I am a woman over 40 and I want to get married a second time. The person is decent, educated, caring. However, there was absolute hell. My friends told me that I was crazy to get married, that it was unhealthy to sleep with men / true, I tried before with another /, but they did not ask me how I drove her for so many years alone with the children on holidays and weekdays. My aunt visited me at work to talk to me - I would make a big mistake, I had to live alone, the children are always angry, they do my tricks, they raise my blood pressure, especially my daughter, and my mother raised a great scandal, I scream like crazy if marry this idiot, simpleton, fat, etc. she would not look at me while she was alive, she would give up on me. I only had to live for my children, then raise my grandchildren! He sets my children badly quite consciously. He does not live with us. For a month everyone, including my student son, they boycotted me completely and didn't even want to talk to me. They don't know me. His do the same. We met in a miracle. Only one of my cousins said: Fuck them all! The bad thing is that it affects us badly and we started arguing about other people's simple things. Tell me what to do
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I am a man of about 40 happy with 3 children and a woman with whom I get along. Girl, aunt mom and dad at this age can be neither advisers nor judges. Live your life. The children will understand you sooner or later. You don't have many opportunities and chances left / I mean the years / don't be angry !!!! In old age you have to have a man next to you. If you love someone at this age - BRAVO. Decide for yourself, but I advise you - Listen to reason. You will hear a lot of opinions here. Choose the right one for you and be happy !!!!!!!!
Be happy darling. That's all I want from you. Number 1 wrote you what to do. In a few years, the children will regret the harassment they are causing you at the moment and will want you to get married on their own. So, go ahead! You are the man!
Watch your life. If you could "live" for 1 month. without talking to your son, then you can do more. "Tomorrow, he and your daughter will take their way in life, your mother ..." YOU WILL BE ALONE AS A CUCKOO. Did your aunt think you were alone on holidays? Get together with the man, you are still young - give birth to his child, create a healthy and happy family, BE HAPPY IN THE REST 1/3 OF LIFE, and to others THEIR FUCKING MOTHER (sorry, but it is so). EVERYONE DESERVES TO BE HAPPY, BUT HE WILL BE IF HE DOES IT HIMSELF, ie. IF YOU HELP YOURSELF.
Number 3, thanks for the advice, I hadn't thought that on holidays I either cried alone with the children, or I was with my parents, who sympathized with me "a lot". My son has taken the road, earns 3 times as much as me, although he is a student, but a bar of soap does not want to buy at home. You are very right. And as for more children - thank you, we both have two, to eat our souls while we breathe.
Hello! DON'T ALLOW ANYONE TO MOTHER YOUR LIFE! Each of these relatives and friends of yours goes home to their families in the evening, doesn't they ?! Nobody knows what's wrong with you on holidays and weekdays! Your children have taken their path and life in their hands - do not comply with them! You should not be left alone! If they thought well of you, all these "concerned" relatives of yours would advise you the exact opposite - to find a worthy man next to you! And since you've already found it, DON'T WASTE YOUR CHANCE! You will still need a companion in life! As your cousin told you, get them one and live your life! I wish you and the person next to you a lot of health and happiness in the future!
Everything comes back one day! Believe that there is justice! Gather your relatives and tell them: "We have decided a point on the issue!". And don't listen to them at all! Obviously there is nothing meaningful to tell you. Or put them in front of a fait accompli. I think your mistake is to let them think. If they don't like you being happy, then they think so well of you, or they're just jealous, or they're terrified that you won't pay attention to them like you used to. And for your children - when they become parents, they will come to you for help, because without grandmothers to walk around the grandchildren is difficult nowadays. Then you will watch victoriously, and how you will act is your job. So, if you are sure of the person next to you, just act without restraint!