Hello. I am 19 years old, a student, full time. What can I say - I did well in school, and, for now at least, excellent (I still follow what is interesting to me). But my social life is a complete tragedy. Not that I don't have good relationships with the people I study with, but only on a collegial level. I don't keep in touch with my classmates, only that we have one specialty. I have no friends to go out with, to share. It's good that at least some of my fellow students from time to time go to events and other places. The thing is, I don't like big companies, bars and discos, two, three, or even just one friend, but I can't find ones with my character. I also participate in Facebook discussions, but there is no real benefit. Of course, it weighs a lot on me, to be alone everywhere, but to be honest, I've been feeling the need to have a boyfriend for a year now, and I think that's enough. In another topic on this site - "Would you be with me", almost all women had written that they do not mind being only with their partner and that their loving couples are self-sufficient. But I doubt that those around my age think so. I tried with a fellow student who seemed to be more or less like me, but she cut me. Not that I'm sorry for her, because then it turned out that we have significant differences. I have to do something, on the issue, to meet a wider circle of people, speaking boldly. Basically, I haven't given up on finding any close friends, but do you think it's normal that I'm not 20 yet, and I feel a greater need for a boyfriend, given that much more open-minded boys around me are not yet committed and have fun only with their friends? It is clear to me that girls who love big companies, discos, etc., will not tolerate me, even if they like me at first, so I will have to find someone like me who wants me. Of course, it is clear to me that no two people are exactly alike and I am ready to compromise.
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Lack of friends is a problem for a relationship on two sides. First, it will mean that you will be very dependent on your partner and it is likely that your relationship will be very suffocating. One must have a life beyond these relationships. The second is that the fact that you don't have friends is probably a symptom that something is lame in your relationships with people and you may not be able to catch and keep a boyfriend. Work on your social skills and personality. You don't have to like bars and parties, but you have to be able to communicate with people and maintain relationships.
Look now at 19 and it's generally the perfect age to find a decent girl. Then from year to year it gets harder. Of course, many women do not mind being alone with their boyfriend, but ask yourself how you would find one if you and she are staying at home :) So get rid of the dumps with colleagues - there the relationship is collegial, which is quite far from what you aim for and you will only waste your time. So do not waste your time, but try to socialize - at 19 at least it's easy and you will still find a person to your liking. Success!
You won 6 in the lottery by not having friends in those years, believe me. Act your things don't think it. I, 23 of friends and "entertainers", have so much to catch up in MY things that I will not explain to you. So you don't lose a friend. Depends de my point of view includes a lot of "parasitic" friends, if you can find valuable people will be a big plus!
Виж преди гадже си намери приятели! Гаджетата се намират в общи ковпании и партита по кнартирите. Сега си студент и тия години ще се оформи характера ти за в бъдеще, но освен учене трябва да се социализираш. За целта започни първо в курса си да бъдеш по-активен, да се включваш в дискусии между твоите колеги, все ще се намери някой с твоите разбирания и характер и малко по малко ще направите група. Срещай се със съучениците които са студенти в твоя град. Така има вероятност да влезеш в техните компании да се запознаеш с нови хора. Ходи на купони и събирания по общежитията и там се забавлявай, леки шегички с момичетата и малка по малко момичетата ще те намерят сами. Но ако си стоиш увас и само ходиш на лекции и нищо друго забрави. Това е 100% начин никога да не намериш жена. Скуката и предвидимостта са най-омразното на жените, дори тези които са като теб си търсят момче точно което да ги изкара от тяхното сиво ежедневие! Намери си някакво хоби, фитнес или нещо друго но целта е да излезеш и да се запознаваш с нови хора, да видиш и тяхната гледна точка за живота. Това ще ти помогне не само с жените но и в живота. Ако искаш да преуспееш в живота, трябва да промениш сегашния си начин на живот и мислене, да излезеш от черупката си. Ще има и разочарования от много хора, но това нека не те отчайва, а го приеми за урок. Най-важното с жените, не се оставяй да те манипулират и използват. Те усещат момчетата като теб и започват да ги манипулират и подиграват зад гърбовете им. Знай си цената!
Dude, I'm going to study a major in a few months that I'm pretty sure I won't like. The reason for the choice is the poor realization of the specialties that I like. And I'm as weird as you, I don't like big companies, I don't have a girlfriend, I don't do very well at school. I don't have self-confidence and I don't have the means to do anything. I said these things to see that there are those who are worse than you. In my opinion, in order to find a girlfriend, you will have to go out with these companies. I have personally chosen loneliness
This is the case in the world of adults. We are more and more closed in their shells. It is difficult to share. We are impatient with people and make friends just because they said something we didn't like. Get used to it
Try to find friends first and then a boyfriend! Start going out here and there, no one said you should go to discos and pubs. After all, at the age of 19, try to get to know the people around you, nothing prevents you from trying to make friends with your colleagues from the university. Not all girls like to go around pubs. What is the real reason you don't like big companies?
Hi, girl, I'm almost 20. Honestly, I recently thought about what you thought. I haven't had a boyfriend until now (I just haven't found a suitable person) and I've always been with friends, rather with girlfriends, and I have a feeling you'll be better off with a boyfriend. Although I am very much against choosing a boyfriend in front of friends, but when you think about it, it is much different, that the girl you meet may not be with you forever, but it seems that he is a safer person than friends. I don't know, I may be wrong, but at least that's what I've noticed in my friends. Somehow they put their boyfriend in the foreground and they feel super safe and he is just enough for them and when you think about it, maybe it is. And we are already 19-20 years old, we are not very big, but we are not small, but everyone is looking to find a soulmate and be with her, and friends in the background. I'm sorry for the confused answer, but I can't explain much hahahaha. I hope you understand me. :))
I understand you very well. I have been in this situation for less than 5 years. Noisy companies repel me and I can even say that even if one person is against me, I do not communicate in any way if I feel that we are at a fundamental difference and that this person is only for a table that I do not want anyway to sit down. For 2 years I have been in a relationship with a person who understands me as I am and more, even in this respect we are completely the same. And let me tell you, at least from my point of view, we are quite enough. It is very clear to me that they will tell you here that you need friends. well no you don't need it. At least my personal opinion is that if you have a person next to you with whom you can complement each other and be able to rely on each other, you don't need an accepted Eli. Today, everyone is a hypocrite, both male and female, if there is no benefit from you, they will not respect you. Not to mention that today's generation is one that going out with them is not fun, but an unnecessary degradation of the potential that you have, you claim that you have excellent grades. Find the woman who will be next to you and will accept you as she explained to us. And keep it from friends. Where envy interferes, there is no friendship. Don't try to make friends, as the saying goes, "with friends like that, you don't need enemies."
"Basically, I haven't given up on finding any close friends, but do you think it's normal that I'm not 20 yet, and I feel a greater need for a boyfriend, given that much more open-minded guys around me? aren't they engaged yet and are only having fun with their friends? ”Yes, it's normal - people develop and mature differently and have different needs. There is nothing wrong with looking for a serious relationship at this age or having different interests and entertainment from others. Stop comparing yourself and looking away - human opinion has never made anyone happy. Don't force yourself to do something that is not in your heart just for the sake of others. Do what you feel is right for you, and the right girl will appear sooner or later :)
I am 25 years old and I have no friends, believe me. There was a period when this weighed on me a lot, but at one point it just went by itself and I didn't care at all. I have been with a beautiful girl for two years and that is enough for me. A person who is truly in love and loved does not need anything else. True friendship is also a very good thing, there are such people around me and sometimes I envy them even nobly, but again I tell you if you find the right girl for you, everything else will be irrelevant. And how did I find love? Pure lucky man. She took the first step without shame and without hesitation. She was very insistent even because, in her words, she was convinced that I was the right person for her. In the beginning we became good friends, but as we got to know each other over time, this turned into love. Friends can also be traitors, you can also be very disappointed in love. Whatever happens, always keep one thing in mind. Never trust people completely, and don't be dependent on them. Betrayal and infidelity are a part of life and can happen to you at any time. We must not forget this.