Hello, I am an 18-year-old girl and I live with my parents and my younger sister, who is 10 years old .. I wonder where to start .. Well, I have a boyfriend of 1 year and 5 months almost and ours are against him .My constantly quarrel with ours because of him, my mother and my father constantly find claims against him. But my friend's parents used to be against him being with me, but after a while they agreed, but ours want to part with him and I don't how to allow it because I love it. My mother just remarks to me she doesn't let me go anywhere, I started going out of 8th grade and to this day my mother forbids me to go out with anyone, even with my girlfriend I went to discos 2 times and that was it. They constantly threaten me that they will stop my money and that they will not give me a ball .... I am still studying and I have a ball coming up ..
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They are not right, but do you know that whoever pays, orders the music? As long as you live under their roof, eat their food and your score depends on their money, you will listen to them, there is no way! When you start to support yourself, move out and start working, then you will be able to do whatever you want.
They are just afraid of bloating at 18.
Once you have a ball, you have little time left to depend on them. persevere until then, then find a job with your friend, move out together and live happily ever after.
What kind of people have they commented on? At the age of 18, a great love for a year and a half - to move out with her boyfriend, to get pregnant for a year and then to serve him and his parents for the rest of her life, without education and without income ... Author, now you won't believe me, but ... be very careful not to get pregnant and try to continue your education after the ball. I'm sorry to say, but your parents are right, they're just wrong about you. Life is not flowers and roses. There is no person in this world, be he the best or your greatest love, when you lie on his hands and become dependent on him (due to lack of income, housing, education, one or two children), who does not get bored, to do not decide that you are a burden to him and not to abuse you. I hope you don't understand it the hard way - be very careful. Love is followed and family is made, ONLY when you are on your feet or have a strong back. Then you are an equal partner and you can receive and / or demand attitude and respect. And since you are nobody (without the support of your parents, unemployed and uneducated) and you live with your husband's parents, guess if they will look at you like a princess. I know that you are only 18 and it seems to you that this is the love of your life - but believe me - if it is true, he will want you at 28, and if he is not 1-2 years old you will be on the street or vice versa. at your. The time to choose has not yet come - not yet. that this is the love of your life - but believe me - if it is true, it will want you at 28, and if it is not up to 1-2 years you will be on the street or back to yours. The time to choose has not yet come - not yet. that this is the love of your life - but believe me - if it is true, it will want you at 28, and if it is not up to 1-2 years you will be on the street or back to yours. The time to choose has not yet come - not yet.
"What kind of people have they commented on?" - some kind of obedient housewives.
Your parents are right to worry because it is not known if your friend has serious intentions. They actually wish you well and want to protect you from mistakes and disappointments. Try not to be annoyed by them, but instead respect them and listen to their words. Every person has a unique destiny and it cannot be said that a man married at the age of 24 is necessarily more successful in marriage than a 19-year-old, but still with age the person becomes more reasonable. Here, however, the rule of the golden mean applies - after a certain moment it is possible for the mind to prevail over the feelings in such a way that a love affair is impossible. We see this in many dating ads - there are so many specific requirements that finding a partner is like a deal. Now let your school take precedence. Decide if you will apply, what are your strong subjects, what professional realization can you have if you complete the desired specialty? Nowadays, higher education should not be an end in itself - I know enough graduates whose diplomas are just unnecessary expensive papers. Think well. If your friend is serious and cares about you, I will wait for your completion.
Mila, to some extent, they can't forbid you to do anything, even if you are an adult. If you know what to start, save something hourly and get rid of them when you're done. Go both to study and work away from them.
In fact, we don't know your parents' arguments about why they don't like your friend.
Well, they don't like him because my parents don't like his .. And I think he's the same, but it's not like that .. I'm not so stupid that I don't see how things are .. It's just that my mother has been like that for a long time .. And for her it must be the perfect .. To have money cars, etc. I'm not one of those girls ..
".... they constantly find pretensions to him. .... I'm still studying and I have a ball coming up" better concentrate on the teaching ...
"I'm not so stupid ... I'm not ...." And is it?
Maybe you should listen to them. It's hardly about money, since you're only 18. However, there are still only assumptions, and you present things only through the prism of your assessment. However, I realized that your mother has many requirements, and that means many arguments.
If you have a ball coming up, then you are already 18 or you have even passed them. How will yours put you in order? Sit down and talk to them, explain to them how things are and tell them how you feel. In any case, if it comes to choosing between your parents and a relationship for a year or so, choose your parents.