Have you heard the phrase "Come on, it's time for a second baby, enough with that selfishness!"? I watch people with two children - they are exhausted. They just complain. They want to die, they feel sorry for the second child, but in vain, they made a second attempt to be a boy! And she fell again a girl. And whoever was lucky enough to be a boy, is dissatisfied that he cries a lot and has no joy. They want to die and it was a nightmare. It was great to have one child, but I couldn't stand two. We plan to have one child, not only for these reasons. We are trying now and I hope it will happen soon. What do you think about the number of children - one or more? As for selfishness, I think it's up to gene and upbringing. I have a sister who is from another father, she is terribly selfish, even though we looked at both in one way. My cousin is just a child, nor is she selfish, she's super well and she's raised well, and we had terrible deprivations. What do you think, what is your experience and do you want one child or will you definitely have more children.
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4 days ago I gave birth to our second girl, I always wanted them to have children's company. Maybe people complain because they don't want to be involved. But even without children, what are you going to do so much other than go to work. And for gender, I don't think it matters.
We have ... 5..all girls .... but we don't live in bg .... I'm 28 ... but I don't want to hear about children anymore ... I even did..vasactomy
Don't plan so much that fate often makes jokes. You can give birth to twins, for example.
Bullshit. Who is exhausted? The gypsies may, but they can't take care of themselves, let alone children. Another provocative topic.
First give birth to 1 and see what it's like to look after a child, and then think about having a 2nd. I have no children, I am a 23-year-old woman, but I know several classmates from school who have 2 children each and have no problem, but are not looking for iPhones. But I'm also from a small town. If you are from Sofia or another big city, it may be difficult for you. But otherwise I don't think a person, whether a man or a woman, can really regret having a second child. I also have some cousins, who are 3, but after I turned 15, everyone started working.
I plan to have 0 children. They can't stand it, and women like you too ...
It depends on the children :) and the circumstances. I would have more than 2 (so far so many), but it is very difficult both physically and mentally, financially and logistically. I am surprised only by people with 2 grandparents constantly available, with good income, with all kinds of amenities - in such conditions I personally would not be bothered by anything. Or maybe almost. In my opinion, it is difficult to take responsibility for raising a child, to dedicate oneself to him until he becomes somewhat independent. This seems like a huge burden to me, maybe because I'm a very responsible person or rather anxious. That's why I wonder a little about people who recklessly give birth to a third child, for example, after their previous two have grown up. I am constantly worried about whether I will be able to endure them, whether I will be alive, healthy, etc., not to leave them abandoned at all due to some bad circumstances in a very cruel world. So these are very serious decisions that a couple must make and, in my opinion, think carefully. However, I definitely do not regret that I have more than one child - especially as a person who has always been alone, and although mine are very wild, completely uncontrollable and at times literally drive me crazy. But seeing how attached they are to each other and how special the connection between them is, I am convinced that all the seizures so far were definitely worth it;) out of control and at times they literally drive me crazy. But seeing how attached they are to each other and how special the connection between them is, I am convinced that all the seizures so far were definitely worth it;) out of control and at times they literally drive me crazy. But seeing how attached they are to each other and how special the connection between them is, I am convinced that all the seizures so far were definitely worth it;)
Nonsense. I have not met parents who regret that they have a second child, even if they "die". "Exhausted": - D Who can not cope with two children, will not cope with one. I am an only child, but I really wanted to give birth to at least two - and it happened.
More. Don't listen to people who just complain. Do boldly and recklessly what you want. Then everything will be fine.
I have no experience, but I think that two or more children are better, at least in terms of growth, and they will not be bored if they are together. But if you don't want more than one child, don't start making one. Forced beauty does not happen, and such a child may grow up depressed and low in self-esteem because it was unwanted, just because someone said "Don't be selfish" or criticized you. After all, life is yours, not people's. Black Sabbath
In my opinion, a person should have as many children as he can raise well - to pay attention to them, to be able to provide them with a separate room, a good education, etc. The rest are old-fashioned tales.
Honestly, you sound like a simple and illogical person. It is not good to reproduce very much, leave it to people with more adequate genes.
What are these people you are looking at? I have acquaintances with 4 children and they are the happiest family I know. The bottom line is that everything is based on people, in general, as with everything. Yours is like asking "should I take golf? I see that they drive a lot, but some others have Audis and they break a lot and burn more." Well, for some golf is ok, for others Audi, for others BMW, Lexus, etc.
In my opinion, there is something very wrong in modern society. The instinct for parenting and reproduction is the most normal thing in any species. And with people in the modern world, it has disappeared. We may want one child each, but our dark-skinned brothers don't think so. Nor the arriving migrants. And as it turned out, Bulgaria and Europe will kill themselves demographically within 2-3 generations.
When you have a cat at home, it goes crazy, it makes a lot more white than when there are two kittens and they fuck each other instead of digging their nails into the upholstered furniture and tearing the leather jackets on the hanger. Two children with a small age difference (up to 3) greatly facilitate the process of upbringing and education. When the little one passes the critical 3-4 years, he will be able to play with his uncle / poop. When the only child grows up, you will place too many expectations on him if he has to help you with something ... My understanding is that a man and a woman who find it difficult to support two children or waste too much (try to maintain a standard, who did not deserve) or lack knowledge about life and must read, increase their professional skills to reach the required minimum. 10 s
The Poles have 3-4, and the standard is almost the same as in BG. Two years ago, they made their children 120 euros, but before that it was not so. I don't know why it still weighs on us. Out of selfishness maybe. We think only of ourselves. We don't care about others
I would have two, as long as I find a wife first .... And hopefully she will survive physically.
Author: My topic was something like a study and I'm a little sad how many stupid people there are on this site. The only adequate person here for me is number 11! Apparently, indeed, 80% of Bulgarians are terribly limited and low-intelligent.
I have 1, but I want 2 more. But with the request I will stay at this stage. For the future, if I'm better it could happen
Author while there are enough intelligent people like you and 11 who think that children are made to satisfy them with "enough" wealth and attention and a separate room for each child, no matter how expansive the concept is enough. Asians will make children on a conveyor belt and one day yours will only be their slave or they will just be killed by them. For a society to exist, there must be more barbaric workers and, accordingly, one in several hundred directors, and children raised in satisfaction do not become workers. So let go, even encourage poor people to make numbers of workers so that your only children can be someone's directors. If you don't realize what I'm talking about a child raised "quality" who is given a separate room and a good education and many pockets we cannot hope to become an ordinary worker or an ordinary clerk, taught to be satisfied from a little he will seek to be satisfied as an adult. Accordingly, it will be happy if there is someone to work for him and unhappy if your poor fellow citizens do not give birth now. If you are as intelligent as you claim, you will want people to give birth so that there is someone to command your highly educated child. No matter how you look at it, every company needs only one director and dozens or hundreds of bastards, give birth to a child, educate him to be a director or a politician, but instead of trampling on more children, encourage them to give birth. Your child will need both workers and customers for the goods he will produce and the country in which he will live will need ordinary soldiers and policemen, sweepers and so on.
from 8 Tts-tts-tts! "Author", a lot of aggression, a lot of insults (I don't think we read the rules, eh?), A lot of self-confidence, was ... This, however, does not change the fact how far you are from reality. Come on, when you gain parenting experience, then speak up. And your environment is questionable.
There are many factors whether you will have 1, 2, 3 or not, but whatever you decide, it is important that your choice is conscious and personal, and not because relatives said that with more children it is better, for example . Personally, I have one and I don't think about the second. Firstly, financially I can't afford to educate and give everything I need to more than one child, secondly, I don't think my nerves will last, and I don't want to be one of those nervous mothers who scream after the children all day you are. I know that now they will attack me en masse, call me selfish, etc., but excuse me, will you look after my children if there are more? No, right. Then it is simply not right to interfere in people's choices. That's how they judged, that's their ability, they raised so many children. As for the fact that there are still primitives who give birth to a second not because they want to, but only because they necessarily want to have a child of a certain sex, but I feel sorry for them. Does the fact that your child is not of the desired sex mean that you will not love him? Isn't he your child and doesn't deserve all the love and care? But what to do, we can't change people's thinking. I hope at least that when they decided to give birth to a second, third or consecutive child just to be of the desired sex, they did not neglect their other children, and they were of the less desired sex. Because no child deserves to be neglected by their parents just because they are not the "desired son." After all, we do not choose our gender, not at birth. Now we are no longer talking about operations, hormones, etc., but at birth each of us is born with a certain gender that does not depend on him. That's why people, whether you have 1 or 10 children, love them and make them feel safe and secure, because for a child there is nothing more important than that. To know that he is loved unreservedly and that no matter what happens, mom and dad are there to protect him.
Thanks, author! Unfortunately, they are. Their arguments are more than absurd. I feel sorry for the children of such parents, not to mention those who deliberately sabotage them in order to be addicted for life. There are enough examples on the site. Just ignore these comments and do not associate with people with whom you have no common views. I support you 100% and I know that objectively this is the right thing to do. There is no point in explaining to Bai Ganyo such high things as providing a standard for children. It can get pregnant and give birth to any street fat ...