everyone takes pills at certain times, there is nothing abnormal. And yet he is a person like you, do not bother to share with him if you have any fears, you do not have to reveal everything at once if you are so worried, little by little, after a while you will completely tell him everything. And this person next to you is to support you, to make you stronger and happier. Besides, you are a woman, the fairer sex, you need protection, a real man would be happy to help a woman deal with her fears. It's even quite charming; ) Appreciate and believe, that you deserve happiness, I think you underestimate yourself too much, and other people are "perfect", but this is far from the case. Everyone has fears and doubts, everyone has shortcomings, accept yourself as you are and only forward and upward. I am convinced that you are a wonderful person and you will overcome your fears because you deserve real happiness!
I am the author of a similar topic recently. I have been in this condition for 1 month. I want to go on vacation too, but my worries are the same. I have a friend for years, but he is very considerate of me and seems to like him .. I do not drink coffee, unlike before, I do not smoke. I can't train because I have the feeling. that my brain will burst, and in general I had no problems in the hottest heat to train .. I was prescribed tranxen, which I would like to stop now, because I drink it for a month. I fully understand you. Anyone who hasn't driven it doesn't know what the hell it is. The phone must be in me all the time. The day-to-day improvement is relative, as panic attacks come very often. I don't become a company like before: (..... I want my previous life ..... Did you go to a psychiatrist? I plan to do it .... And I guess you, as well as I, have a hard time living on this way:
Have you been together for a year and you haven't relaxed in front of each other yet? !! Apparently you don't spend much time together. It looks strange to me.
Do you have fear neurosis only when you are with your boyfriend?
What you have is a panic attack. It's awful. Do sit-ups and you'll feel better.
you need a psychiatrist not a break. by reading articles on the internet it will not happen. and how are you together for a year and he will not know about this problem? why would you go on vacation when you are nervous from now on? I'm not saying this to offend you, but you're not well, you need help. for this the country is full of madmen who shoot, barricade, kill the children of their neighbors, etc., because no one pays attention to the mental health of others, but also to themselves. what you are suffering from is not a cold, but a serious mental illness, and you must take care to cure it, not worry about it.