I never thought to write on such sites, and I did not want to share my personal problems. But lately, it seems to me that I can't take it anymore. It seems to me that I want to leave my wife. The problem is painfully familiar to many of you. It is called jealousy - terrifying, round the clock and aggravating. Let me be more specific. We have been married for many years. In the beginning I helped a lot for the upbringing of our first child - my wife was not in BG. When he returned, the faint symptoms of jealousy began. I could never go out alone anywhere. I forgot all my friends for a very simple reason. After each gathering, there were long analyzes for each and every one of them, and they were all bad. The women must have been uglier than mine, and she didn't calm down until she heard it many times. Sometimes until late at night. I started working, sometimes I had to work at night. She kept ringing for half an hour on any occasion. My colleagues laughed. We stopped inviting people other than those with obviously ugly halves. He kept asking me about the service and the women there in great detail, around the clock, and the questions kept recurring. A few years ago, my wife lost her job and then it got even scarier. She started making me call her on the phone before I left, before I left work, getting on the bus, on the bus, etc. That didn't work out, but she started coming to work with me and staying in this area for 8 hours a day as we had to have lunch together. All colleagues analyzed themselves daily - how she was dressed, what she looked like ... The reproaches and accusations about this and that, with whom I had to have an intimate relationship, were not late. A colleague became pregnant and the child was declared to be mine.
The harassment with the phone is terrible - if I stop picking up one, the other rings immediately and discussions start for hours. I am in danger of being fired. I hate riding in a car with my wife. Then we are together and I have nowhere to hide - these are her moments when she just drives me crazy with comments, accusations and remarks. Our children do not want to stand around us. For 5 years now, my wife has been looking for a job, but also so that she can travel with me, be around me, meet me and be at home before or with me. People, my time is counted in seconds, the money in my wallet is always counted, and my phone is checked every 2-3 hours when we are together. Terrible paranoia. I have a lot more, as for a whole book, but I also consider your patience. Thank you. The harassment with the phone is terrible - if I stop picking up one, the other rings immediately and discussions start for hours. I am in danger of being fired. I hate riding in a car with my wife. Then we are together and I have nowhere to hide - these are her moments when she just drives me crazy with comments, accusations and remarks. Our children do not want to stand around us. For 5 years now, my wife has been looking for a job, but also so that she can travel with me, be around me, meet me and be at home before or with me. People, my time is counted in seconds, the money in my wallet is always counted, and my phone is checked every 2-3 hours when we are together.
Terrible paranoia. I have a lot more, as for a whole book, but I also consider your patience. Thank you. The harassment with the phone is terrible - if I stop picking up one, the other rings immediately and discussions start for hours. I am in danger of being fired. I hate riding in a car with my wife. Then we are together and there is nowhere to hide - these are her moments when she just drives me crazy with comments, accusations and remarks. Our children do not want to stand around us. For 5 years now, my wife has been looking for a job, but also so that she can travel with me, be around me, meet me and be at home before or with me. People, my time is counted in seconds, the money in my wallet is always counted, and my phone is checked every 2-3 hours when we are together. Terrible paranoia. I have a lot more, as for a whole book, but I also appreciate your patience. Thank you. I hate riding in a car with my wife. Then we are together and I have nowhere to hide - these are her moments when she just drives me crazy with comments, accusations and remarks. Our children do not want to stand around us. For 5 years now, my wife has been looking for a job, but also so that she can travel with me, be around me, meet me and be at home before or with me. People, my time is counted in seconds, the money in my wallet is always counted, and my phone is checked every 2-3 hours when we are together. Terrible paranoia. I have a lot more, as for a whole book, but I also consider your patience. Thank you. I hate riding in a car with my wife.
Then we are together and I have nowhere to hide - these are her moments when she just drives me crazy with comments, accusations and remarks. Our children do not want to stand around us. For 5 years now, my wife has been looking for a job, but also so that she can travel with me, be around me, meet me and be at home before or with me. People, my time is counted in seconds, the money in my wallet is always counted, and my phone is checked every 2-3 hours when we are together. Terrible paranoia. I have a lot more, as for a whole book, but I also appreciate your patience. Thank you. to meet me and be at home before or with me. People, my time is counted in seconds, the money in my wallet is always counted, and my phone is checked every 2-3 hours when we are together. Terrible paranoia. I have a lot more, as for a whole book, but I also appreciate your patience. Thank you. to meet me and be at home before or with me. People, my time is counted in seconds, the money in my wallet is always counted, and my phone is checked every 2-3 hours when we are together. Terrible paranoia. I have a lot more, as for a whole book, but I also appreciate your patience. Thank you.
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Бягаааай!
I experienced it with my ex-husband. RUN !!! Before you finally lose yourself, run and don't turn around!
I hope this story is not true .... But, most likely it is. Your wife needs serious psychiatric treatment.
You are the most patient person in the world. If we truly love someone, we must compromise if we want to be together. But if the harassment like yours is so great, I doubt you love it at all anymore. You probably don't leave because of your children. I would really advise you to make your decision entirely according to how you think you will affect your children. If they are big and they will understand you, then what are you waiting for. But if they are small, you will inflict great trauma on them. My parents always quarreled to the point of talking about divorce, but they never divorced and I thank them, then they would cause me great trauma. But now I understand them and I don't care if they are together or not, I would love them both, even if they live in different houses and don't talk to each other. So it's all about the kids. If they are small I think
And now, at the risk of being attacked by the philosophers of the forum, the so-called old muzzles, because they know each other, I want to ask you one thing - was that the case in the beginning? When did this problem appear? Did you give any reason for this stratum of insane jealousy? If it was like that before you got together and had children - why not think about it? And if she wasn't like that - why don't you think about it now - what provoked her, because she has a problem and doesn't think at all that you don't participate in it.
Wow, is that so bad? I've always heard of jealousy, but it's really serious. Maybe you should talk to a psychologist, I'm starting to think it's a disorder.
Oh run away!
The judge asks the accused: - Defendants, why did you kill your wife after 30 years of marriage? - Well ... out of laziness ... - How so out of laziness ?? !! - Well, so - today and tomorrow ...
This is harassment! I was not so extreme in my opinions, but I support you for your decision to leave your wife! Write us what you have decided and how things are going with you!
A woman with a brain sick of jealousy, negative and sucking - an energy vampire .... Brother, save yourself !!! Is this your life? .... And your children to constantly listen to what she fantasizes about, horror .... g46
Pathological jealousy does not necessarily have to be provoked. This is in connection with the question to the author whether he did not provoke these excesses in his wife. I will say one thing about the trauma of children in divorce - there is a trauma. But do you know what the trauma is for children in a poisoned family. Scandals ugly words and unhappy parents who just hiss around. It's best to tear up this maniac's receipts. But I just do not understand how 5 years does not work. Are you the only one who supports the family? If it doesn't work, only you watch who is looking after the children. Who educates them, who does the housework. Which ones? !! There is too much time for Maya and enough money for her to experience herself as a detective. If you can't leave her, remind her of her responsibilities. Is she a woman or something?
Have sex every night. Maybe, seeing that you want her regularly, she will stop being so jealous and think that you are sleeping with others. At least the satisfied woman is calmer. Try and write what happened.
From the Author - He never gave himself a reason for jealousy - at least such as normal people think. 4 years ago a colleague I work with sent me an SMS asking me why I didn't come to work by myself (I just had a cold). Since then, she has been number one on the list of suspects. I asked her not to send anything anymore, but I had to tell her about my problems. We talk about it often, but I'm sorry - it's not my style. She is the one with the child, but she is happily married. She did me a favor and moved to another office on her own. Our children are not doing well and are no longer at home. Recently, one (16) was poisoned with alcohol and remained in a coma for several hours. They saved him, thank God. It's always been that way, I admit it. But in the past I somehow didn't see him, I thought it was normal for her to be with me all the time. However, control and scandals have taken ugly forms. I'm a pretty big man myself and I'm telling you that one day I might just hurt her badly or worse. She can't calm down with a watch alone. I am interested in the question of the household. She always makes me participate and be there alone. Never anything alone. Never! I have to work hard to connect the two ends, but as you can guess, I finish from home. It couldn't be otherwise ... she's ringing all the time. There is often nothing to eat because she does not go to the market alone. Do not cook alone and do not clean yourself. Every day, the sexes who wrote it, I wish they would interrogate you during sex for the job and call you to fuck others. I hope it happens to you! Never! I have to work hard to connect the two ends, but as you can guess, I work from home. It couldn't be otherwise ... she's ringing all the time. There is often nothing to eat because she does not go to the market alone. Do not cook alone and do not clean yourself. Every day, the sexes who wrote it, I wish they would interrogate you during sex for the job and call you to fuck others. I hope it happens to you! Never! I have to work hard to connect the two ends, but as you can guess, I work from home. It couldn't be otherwise ... she's ringing all the time. There is often nothing to eat because she does not go to the market alone. Do not cook alone and do not clean yourself. Every day, the sexes who wrote it, I wish they would interrogate you during sex for the job and call you to fuck others. I hope it happens to you!
Unfortunately, I don't think you have much choice ... and believe me, things will get worse over the years. You better make the decision now and really save yourself. Unless you can get her to see a psychologist and fight together. I'm jealous too, but I haven't even thought about doing the things you describe. Everyone should have a little personal space, and with you this is lost. I do not believe that anyone wants to return home, where another scandal awaits him, even the children. I wish you success, whatever you decide!
Author, I sympathize with you and I am shocked by your story, and I am a woman of 40. I do not need to add - run with 300 and save yourself, but take your children, and talk to them first. Here are some practical tips from me. I experienced something where I had to get out and take the child. Except that I was not watched on the streets. There was terror at home. However, I had to shop, cook and do it. I was preparing. a little luggage, a backpack hidden somewhere at home, and I went to the market. At the last moment, as I was going out, I grabbed the backpack with me - and right in the elevator. I had already rented accommodation and a little, a little I took out my main luggage in it. And after 10 days I just blew. I stopped picking up the phone and put it on vibration. I had a car - I parked it behind my new home, a panel block, so that it could not be seen by some purely theoretical possibility. Before I left, it was facing the warehouse.
You say the little signs started when she came back from abroad. If so, she probably had a relationship there. Very often the pathological jealous people cheat themselves and, coming out of their own behavior, start harassing the person they are with. And if she was like that from your acquaintance, it's a little strange to me that she went out alone for a long time and left you out of control. I just don't care. But anyway, she is sick and the only way out is a psychologist with multiple sessions. But this is unlikely to happen, because for these people the abnormal is normal, ie it does not need treatment. I think that in order to keep yourself mentally, you have to divorce. She will not change, it will only get worse, and her imagination will run wild when she decides that she is getting old and will not be so attractive. You have no useful move other than divorce. Jealousy always has its reasons and one of the main ones is the low self-esteem of the jealous person. And only a psychologist can handle this.
from 13 Wow, man, you're in the egati movie. Jealousy, jealousy, but what is this woman who is waiting for you, the only one working in the family, to come home and clean together, to cook? !! And what does she do all day? Follow you? Well, I'm sorry, but that's not normal, not just because she does it, but because you've allowed it and still allow it. Your wife is acting idiotic, and you're sitting here complaining. But take her tight, man, show her who the man is. Yes, who is the man, show her. How he will undermine your authority in this way, how he will follow you and make scenes for you, how he will not take care of the household, since he has no other professional commitments. How so? I wonder how you allowed such a situation. Take conversations with her, knock on the table if necessary, hint to her who makes the money in this house (yes, as rude as it sounds, do it), tell her you don't mind, that it doesn't work, but you mind when you come home it's unclean and you, who carry the money, are hungry and have yet to cook. Tell her that in order to want to have a faithful husband, she must first be a woman on the spot and a mother when needed - that is, 24 hours a day. And for sex, when you open your mouth to discuss her nonsense, you stay dry. And threaten her, if all else fails, that you'll get a real mistress if she doesn't stop. I don't know how you endure, really, but this is not your human situation. For the sake of the children and for yourself - take measures. Success! you leave it dry. And threaten her, if all else fails, that you'll get a real mistress if she doesn't stop. I don't know how you endure, really, but this is not your human situation. For the sake of the children and for yourself - take measures. Success! you leave it dry. And threaten her, if all else fails, that you'll get a real mistress if she doesn't stop. I don't know how you endure, really, but this is not your human situation. For the sake of the children and for yourself - take measures. Success!
I was wrong, the previous comment is from number 12, not 13
I have not commented so far, because in such a topic the comments can only be in one direction. however, the latest clarifications threw me straight into the orchestra. author, let's list the facts: you work, support the whole family, take care of the household, report every minute, every penny and every word said, you endure scandals ... if you decide to leave your wife, call me: - ) now seriously: I did not suggest that a man could be depersonalized to such an extent that he could both support the family and give an account of everything down to the smallest detail. don't you have dignity ??? how will he ask you for an explanation for every minute ?? how is it possible to expose you so in front of colleagues and acquaintances ?? and what is this beauty doing - nothing but lurking and listening to you! neither shopping nor households, only parasitizing and raising scandals !! I don't know how you put up with all this. everything must have limits. don't say it's because of the children, because they're obviously big and they need a very wrong family model. I just have no words, how can some get on the heads of their halves! F42
Take care of your family, if you start like this, my wife is very jealous. Apparently you also gave some reason for jealousy. Does a colleague give you five levs ????? Or wash your socks, hug your wife more calmly and live your life. If, on the other hand, you have so much desire for someone else's, go to some p ..... ka to fix you and go home. People like you know them to attract everyone's attention "His wife is very jealous", I feel sorry for your wife!