Hello! I have the following problem and I want advice. At the age of 22, I was raped. I was a virgin. After that incident, I didn't want to look at a man, let alone have sex. After a certain time / about 6 years/nature more or less said its word and naturally the natural urge to have sex awoke in me. I found a partner, but it turned out that there was a small but not insignificant obstacle to it. I feel hellish pain at the very attempt to penetrate me.
We tried 2-3 times but to no avail. Eventually, he gave up and left me. I have a good friend with whom I shared and we decided to see what it was all about. When he tried with his finger, there was no problem with penetration, but when he tried to insert it, he told me that he felt a barrier. He entered me once but in a very naughty position. After a while, we tried to do it again, but the same problem arose - the pain. Can anyone tell me what this is due to? Is it psychologically based or am I just too narrow? Please help me!
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I think a gynecologist would help you more than any opinion here. Success!
My advice is to seek medical help, this is not quite normal. I do not want to scare you, it is probably present in many women. Go to the doctor, however, this is the safest help.
You are not too tight. The vagina adjusts to the size of the member. There are indeed such women, but that is not the problem. You have overcome the psychological problem to some extent, but there will always be a "but". Once you did, then The cause is not pathological. Seek medical attention.
Your problem is called vaginismus, involuntary muscle tightening, and thus inability to penetrate, hence the pain. All this is from a psychological point of view: (I hope you find a partner, patient and gentle enough to help you overcome this problem, good luck!
I had almost the same problem, I was not raped, but the shock of the man's very attempt to do so kept me going for a long time after that. Years later, I felt reluctant to have sex and it turned out to be vaginitis. With more understanding from the partner and good advice from an experienced gynecologist, everything is sorted out.
how can you ask for an answer to such a question from such an audience of people. seek medical help immediately !!! Good luck !!!
In my opinion, it is best to consult a gynecologist :) I wish you success!
Darling, first I want to tell you that the one who raped you must be killed in the lowest way, second go to the doctor that this is not a joke job
In my opinion, both reasons are possible, but it is best to go to a gynecologist, and if it turns out that there is no physical reason, go to a psychiatrist and I want to clarify that I do not think you are crazy, but I think that psychiatrists have ways to help to overcome difficult moments.
When you can't go there, do oral and anal. Your friend will be even happier.
As far as I understand you had sex no more than 5-6 times. It was like that for me the first 7-8 times, calm down :) Don't hurry with the gynecologists. If there is a mental barrier, things become even more complicated. As I'm not aroused or I'm worried and I'm scared to hell, I have the feeling that he's trying to punch himself inside ...