Hello, today I want to share with you a very beautiful but also painful story. I know you will judge me, accuse me, curse me, but sometimes life is too unfair to us and brings us unexpected things. I fell in love, we fell in love a hell of a lot. It all happened without us realizing it. We have known each other for 3 years, from the very beginning we got along very well and became great friends, I always felt like an older brother, and he accepted me as his younger and naive sister. Some time ago I met a man, it was all just sex, that's how we got along and that's how it should be, but over time everything went wrong. Feelings appeared THE MOST WRONG FEELINGS IN MY LIFE, for which I deeply regret and this person whom I accepted as my brother, was inseparable from me, gave me advice, but alas, I did not accept and finally, of course, he was right about everything. Anyway, I wrote this to explain to you more or less how close we were and still are. For a while, I felt and saw that he had stronger feelings for me, just his gaze, his demeanor, absolutely everything. I didn't want to believe it, and I kept calling myself CRAZY, DON'T GO DOWN ON EARTH, DON'T FILM UP, and for months I was deluded that it was just in my head, but with each passing day his feelings for me were still more obvious, but it was starting to make me happy. I wondered what was wrong with me, why I was happy about it, knowing that this thing could ruin the wonderful friendship we have, and I didn't want that to happen. Some time passed, we started to get even closer, I started to wonder what was going on. Why was it so nice, calm and warm when I was next to him, why I always wanted to be by his side, why I kept thinking about him, until one day I realized that I couldn't fool myself as much as I wanted to, and that I was also in love with this man. I was silent, trying not to show it, but our eyes betrayed everything. One night we were partying (we are in the same company), and then suddenly he kissed me. I was already told that I was not mistaken, but that everything I saw and felt was true. We had a long conversation and clarified everything we had been hiding for so long. We confessed our feelings to each other.
He told me that he would not give up on me, and I did not want to give up on him in any case, even if I hired what the consequences might be. I don't know what to do, I'm going crazy. He is constantly in my head, we are constantly calling and writing to each other, we can't do without each other. I JUST WANT TO UNDERLINE, THAT WE HAVE NEVER HAD SEXUAL CONTACT UNTIL NOW (I say this to avoid malicious comments like TK K **** ETC). We just fell in love with each other to such an extent that this love drives us crazy. I didn't want that to happen, believe me I didn't want to, but the motherfucker's heart doesn't command. Neither I can do without him, nor he without me, what can we do? Give me advice, have you ever been in such a situation? I go crazy with each passing day, more and more !!! have you ever been in such a situation? I go crazy with each passing day, more and more !!! have you ever been in such a situation? I go crazy with each passing day, more and more !!!
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I just didn't understand what was stopping you from getting together?
I just forgot to add that he is married and has a wonderful family, which I do not want to ruin in any way. And that's exactly the problem, give me advice.
So what? Is he not your brother, so that your love is impossible? !! And you haven't slept? Are you okay People sleep on occasion and it was an occasion, even without loving each other, sometimes to fight boredom and loneliness, and you love each other so much and nothing? You get into movies yourself, you know. All this hiding, non-recognition, lack of sex ... Are you whipping yourself for something?
And I did not understand what is bothering you?
Hi, it's me again. I apologize a lot, but I forgot to add that he is married and has a wonderful family that I would not want to ruin. Here is the problem
Do you know what's bothering you? You do not want to lose your faithful puppy, who is always by your side. He is not good enough for you to be your partner. You're just wasting the boy's time. You are insecure and disoriented.
So what's your problem after all? I'm tired of writing my story with any one like yours. In short, your friendship either turns into love and a relationship, or it dies when one of you finds another partner and falls in love with him. It happened to me, my best friend - the girl I was dying for and I was ready for anything, just like you did not want to see my feelings, while at the same time she was running after her great but unhappy love. I waited for her for almost two years, I was drunk during that time, until at one point I just gave up. It so happened that I found another girl, I fell in love, but this time shared, and my friendship with my best friend ended soon after because it threatened my new relationship. Tip - act as fast as possible, and just forget the nonsense about your friendship. There is nothing better than the person next to you being both your favorite and best friend. Success!
I do not understand. Is he married? Although this is not an insurmountable obstacle. Reading about "impossible love" makes me laugh. There are no impossible things, and impossible love at least. If you know, author, what my husband and I went through just to be together, you will delete the topic yourself.
You have to sleep to say you have a relationship. If there is no sex, it is as if there is nothing. Such platonic loves go only in literature.
If I were you, I'd have drunk and fucked you ten times by now!
After spitting out the stone that this man is married, I will advise you only one thing - if it is true that you have not yet had sex, it is best not to have sex at all. Such relationships never end well, there is always someone deeply hurt. I think it will be you.
You are both free, you have known each other for a long time, you respect each other and you are in love, but you can't be together, right? What? Are you afraid that you will ruin your friendship? Listen now, years ago, I also had a very good friend. We knew each other for about a year, we were in common company. He had a boyfriend for the first few months, then they broke up. I suffered for one love, but it passed. This friend of mine and I went out in company, and we wrote to each other every night. We also started talking on the phone. Then we went out in private. I enjoyed it, I fell in love with him slowly and gloriously. His behavior changed, he looked at me differently, he didn't treat anyone the way he treated me. One fine afternoon we were walking in the park, there were no people around. We sat on a bench. Then he kissed me for the first time. I was very scared too, but I responded. We talked to him. We were both afraid we would ruin our relationship. And guess what? We had already crossed a certain line, we had feelings for each other, and we could no longer talk about pure friendship. We wrote, went out, talked on the phone for a few days. It wasn't the same. We tried to keep our distance, and we really wanted to be closer to each other. Then I told him that things would not be that way. It was too late to pretend to be great friends. We could experience this love or stop communicating. And we tried. We were together for several months, but we had an infinite number of differences in every respect. We were teenagers then, we didn't know how to behave, what we wanted and we made a pot of grapes. If I could go back in time, I would only change those few days, in which we pretended to be friends and were in love. Because it was pointless. It is true that we broke up, but we remember well and to this day we are in a normal relationship. We rarely hear each other, but we help each other when needed. If we meet on the street, we greet each other, not pass each other. Our friendship was not strong, our love did not last either, but we always respected each other and had a good opinion of the other ... that did not change. I have gone your way and I advise you to call the boy, to go out and as adults to start a real relationship and give your absolute maximum. You may have a child from him in 10 years, or you may be heartbroken in a year, but your friend will never be just your friend from now on. Your relationship will never be the same as it was 2 years ago. It's too late to think, the heart doesn't ask, so let him guide you in this particular situation. You are currently tormented in vain. Give yourself a chance. I know people who have been best friends for 2-3 years, and to this day are married, happy and have an abnormally healthy relationship with each other. Have a little more faith in you!
Impossible love is always great. This is embedded in human psychology. Even in literature, impossible, forbidden loves are always remembered. The possible one is not exciting, it gets tired with time, it becomes annoying. But the forbidden is always idealized, impressive, shrouded in mystery, unexperienced and resp. is perceived as great because it engages attention the most. I can bet that if all the forbidden loves come together and all the obstacles fall away, in exactly 5 years at least 90% of them will have long since separated / exhausted.
Yes, I was in this situation, but on the other side - like the wife in the love triangle. You want advice - here's one, offer him to prove his love for you, as he loves you so much and can't get divorced and reunited without you. In this way you will make the great and impossible love completely possible. Watch how it starts to twist like a wet rope and if you have something in your head make the conclusion yourself.
№ 15 - the "boy" is a married man. She is free, he is not. The author kept silent about this detail in her topic, then added it in a comment, but for some reason it disappeared.
Moderators, are we talking to ourselves here? I ask the question: is the man married? You publish it in three days, and in the meantime the author has already clarified that yes, he is married, but her post is also published in three days, but before mine. Ie I look like an idiot with my question. Aren't you editors, aren't you? So how can we be helpful to each other on this site when we just can't have a normal conversation ?! Today, you see, I'll tell you a joke, and when I see you tomorrow, I'll hear you laugh - that's what happens. On the subject. Author, I do not advise you to engage in this relationship. You say yourself that this man is happy with his family. I myself divorced because of a man who was NOT happy with his wife. Yes, but for years he has been constantly attached to his previous family. We are currently facing separation, because I'm tired of supporting him so he can support his ex-wife and their child. At the moment you believe that in a straw hut you would live with the "love of your life", but believe me, when reality collapses on you, the picture in your mind will change. Eventually you will get to my position - with broken nerves, health and an empty purse. And think about it, since the gentleman's family is so "wonderful" to him, why did he rush to push with colleagues? Is this an honorable person in your opinion? health and an empty purse. And think about it, since the gentleman's family is so "wonderful" to him, why did he rush to push with colleagues? Is this an honorable person in your opinion? health and an empty purse. And think about it, since the gentleman's family is so "wonderful" to him, why did he rush to push with colleagues? Is this an honorable person in your opinion?