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Parents Are Quite Obsessed With Their Children And Do Not Recognize Other Children Besides Theirs

By afin093 July 21, 2020 5 answers Last updated July 21, 2020

My problem is not so big, I try to show understanding to them as well, but I am irritated by mothers or fathers who are obsessed with their children and live only for their children and are ready to step on other people's children for the sake of their children.


I also wanted to have parents who would love me and take care of me, but I didn't have and maybe the fact that I wanted leads to this feeling in me towards such parents worried and obsessed or because I get into such situations in which I struggle myself (for example, I went alone to fill out applications for university entrance and I meet such parents where they want and they make me fill in their applications or explain to their children to help or in other cases again to foreign children, and I'm sick, why didn't I have such parents, and I had to fight for everything on my own?

And I noticed that because of the obsession with their own children, some of them forget about their husbands, and they don't care if they will be trampled only by their children.


Tell me about your opinions ... I try to understand them and be good, but it hurts me that I didn't have such protection, and I get annoyed with them ... and I shouldn't.

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dominikskwar answered · July 21, 2020
Human life is an ego. With age, the ego begins to die - mentally and physically. He has to make this transfer from the personal, to the children, and then to the grandchildren. It's pretty simple. I don't know how old you are, that you don't understand what selfishness is, what death is, how reproduction and the life cycle are ...
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xxforever84xx answered · July 21, 2020
I'm annoyed too
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macfolio answered · July 21, 2020
It is good to receive help and support from your parents, but when a certain limit is exceeded, it becomes harmful. Do you think it is a good idea for parents to come and help their 18-19 year old children fill out their application for university ?! That if they can't do it alone by this age, imagine what amazing mother's sons and daughters we are talking about, completely incapable of dealing with the most basic thing in life on their own. So don't envy them! They will still understand what a "bearish" service mom and dad did them with their excessive pampering. Therefore, rejoice that even though it was sometimes difficult and painful for you, that your parents are not like that and do not support you, you have learned to be independent.
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415lolita answered · July 21, 2020
It is normal to help your child, but you also need to teach him to cope alone. You don't owe anyone to fix it. You're just sad that no one took care of you like that. In that case, become a parent yourself and take care of yourself. Put yourself first and be your "obsessive parent."
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brieneblair answered · July 21, 2020
And how exactly do they crush, asking for help with any documents? !! You have a place at the university, no one will take it from you. You sound like those who don't let you rewrite their lectures if you're absent. It's as if there are a number of good grades and if they help they will fuck up somehow. Or they just get annoyed that you can achieve the same result with less effort. The thing is, as the period with the grades in the book passes, real life begins. No one counts your points anymore, but looks at how you are doing in the real environment. And those who, if they help, feel fucked up, can't work in a team, everyone is to blame and they just sabotage the team, and thus the company's activity. And instead of looking at their work, they look closely at the work of others, who, how long they have lunch and why, hell, gets the same salary. Just because someone succeeds doesn't mean they steal your success. There are sixes for everyone, do you understand? There will be one where the parents not only fill in their documents, but also write their term papers or buy their exams. There will be those who will get a high position with connections, or whistles, all that. However, they do not steal your success, you steal it by focusing on them instead of on yourself. The easiest thing is to be a victim forever, to have more of others forever, to be fucked forever, but to be such is a choice, not a consequence of circumstances. And I in the queue at the traffic police, I saw 20-year-old boys with their mothers, they can't copy their ID card data on an application. And I heard how they took their driving from the first time, and I showed up 3 times, I can't envy them, man. Neither for the mother, nor that they coped faster. On the contrary, it became tragicomic to me.
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