Hi, I feel terribly depressed and knocked to the ground. To live in a small town and all people to interfere and interfere in your personal life. To judge you, to spit on you and to insult you just because I am a single mother. I broke up with my child's father shortly after he was born. Behind closed doors, no one knew what mental and physical harassment I was facing, and the newborn could not stand it. She shouted at him from above with all her might that she hated him. She was pushing his cart, she couldn't stand his crying. He made me sleep at 17 degrees air conditioning because it was hot and the child would comply. The horror was minute. The baby was terribly frightened by all the screams, bumps and scandals. I gained courage and an opportune moment and returned to ours. Yes, but no one knows that. Outside, I tried to be smiling and cover up all the harassment we were subjected to. As a punishment, and to show our whole small town (5,000 people a handful), he soon caught a girlfriend. Forget he has a son. They began to flaunt their relationship. As well as a massive campaign against me. That I didn't let him see my son, that I tied him up with a child so I could get his money, that I was spoiled, that I was with other men. And all sorts of filth and lies in my address. People look at me nasty and reproachful. Trying to explain the truth, they do not believe. In front of the society he builds the image of a good and serious man. The parents of his new one are glaring at me. They whisper when they see me, they look at the child with a nasty look. Every time it and I have done something to them, I have neither looked for the new one, nor do I need nor do I intend to. In any case, the child and I are a fact. And it's not our fault that their daughter caught a man, who has a child. My heart is constricted, it hurts from all the slop. Everyone is staring at me, I'm always a leper. I do not have the opportunity at this stage to move to another city. Please help me give advice and ideas on how to overcome this horror.
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Which is this town or at least in which area is it, I am a woman in the same situation and we would be useful
It was good, how do you find them and get along with such men !!! ???
It has always been strange to me that the people of the small town do such nonsense. I'm sorry, but you're on their minds too. What do you care who says what, etc.? When it irritates you so much, grab your pears and live elsewhere. What else can I tell you?
Hello, I know everything very well. The only solution is not to care, to have a few close people, the rest to say what they want. If you can achieve that. If you don't move, otherwise they will ruin your life. And finding a new man will affect him as they affect you. I don't live in a village, but I have a grandmother in a village, I know how to gossip. The gossip for me too, I go once a year and I don't beat almost anyone. They meet me on the street, talk to me and ask me, and I lie to them and joke with them. Lower slugs feeding on gossip and misery. Get out of there.
It is very difficult for me to judge the real situation based on your scarce information. Some things seem quite subjective to me, such as that he had caught a girlfriend "for your punishment." He caught a friend to sleep with her .... On the other hand, I have lived in such small towns and I know how it is .... the combination of mediocre people and lack of other entertainment pushes people en masse to interfere in the personal life of others, to be stunned, etc ... Unfortunately, the only normal way to avoid the situation is to move to another place, which you exclude as an opportunity ... I would do something else, but this is purely male logic and no the mother has no will to do so: if they rebuke you for not letting him see the child, I would go to them and take him with the words. "
Look now, you should at least care about his new girlfriend's parents, just because after a while she'll come to your hall and then they'll be ashamed to show up. People like your ex don't change and are unlikely to be any different with her. And for the rest of the people you don't care, look after your child, find another activity, go out with friends if you can count on yours for the child. Just delete it from your life, if he still wants to see it, don't restrict his access, but if he creates problems, file complaints where necessary. You did the right thing, unlike other women who have endured such harassment all their lives and their children become either abusers or victims. For people, as I told you not to care, it is very easy to give sentences on someone else's back without experiencing what you have experienced. Success!
come to sofia, here you will merge with the crowd Catch someone take the child and welcome She is almost all of Bulgaria is here so two more or less is still this If there is no one I will find you only the moderators to allow and at the same time Sounds simply but that is the situation
No way! What age do you live in? !! Watch your child and your own peace. Don't deal with them. They will teach you and stop dealing with you. Nobody knows what has never happened before, but apparently your fellow citizens have no other entertainment.
Don't think about the others, make sure you are well, as soon as he finds another, it's not a commodity ... Don't care ...
So ... I give advice immediately! You don't care, but you don't care! I went through the same ordeal, but! I have never, to anyone, given an account or explained myself. My family knew what it was about, and so did a handful of people close to me. From there, everyone should think what they want. So whoever knows you should not be influenced by intrigue. Well, he and I were making a great martyr, he wanted a child, he was waving lovers, but when they realized how much money it cost, he tried to take it home. He started threatening to kill himself, circus as much as you want! He did not pay alimony, I gave it to a bailiff and at least in this respect he corrected himself. He hasn't looked for his child for 5 years - he probably says that I don't give it to him. But knowing the truth, I don't care at all. Watch your child, you will see that sooner or later the truth will shine on its own.
This is your version. What filth have you created, you don't brush your teeth, and nothing happens without a reason or counteraction. I can only remember such chirping stories.
Unfortunately, this is the case in small settlements, people gossip and they judge without even inquiring how things actually stand on the other side. You have 2 options, you stop caring about people's opinion and you walk with your head held high or you take your child and move to a bigger city where no one will know you and you start your life fresh.
And in the big cities people get confused and gossip, I don't think it's only in the small town, but it is massive in Bulgaria.