Hello! 21-year-old girl I'm very anxious and shy, but at the same time I would say that I look like a muffin (maybe to hide) I have silicone, I did my lips, I wear a lot of makeup and none of these things are striking I would say that not even obvious (unless you don't know) .. I'm not bragging, just to get an idea. I am a virgin. A year ago I had panic attacks, quite strong .. I was on antidepressants for about 7 months. They seem to have passed, but recently the trembling, the nervousness appear again ... I don't go out to parties and coffees, because I start to tremble from many people and I start thinking bad things. I can't say that stress is from work, because I like it very much, I go with desire ... I accept sex as something vulgar. I constantly hear my mother doing it and probably because of that I am even more disgusted .. I'm afraid to be closer to a person (intimately) My question is whether I will recover .. How to remove stress? Maybe if I don't think about whether the attics will return, I'll be able to find someone for me. Although nowadays everything is sex, and to get there will be very difficult.
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You will not recover. And I'm afraid of being close to someone
Go to a psychologist best. Medication helps temporarily and the problem returns. As far as I know, in such cases behavioral therapy helps.
In my opinion, the way to recover is a long and deep psychotherapeutic work, there is nothing else. I was so, and worse, with panic attacks, social phobia, many other fears and so on. and for about 3 years of psychotherapy things have improved a lot. I no longer take antidepressants and have no panic attacks, and I successfully talk to strangers.
For anxiety and panic attacks, a psychologist recommended me abdominal breathing - you go to bed and it is recommended to do it the night before bed or in the second part of the day - you go to bed, put one hand on your stomach and the other on your chest and start inhaling through your nose. you take in air with the lower part of the body - the hand that is on your abdomen should be raised first, then you move to the chest and this hand should be lifted from the air that you take in by counting to 8, so to speak, to move well. then you hold the air by counting to 4 and the count should be relatively calm for 4 seconds for example and after you have held the air you exhale through your mouth for 7 seconds slowly. Panic attacks do not pass quickly. But it all depends on you.
There is a vlogger who gets panic attacks. I recommend you see the video for her panic attacks as well.