I will tell as briefly as possible my story. Many times I go to bed alone. My husband stays at the computer, telling me he has a job on it and will go to bed soon. I talked to my friend about it and he told me why he didn't check what he was doing ... One night I stalked him and saw him masturbating on Skype with a woman ... I saw that he had a new Skype. In it I saw 8 more women, I read the chronologies as much as I could and everywhere the same (virtual sex). I wanted to get a divorce and he told me that he loved me, that it had nothing to do with my love for me, that he loved them in a different way and that was such nonsense. What to do? I still love him, but I'm confused ... Is it possible to get rid of this at 3 years of marriage? Is it possible that he loves me? or is he lying to me ..? Please help with some ideas that I am so hurt and so hurt.
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.... I guess he loves you, but three years of marriage to do these things is unacceptable and wrong ...
Something similar happened to me, with the difference that we didn't live together then and he did it when I wasn't there. I caught him many times, talking didn't help. Then I decided to play by his rules. I was sitting on skype on the sites. When he got jealous and asked me what I was doing, I answered - it must be interesting and fun, so I decided to try it too. We talked for a long time. After a year or two, he told me that he came in once or twice with the idea of doing the same thing, but every time he saw the naked woman in front of him, he imagined that it might be me and he felt sick. I trust him. I don't know if this will help you, but it solved the problem for me. The man should be entertained as a small child, to have fun so that he does not think nonsense. Carefully direct his attention and goals.
Listen to your pain, not the nonsense that he loved you. If it had anything to do with it, I wouldn't let you go to bed alone. And even if he had a perverted need, he relieves his hormones out of wedlock - he can't take what is due to you and give it to random people - consciously and systematically. And it's not just about sex, but about time, attention, presence. Such creatures deserve to live their lives alone, with their half-lived something in hand.
Stop his internet. big Bad Wolf
Girls, don't take offense, but obviously sex with you is either a little in quantity or a little in quality. If you can't win with a virtual woman, I don't know. You lack imagination and initiative in bed.
See, everyone understands infidelity differently. For me, such behavior by a married man is unacceptable. If my husband does such a thing, I divorce him without thinking. This is not just a matter of disrespect for me, this is pure infidelity for me. Sex between two people is physical intimacy, pleasure, expression of passion, love. If he has decided to share this feeling with another or others - Goodbye. For such men, either their sex is small and monotonous, or they just like to fuck a lot of women. I don't know what to tell you ... it's unacceptable for your husband to tell you that he loves the women in question in a different way and asks you to put up with it. I sincerely sympathize with you, darling ... I hope you find the best solution or this unfortunate person realizes it faster, because if you have children, they will suffer the most.
Answer to №5 This is nonsense, as there are WHORES, SO THERE ARE SEXUALLY DISSATISFIED MEN. An acquaintance tore her boyfriend from sex and she was still hiccuping (as they say - a whore is a whore) The same can be said about men (who are hiccuping
To me, these are not real men. I would show him the door immediately. Maybe if I caught him in adultery, it wouldn't be as obvious to me as seeing him shine on Skype. And what to do - we can not tell you, judge for yourself. Think about how things will be in another 3 years. Then you can catch him in adultery and just as easily tell you: "But it's just sex, I love you, it's another kind of love!" And to some extent I support number 5, but only to some extent, every rule has exceptions, of course. Bad
Oh, my dear number 5, are women whose men are allowed to: a. have more modest centimeters; b. demonstrate more limited imagination (not just sexual); c. have weak financial opportunities; d. their height does not exceed 1, 74; e. tend to go bald; f. do not help at home; g. pay more attention to their tashas than to the burnt-out light bulb; with. rarely buy flowers; i. snore thunderously in front of the TV half an hour after the "sun", but wake up at 12:30 for the tour of the 'medical' channels, ... etc. to the letter 'her' ... so allowed Is it for their 'girls' to charge the batteries virtually - in search of something more spicy, more romantic, more gifted, more intelligent, according to the shortcomings at home? Huh? Because the above indicators are just as erotic for women, as much as Azis' new red haircut acts on a heterosexual man. In order to dig her legs, her work virtually, there will always be excuses! To the author: it happens after three and 30 years of marriage. Depends on the person. Do not resign yourself in any way and do not look for fault in yourself. Be demanding, firm, even nasty - and if there is no change, you better end your marriage now. It will be more complicated in years to come.
Make yourself a Skype and start having virtual sex with him, offer it to him as an idea, it may sound crazy, but you may like it, you will diversify your sexual emotions just a little bit. And most importantly - you will not need strangers to get what you want ... Q.
Author: Towards №10 Thank you I'm not weaving ... Thank you all, but I'm pregnant in 5 months which I haven't mentioned and things seem to be more serious. Sleep doesn't catch me ... I promised myself that in most cases one loves and the other pretends to love: ((Otherwise, thank you for supporting me, at least for you, that I can't share what's wrong with me :( not that I don't see where :(
Drop it - be sure that he has met some of them .. And since he mentioned that he LOVES them, albeit in a different way .. he does not cheat on you only virtually and even if so, it will soon become real! Don't waste your time with him - he is a liar and a pervert! Tony
Author: I was convinced (sorry for my spelling, but I'm not on my own: ((
Was your girlfriend's advice helpful? Did he feel better when he understood? He doesn't love you, if he loved you he would prefer you !!! I don't know what else you do with him ... As a self-respecting woman, I wouldn't let him ... To knock on wood ... !!!
The most difficult thing for any woman she loves is to overcome the differences with the man next to her. To accept that he remains subject to the urge and succumbs to every call of the flesh. Sometimes he regrets the damage, but quickly forgets and takes the road again ... Let's be wiser and outlive the ego, try to survive the unplayed boys in the name of our children and the home we all want to build ... If we can look at it from the point of view of an observer ... we'll just laugh ... right ..
Author, your husband is very ill. It's a pity for you, what it causes you is unforgivable. I would drop it even pregnant. He doesn't deserve you at all. It's a pity you didn't understand earlier what a commodity it is!
Your girlfriend is NOT your real girlfriend! Instead of calming you down and wanting you to be well, he makes you follow him and peek ... Think about that ...
There are no rules in love and war
The author: I'm telling my parents that I get along very well with him and we like each other ... and I said it for the last time no more than 10 days ago. Now what can I say that I want to get a divorce ... Because I'm pregnant, I don't want to get nervous and angry at least, that's exactly what happens to me: ((((
Tell them the truth, tell them how you feel. You have to be strong and happy for the little baby, I hope your story has a good ending. I think you are doing the right thing. Success Bad
УЖАСССССССС !!! "After every 1st time there is a 2nd time" The more you put up with it, the more it will get on your head. I sincerely wish you SUCCESS !!! ^^^^ ЛуДкАрКаТа ^^^^
Ha, author, your story reminds me of a close friend of mine - pregnant in the sixth month, sleeping in the living room, waking up from the noise - the unfortunate man who "loves her very much" fixes something in the bedroom. Well, she forgave him after a sum of crocodile tears and dramas "You're my life, forgive me?". After the forgiveness, this "man" proves his "love" to her many times ... again and again and again. Infidelity after infidelity. To me, your case is identical to hers. That she has the audacity to tell you that she "loves them in a different way" !!!! BUT GET OUT OF THIS FOOL, YOU JUST DON'T WASTE YOUR TIME WITH SHIT !!!
I was just coming back from my parents, I called my mother to talk alone as friends, I cried and I couldn't share it with her. I just told her that he hurt me, she asked me if he had possibly be me, I told her 100, 000, 000 is worse than a slap ... I lied to my mother that they told me he had another. I'm sorry, but I didn't have the strength to share it with her; (Otherwise, thank you all from the bottom of my heart. People have said you don't have a drunkard and a hoikadji at home. Thank you once again from the bottom of my heart to all of you. To be alive, healthy and the new 2012 brought you a lot of love in the homes;)
Maybe he's bored. Watch movies together in the evening, go out. This is the typical behavior of a bored man. Author, I'm not saying that the fault is in you, but I was pregnant and I know how your hormones break down and how everything looks to you at the end of the world. First of all - CALM DOWN. Try to ignore this thing and do more things together in the evening. Don't tell him you're pregnant and he's behaving. I tell you again, it is not the end of the world. (God, in a normal country, not in Bulgaria, a man would never allow such disrespect. Here, I am in England, if a woman gives birth to a child by a man and decides to divorce him, he takes a huge part of his income until the children are old. And no six five pull them directly from his bank account)
A similar case is painfully familiar to me about the difference that I am a man and she a woman. In the same way he loves them differently and me in a different way (a child will not get caught in such lies) only that the difference is big, that you are married to him and I read that you are pregnant at my expense. Don't get caught on such fishing rods if you can call yourself human. They lie out of habit now, but they don't know that they are lying, especially themselves. They understand it in their old age, but it will be too late for them. These are temptresses in my case, temptresses who entangle the victims in their webs and cause them pain. This type of people give their love to the wrong person and cause pain to people who love them. Everything is the other way around. They are made on holy waters not drunk and are rubbish. They have a high price for themselves and do not cost a penny. They should be bewitched, lied to, hypocritical, hypocritical, only outwardly resembling people, but internally they are corrupt. As I read some had written here-who was born hoikadzhiya (hoikadzhiika) such (such) will die. Such people for me personally are sick brains and are unfortunately, but if you feel sorry for them then they will hurt you again and again .... Glad that you have such a test, because you develop independently the pain spiritually and such nits will one day they are angry that they lived because life for them is clothes, eating, drinking women in my case men. Leave it as soon as possible and then you will be fine for the rest of your life. although it will hurt at first. I'm sorry you're pregnant, but don't give up, we'll all support you at least I do it 100% I think you deserve to be happy one day and not cheated and lied, because this type of "people" can only do this to perfection , but left them, then nature sooner or later returns it to them. Be healthy,
Abe people and I had such an experience and what !? It really hurt me too, I was sick of not saying he was still holding me. I'm not the husband of the woman who hurt me, but what happened so much that you even make the woman divorce. Are you all normal for nothing hey-so get divorced and given that it is a burden, instead of reassuring her you do the exact opposite. Let's not spam the topic, but everyone knows where you wrote ... didn't you make virtual love too ??? However, it is easiest to criticize ... Everyone can slip in love, even I did it and what can I do to explode ??? Come on, admit it all, no one or no one has cheated on your half-wife at least virtually? You will write not because you are all hypocrites and you like to give a shit only and break up families. And I was going to cause some pain, ah, without wanting it to ruin a family with the slightest malice, but it was not with malicious intent. What are you doing here - get a divorce, get rid of him, this one doesn't deserve you and what not. Are you sinless? If there is one, let him criticize me. You feel sorry for this one, you feel sorry for this one, if you were sorry you wouldn't want a person to get a divorce. Aren't you having bigger family problems !? Why aren't you divorced !? This is the easiest way to hit the line and say end. The strong man is known for his struggle. THE AUTHOR Fights for it, anyone can make a mistake, in your case it is still virtual. Fight if you can win it, win it again, if you see that it's not so hard for him then. Best regards: LOCO_BOT get it off, this one doesn't deserve you and what not. Are you sinless? If there is one, let him criticize me. You feel sorry for this one, you feel sorry for this one, if you were sorry you wouldn't want a person to get a divorce. Aren't you having bigger family problems !? Why aren't you divorced !? This is the easiest way to hit the line and say end. The strong man is known for his struggle. THE AUTHOR Fights for it, anyone can make a mistake, in your case it is still virtual. Fight if you can win it, win it again, if you see that it's not so hard for him then. Best regards: LOCO_BOT get it off, this one doesn't deserve you and what not. Are you sinless? If there is one, let him criticize me. You feel sorry for this one, you feel sorry for this one, if you were sorry you wouldn't want a person to get a divorce. Aren't you having bigger family problems !? Why aren't you divorced !? This is the easiest way to hit the line and say end. The strong man is known for his struggle. THE AUTHOR Fights for it, anyone can make a mistake, in your case it is still virtual. Fight if you can win it, win it again, if you see that it's not so hard for him then. Best regards: LOCO_BOT ? Why aren't you divorced !? This is the easiest way to hit the line and say end. The strong man is known for his struggle. THE AUTHOR Fights for it, anyone can make a mistake, in your case it is still virtual. Fight if you can win it, win it again, if you see that it's not so hard for him then. Best regards: LOCO_BOT ? Why aren't you divorced !? This is the easiest way to hit the line and say end. The strong man is known for his struggle. THE AUTHOR Fights for it, anyone can make a mistake, in your case it is still virtual. Fight if you can win it, win it again, if you see that it's not so hard for him then. Best regards: LOCO_BOT
26 you are not right somewhere. I understand that it is good for a person to be forgiven, to learn a lesson, but it will hardly work. When you forgive, do you think that this woman has changed, where she has caused you pain? I can say for sure that it didn't happen ... I also forgave myself and what did I achieve? Only pain and sorrow! I read all the comments carefully and everyone is right from his point of view, we are still different people. Also, many wrote that those who are used to walking, will walk again, those who were born garbage, garbage will die. 26 Will you answer me by saying goodbye to such a small soul as you describe the man here, and he is such in my opinion, that is my opinion, of course. Is it possible for such a spiritually poor person to come to his senses ??? Because I can't be trusted, because I have also suffered from such small souls and what comes out in the end they have nothing and the others hurt because of them. I can safely say to the AUTHOR dump it, the faster the better. I am a lawyer, if I need you I will help as much as I can. Really sick brains, whether men or women, should not be respected, let alone loved. These are really nits, as some wrote above, if they get stuck in someone up there. And they have no memory and no conscience, if they had, they themselves will want a divorce or at least to withdraw and live as they know, unfortunately they do not think so. Good luck in everything and we will be waiting for joy soon. Really sick brains, whether men or women, should not be respected, let alone loved. These are really nits, as some wrote above, if they get stuck in someone up there. And they do not have a memory and a conscience, if they had they themselves will want a divorce or at least to withdraw and live as they know, unfortunately they do not think so. Good luck in everything and we will be waiting for joy soon. Really sick brains, whether men or women, should not be respected, let alone loved. These are really nits, as some wrote above, if they get stuck in someone up there. And they do not have a memory and a conscience, if they had they themselves will want a divorce or at least to withdraw and live as they know, unfortunately they do not think so. Good luck in everything and we will be waiting for joy soon.
I'm sorry, darling, but if I were you, I'd cut off his dick right away, as soon as you saw her stiff and over! This is the best solution for such. An acquaintance of mine did just that years ago.
If I see my wife doing this, should I cut her clit :))))
In my opinion, give him another chance, don't divorce, sooner or later, no matter how great an artist he is, he will show his horns again, if he has a conscience, he can learn a lesson from a person. There is another point awl in the bag does not stand. You have to know him well to make a final decision. A little about the women where they write here. In general, Skype is taken from dating sites, Facebook ... Do you know how many married women I have fixed? Should I also say what kind of filthy bastards, whores you are ... When a man slaps you and says to himself egati the rift ... Otherwise you pretend to be anything, you will cut it, you will divorce ... How can I not one fell without a man, still married. My husband starts this, my husband starts ... spitting behind your back. However, some dude whose wife doesn't give him this or that starts, darling like that, darling ... Great job, that he polished the cane. Emmy, when they put the cane in you and you are ready to fly away with the one who pushed it for you ... I can write a book about what lower beings you are, but you like to give a shit. Amy, let's say at least 29, have you at least flirted with a man at least once in your life? I can ask the others here, but hardly any lower patch will admit it. You look for balaclavas to fuck and then you complain that they were the same ... Well, let me ask you, get a divorce and see what happens, because in words and praises you are a big deal. Well, you're all bloody, but don't write anymore, I'm sorry :))) And for the dude from Skype, don't fuck them on Skype, but really be them "well, because only complexes and complexes are fucked on Skype They pretend to be what they are not ... After a year or two, I can write a book to see what you are like.
30, just because you're a garbage magnet doesn't mean everyone is. Everyone was flirting. I flirt a lot, even when I have a partner, but I just flirt, I don't upload my vagina on the internet and I don't scratch it on Skype or gappy me. So save the stories and summaries of the contingent of complex, abused and dissatisfied, desperate wives that you fix. And with this dictionary and spelling, I highly recommend you not to publish a book, please! Save us the trouble. Bad
Number 28, and what if he cut off his dick, didn't the butchers stay? The checks continued with double force after that :) I don't know if you know, but there are men who can't lift it or have diabetes-damaged or frostbite limbs - and still have a craving and masturbate like women - using their dick as a clitoris. It sounded very disgusting, but it's a fact, I know from a direct source.
Ha-ha-ha You're bad and you don't push them, it doesn't mean that others are like you. If you're bad, then you're unfinished :) I just can't see where my spelling mistakes are. Besides, if I write a book about what bitches you are, I also have an editor to edit the book :)))
Intelligence - Intelligence husband - husband For commas, hyphens after a comparative degree, full and short article - I will not comment, I'm not so vague. Otherwise, I agree with one thing, bad people are definitely sexually dissatisfied, to my great joy I am an exception. Good luck with the book, I suggest the title be "Requiem for a walking penis". Good evening :) Bad
Hey, 33, I haven't supported Bad yet, but the day has come to do so. Translated, your statement sounds like this - "If you're not a rag, then you're unfinished and bad. Everything I use is cheap and good" Ha ha ha!
34, how are you going to correct his Intelligence now?
30 You are very open! The woman has posted a topic to possibly help her and how much did you sleep with, how much did you ... I think you have complexes. And more gently with the fairer sex if you like. Safe from fuckers. And for the book 34 (Bad) I fully support it, you will write 3 names with spelling mistakes. If you want something like that, leave a phone. And I'll ask you without any more stupid comments ... Locobot
Number 32, cut your dick so I can see you masturbate with your buttocks. And, by the way, this is a real story, the dude was about to die after that, they barely saved him.
THE AUTHOR: I talked to my mother about what happened, not in detail, but I said it. I don't know if my mother is right, but for the first time she tells me that her son-in-law likes him :) To forgive him and she is sure that he will not do that again. I will listen to my mother, because I don't have enough stomach pains and I have to cause others. At the moment, my choice is not so great as to make any general changes in my life. I read a lot of nonsense here :( Thank you all from the bottom of my heart,) who supported me here. I wish everyone from the bottom of my heart: HEALTH "HARMONY AND FAMILY LOVE, because for me this is the most important thing :)
Thank you for returning to your family ;-)