Hello. I am writing to you here with a slightly unusual request. I'm 22, and I haven't done it yet. Of course, some will say it's a pity, others won't, but it's a matter of perspective. I do not deny that I have several options so far, but there was a reason not to take advantage. Of course, it would be easiest to ask a close friend, but I just don't have one who wouldn't make fun of me and take my ignorance seriously. My girlfriend and I have been together for a long time, and I still haven't raised the issue of sleeping together. On the contrary, she did it, but out of fear of my ignorance, I pretended to be hit, which is unacceptable for a man. The situation wouldn't have been so bad if I hadn't lied to her in my infancy that I was having sex, after she said I wasn't my first or second friend either. I know that when it came time to fall asleep, she would see in an instant that I was falling from Mars and just didn't want to think about what would happen. Of course I would very much like someone with experience to write me in black and white, what I am expected to do and how to satisfy her completely, on our first sleep, but I do not know if anyone will be hired to write something like this, for I will try to systematize what interests me in a few questions: - I can say that when the time comes to do it will hardly be unexpected. He means that we will know what is to come at the beginning of the meeting. In this regard, my question may seem ridiculous and childish, but should I bring chocolate or candy, for example? -Do I expect to use a condom in such cases? I am fully aware of the benefits of it and I strongly agree, that it is advisable to use, although personally I would not like to use, but I'm not sure what she will think. We have been together for a long time and we trust each other completely. (although I lied to her that I'm not a virgin) -If it comes down to not using a condom, where am I expected to end up? I'm sure I won't be able to go to the bathroom on time, and I'm not convinced that it's a good idea to do it on her or the bed the first time? -Our sex will definitely not be for one night, and we have real feelings for each other and I am ready to do anything to give her pleasure, including satisfying her orally. But I really don't know how she'll react if I go there, and asking her in advance seems extremely tactless, so should I act the first time or leave it for the next? - What follows after the act itself? For me, it would be best to snuggle and fall asleep, but I think it's only in the circle of fantasies. Guess she'll want to take a bath? I apologize again, I ask myself so banal things for all of you, but as I said, I do not want to act blindly and make mistakes.
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So when you start behaving really and admit that you didn't do it, you will only improve the relationship with your girlfriend and what and how it is done depends on YOU! Talk, comment and you will understand !!! Don't be fooled !!!
Candy and chocolate only if she loves and you want to surprise her, but not because you will have sex. You don't go to an important event to bring gifts. It would be extremely strange for someone to knock on my door and the words 'I want to soy with you, support yourself with this chocolate'. Nobody does it on this occasion. You don't go naked to her. And let it happen impulsively, without reservation. Haven't you done oral before? Didn't she play with your member? Before the act itself there is a love game, there is no need to ask her if you can satisfy her in any way, once she has experience she will always expect something. It is normal for the first time with a new partner not to go for honey and butter, do not worry about what he will think. It usually takes months to find out who likes what. If I have to be honest with my ex, sex wasn't much when we were together. After the separation, we happened to be looking for sex, which got me out of control. For the condom, it's a must, you don't even have to ask her. Finish in it and you will avoid many worries later. After the act you can do whatever you want, there are no restrictions. I wish you success and don't think so much, relax and do what you feel is right.
Hello, find a time and a way, and be sure to tell her the truth, I think her reaction will surprise you. Second - a condom! You will show that you care about her health and peace of mind. It experienced men sometimes lose control, you do not need extra worries. And why do you think he will run to take a bath, hug her, talk to her. Treat - yes, flowers - yes, good music, let it be romantic. I hope it is useless to remind you that you should be freshly bathed and with a pleasant appearance. Success!
Tighten it. There are no rules here. They do not postpone this pleasure. Sit down and tell her the TRUTH. Then the little one will do her job and you will wonder why you haven't done it so far. This is an annual Bulgarian mentality. Lies, we can be right in front of people.
I also started having sex quite late, I share my experience. - Personally, I did not say that it was my first time, the first time I did it. Male ego, shame, call it what you will. Some women may lose interest if they find out you are a virgin. In case your relationship is more serious, this should not be a factor. If you have the opportunity to confess to her - do it. It may even be a special moment for her to be your first; In any case, be confident, do not make her take the initiative. You know your own body very well, that's all you need for the first time. - Do not take it as a big deal, try to be nice and do not think. Sex happens mainly in the head. If you are worried and constantly think about whether everything is as it should be, it is very likely that you will lose an erection. From then on, trying to continue can only get more awkward. So forget about candy, flowers and all that. Do it in an environment and time in which you both feel calm, confident and comfortable. Keep in mind that the same thing happens to her. I've never seen a woman who doesn't worry when she does it for the first time with a man, no matter how much previous experience she has had. Your first time will almost certainly be awkward and will certainly not be as you imagine. Start with kisses and touches. Take your time and enjoy her body. If this is your first time, use it to get to know her. Be gentle, do not use force. - About the condom - at least for me the feeling is quite dull when I use it. Much depends on the situation - if it is not a contraceptive, you must use a condom. You need time to make sure you can control yourself and end up outside, don't take that risk the first time. Of course, there is always the fear of sexually transmitted diseases, but we accept that in your case this is not a factor. In my case, I lost my erection for the first time shortly after I inserted it. Just the combination of worry and the condom had an effect. If such a thing happens, continue with the kisses and caresses and end with a hug. You've probably done this before, the situation shouldn't be so different. You can say you are tired or nervous and ask her to give you some time. I have acquaintances to whom this has happened, and not just the first time. There is hardly a woman who has not been in such a situation with a man, so do not take it as a big deal. If there is no such problem, concentrate on your own pleasure during sex. Don't wait for it to end, don't think about what she expects, etc. The first idea is to experience your own feelings so that you know what to expect in the future and feel "in your own waters". Afterwards, you will have enough time to pay attention to her pleasure. - About cumming - going to the bathroom seems absurd to me. It is perfectly normal to end up on it. However, try not to soil the sheets too much, although this often happens :) From then on it is entirely your preference. If she doesn't tell you specifically what she wants, depending on the posture, she just ends up on her belly or ass. Of course, then you are expected to wipe, so it is good to have napkins somewhere on hand. It is most romantic to fall asleep in a hug, but different women have different preferences. In any case, you will take a shower or immediately, or after you wake up. "I don't think it's a good idea to satisfy her orally the first time." Keep in mind that different women like different things. In many cases, she won't tell you if she likes it out of worry, and so as not to offend you. If you are not good, it can only reduce her excitement, which will affect both of you. I would limit myself to caressing with my hands, watching her reactions. You can ask her if she likes certain things, but make sure she doesn't do too much. In general, I would say that the first time you talk less, the better :) In this regard - it's a good idea before you decide to do it to examine her body with your hands and have some idea what she likes . This is not chess, the fact that you touched the "figure" does not mean that you have to play with it: P And again - do not think so much, the goal is to have fun.
He number 5 has exhausted the topic - there is simply nothing to add. To reassure you, for me it was the first time with a new woman and it was different every time, only once by appointment. Don't worry at all that she has more experience than you - for me all women have been more experienced, but I never thought about it, especially the first time. I don't know if this will give you any confidence, but I think it's better to be at home for the first time or in a familiar environment - everyone feels more or less tight in a new and foreign environment. I will also give you an example scheme, which you do not have to write down on a piece of paper and follow it point by point, you can enrich it with new points or ignore some, but in general, when you feel ready, invite the girl to you, prepare yourself with some alcohol, whoever she likes, play music she likes, invite her to a dance and don't worry when your pants become a tent (this will not repel her, but will excite her further). When you have an erection on your face, do not jump in bed, kiss her (maybe not on the mouth), start slowly rubbing her breasts, but initially through the clothes - you will inevitably feel when she is ready to continue. When she is ready, you can peek (with your hands) under her blouse, do not rush down. She will tell you when you can feel what is between her legs and - if you feel it wet you can let go of the curtain, ie take off her clothes. Don't worry about the rest - he knows his job and will find the way himself to the cave, but don't let him command the situation, you go in and look, you go out and you rest from the emotion of what you saw, then you go in again to look around and go out into the fresh air again. During all this time, try not to forget that the girl has breasts, lips, eyes, ears, neck - all these things await your kiss and massage. There is no reason to worry and if you finish quickly, in a few minutes you will be ready again - the important thing is not to be surprised and to think "I failed". Whatever happens, it is important to try at least once more in the same day / night - it will be appreciated, women want to be wanted, and the fact that you can take off the plane several times in one day tells them that they are VERY desirable. in a few minutes you will be ready again - the important thing is not to be surprised and to think "I have failed". Whatever happens, it is important to try at least once more in the same day / night - it will be appreciated, women want to be wanted, and the fact that you can take off the plane several times in one day tells them that they are VERY desirable. in a few minutes you will be ready again - the important thing is not to be surprised and to think "I have failed". Whatever happens, it is important to try at least once more in the same day / night - it will be appreciated, women want to be wanted, and the fact that you can take off the plane several times in one day tells them that they are VERY desirable.