The topic is not a provocation at all. Please don't attack me. And there would certainly be men who would find her attractive, as well as me not so much, but personally according to my taste, she does not attract me at all. Make no mistake, for 90% of people, appearance matters. I don't want it to be on the cover of a magazine, just to be nice to me. I had a relationship with a great beauty, literally everyone found her beautiful - green-eyed, dark-haired, perfect skin with a nice complexion, fitness body, breasts and ass. And she was very intelligent. However, it turned out to be a lot of rubbish, he always expected me to spend money on it, he always grumbled about small things, he dumped me because of a friend with whom she had cheated on me earlier. For a long time I didn't want a boyfriend, we were with her for years after all, and it hurt me a lot, but the physical attraction was at its maximum. I only got an erection when I looked at her or even thought about her. Now I met a very good girl as a character. It's not like the former social butterfly. We have many common interests. She likes me and even shared it with me first. We can literally talk to her for hours. However, it is very ugly, especially in the face. Her body is flat everywhere, but that's not such a problem. However, the face. She has very small eyes, constantly wears glasses (which are sexy on a sexy chick), a big curved nose, but really striking. She also looks bad with makeup. Her skin is also kind of naughty, red with holes when not maintained. Mouth thin, as they say as a mother-in-law. Well, she's not beautiful. I'm not very pretentious, I would like almost any pretty girl with common topics of conversation. But she's terrible. And I wonder if I should do it at all, how to cut it without hurting it. I feel bad for a reason, but you have to be attracted. If it's the body,
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If I were in your situation, I would cut off contact with her so as not to deceive her. If things didn't go that way, you would have a great friendship at least. He spoke rudely about her and in too much detail. Clearly she's not your man, but try not to hurt her. This filth is hard to swallow.
I have always respected sincerity, but this detailed description was superfluous: D.
There is no attraction going on. You can't force yourself. Start ghosting lightly and she will understand the hint.
Why do you even force yourself to be with Baba Yaga's daughter? If someone not only doesn't like you, but repulses you, what connection ?! Beauty cannot be forced.
I think that everyone has the right to happiness, but there must be a real assessment of people and themselves. The girl is not for you, so it will seem that you are with her in despair. From your history, it is clear that you have the potential for better. Look for something visually acceptable, because tomorrow you may have children and they will itch the crushed potpourri. Women commit a crime by catching all sorts of culprits and giving birth to children because they look at profit and adjustment. Appearance is far above social status and behavior, but this will not be realized even after 100 years. Some time ago one of them said that for a man it doesn't matter if he will be nice, ok, but for children it is IMPORTANT. One has a choice before oneself to seek the good. An overweight minion came at me too. She traveled everywhere by car and followed stupid diets, and that doesn't happen with diets and you don't get out of the car. She did not walk on the street for 300 meters. I don't need drones. You need movement and sports. Otherwise, she was good-natured and pretty in person. It was obvious that he would become a nice guy after losing 15 kilos, but he just couldn't lose them. She is looking for something like the first one, but I hope she is good and honest.
If you don't like the girl, don't go out with him. People are not some interchangeable pawns that you can take and throw away as you want. He tactfully withdrew from her life.
Is ...? Will you live with her photo or with HER herself? You don't seem to have learned the lesson the first time, and it was obvious! Well, you will suffer until you learn it ... PS You can get an erection when you see someone, if the sex you have is amazing ... You get a conditioned reflex. It's not as early as the appearance, but it's a fact ...
I destroy you perfectly. Yes, character is more important than beauty, but as a gram does not attract you, you know very well that it will not be. Explain to the girl that it doesn't work out on your part without going into details and end the relationship until she's completely sunk, that she will experience it even worse.
Never, never, but never deal with women you don't like. Nothing good comes of it. Cut off contact with the girl little by little, and she should feel that you have lost interest. Brother.
You're very right 8, but a lot of people are brainwashing young girls that appearance didn't matter, that they had to "give a chance" to ugly men because they were better-tempered, more literate, and so on. .
That's right, without attracting a love affair can not be realized. No matter how you refuse her, you will hurt her because there is no painless way to tell them they don't like you. What you can do is say you don't want a relationship / you don't feel ready and so much. You will not delve into why and how. It is the least evil.
After years of marriage, it is important to get along with the person ... and like him outwardly, but to understand each other more well ... relationships based on appearance are not built.
If a woman had written it, they would have destroyed her, that she didn't like "decent" men (not that there was anything decent in them), that matchmakers would only throw her up and beat her, that she would end up divorced because she didn't like unattractive "decent" men. men, how can she not be ashamed to have any criteria and not just go on. It's a two-sided job, hey ...
Things don't happen without physical attraction. Don't deal with this girl anymore, because you give her hope. But I do not agree with number 8. If a person just looks for something "better", he can be left alone forever, in eternal search, because with something someone else will surpass his potential partner and so on. I explained it a little badly, but I think you understand what I mean: D And even after a age, a person understands that there are much more important things than appearance.
A'be, your detailed description amazed me in the negative sense of the word, but I understood you perfectly. The girl is not to your liking at all and you can't blame your soul. This is the situation, there is nothing to do! You can't tell her without being really rude. I advise you to just explain to her that you like her as a person, but not as a friend. Things can't work out when her appearance repulses you so much. Not that anything, but it's humiliating for a woman to have her boyfriend consider her ugly. Don't explain yourself too much, by no means be as descriptive as you have been here. I think this is the most discreet way to tell a person that you don't feel attracted to him.
20 Yes, and for this they sit viciously, complexed to the point of pain and rejected by all. And better yet, we do not have to multiply the mistakes of nature.
Don't expose yourself - it doesn't work. This nice character is very likely to please and brush. If you marry her, imagine that she will become even uglier and, in addition, start behaving badly. I did not understand what you are complaining about the beautiful - do you expect her to be great and even give you money? It's like wanting the most modern Mercedes, but if you can at the price of Dacia, because that's it - you have no more money and they have to give it to you. If they don't, they start spitting out how greedy Mercedes are.
In my opinion, in the 21st century, it can be made more than attractive. Invest .... nose, lips, skin smoothing, lenses instead of glasses and you won't recognize it. Nowadays, vision is just money and nothing more. If you like it so much as a person, your appearance changes. It's harder to make a bitch attractive by nature.
25, and will she want the author and will she have that much money?
25, you're so hollow you can't take it anymore. In the 21st century, things are the same as in the 19th century. The daughters of billionaires spend a lot of money and are still bad. What is left for Sullo to invest in a sheep? It's one thing to pretend from 10 meters to lie that it's not extremely ugly. It's different to see her up close. And he, knowing what it is, what warms him, some improvement with lenses, etc. I repeat - you are very hollow and naive. The ugly is ugly.
Even if the girl is like a top model, if you don't like her and don't want to be with her, just don't. Beauty does not happen by force. What's the point of being with someone who doesn't attract you? Do not force yourself with such things. Be direct, just tell her you don't want anything, let alone secretly hope.
Physical attraction is very important in a relationship. Yes, in time you will get used to it and even scream, but if you find yourself attractive, you will not be uncomfortable going to bed with each other. That's why such talk, but she is a very good girl, but he is a very decent boy ... It doesn't work. You will poison each other's lives and you will end up hurting yourself a lot more. I just don't agree with the advice to slowly start ignoring her until she realizes it. These are immature and cowardly performances that do not suit a man of courage and dignity. Just tell her things aren't going well and you don't see the point in continuing, then stop any contact so you don't give her more reason to hope for something. This is male behavior, everything else is mouse stories, with which you only unnecessarily harass the other party, and yourself.
27 Man's problem is appearance. AI, don't let me define what I am, because you probably didn't understand me at all. Come on, no loud speeches.
Tell you what, my ex-boyfriend was ugly too. He didn't have a nice body, he had a small mouth just like you say like a mother-in-law, his eyebrows were gathered like a bandit's, generally a complete minus. He was terribly hairy, just disgustingly much, not to mention his whole body was scarred, just a disgusting story. However, there were financial opportunities and one day I sat down and explained to him what was wrong with him. We went for laser hair removal of eyebrows and body, with a laser he also removed the scars, started going to the gym and tightened the body, I made him put hyaluronic acid in his lips and they are bigger and he became like a top model, and he was an ugly duckling. That's why I support number 25, that everything is getting better. Believe me, I have seen an awful lot of Bulgarian folk singers and models live, they have no eyebrows, no eyelashes, no hair, nothing, and in the pictures they are like dolls, everything is done in front of people. The previous girl you were with said she was beautiful and so on, yes but she wanted money from you, which is normal. For example, I now have another friend, I am beautiful, I have huge breasts, thick hair, I make up, I have clean skin and that is why I constantly spend his money. Beautiful women watch a lot of money. Now I will be attacked here for being a gold digger, but I want to say that in order to go for eyelash maintenance, fitness, solarium, etc., money is required. My friend is not rich and can barely. That is, I want to say that if you catch a cool chick, you have to become an uncle's coin. If not, then you will go with the ugly. Otherwise, if you actually take her to nose surgery, put on lenses, put extra hair on a hairdresser, put on silicone and make her up professionally, she can become beautiful.
I haven't read the other posts, but if you don't like it, don't force yourself. Then, you will not tolerate it at all.
Number 8, she's this girl who's "like the front, but honest" just waiting for him to find her, you know, 'because he must be Alain Delon and he doesn't have any flaws, you see (although I'm left with a different impression) . What planet do you fall from? In real life there are no perfect people, only in the movies they are. Decide for yourself what to compromise with - with appearance, with character, with loyalty, with intellect or whatever else comes to mind. Believe me, the other person will ALSO compromise with something you carry with you. How did you not understand this ...
25/30 - Read the story to him again and think about the following question: Will the money you offer to invest in beautifying the ugliness, if you give it to your ex-beauty, not be enough for her and even enough for her? So he had no money for the beautiful, although she is flawless. But it will invest heavily to prove to the world that in the 21st century, ugliness can look good (from a distance of more than 10 meters). You are infinitely deluded. Or you are ugly and calm down that you have a chance with more money.
In my opinion, if you don't like it physically, it can't happen. Of course, in addition to the physical, you need something else. As a woman, I have forced myself not to have sex, but to meet people I don't like. To clarify that I am not looking for Mr. Bulgaria, even my taste deviates a lot from what is supposedly modern for a man's vision today. Let's get to the word. I have dated unattractive men by my standards only because they are good, serious, honest and responsible as people. With only one, I managed to sweeten it and wish for it. However, things ended there at a later stage, because he had to go abroad for a long time, and I have a settled life here and I could not follow him. Last year I met a really serious and responsible gentleman who was for me by many criteria. Yes, but no. As we went out on dates and walks and talked nice things I thought it was great. We got to the stage of pushing before the supposed first sex. Seriously, but my eyes watered, I confused something about a surprising cycle and ran away. Then I lied, smeared, but tactfully distanced myself. So Author, explain as you were told above that you do not want to commit or explain that in fact you still suffer from the former, but just do not hurt the girl with the truth about appearance. Now, at the risk of being spit on, I will say that I support the opinion of 31. Barbie needs money to be cool. I am an ordinary woman. Nobody called me ugly, but I'm not the type after whom men sigh and turn to the street. So for me for manicure, clothes, shoes / although not expensive and branded /, eyebrows, my lips go the amount of money per month what's left for fitness and other major improvements. This is the truth. There are not so many naturally, naturally beautiful and attractive people. Everything is up to maintenance.
Hahahaha number 31 broke me hahahaha ha Male, Male, where is this world going ... You have to love and like a person for what he is and not to change him according to your criteria. He will find a girl boy who does not want to change her and invest money in her - is she not a car ?? Here half of the comments I have the feeling that they were written from 17-18 years old where you don't understand women, men, love and life in general;) When a man doesn't like you and doesn't attract you, you just stop communicating with him and so on. .
31 you are the personification of the fairy tale "beautiful on the outside, wormy on the inside" and you have to be very careful that as you catch ugly ducks to pay for your fitness, you shouldn't watch ugly ducklings like dads with shallow brains like mom.
You told him that a woman needs almost millions to be beautiful. If her beauty is due to money, then it is not exactly beauty. Here is a colleague sitting next to me, who has no money, no boyfriend and is rich, almost no makeup, but she is much more beautiful than silicone khakis and definitely more natural. Our grandmothers used to go to gyms and plastic surgeons to be beautiful. Perceptions of beauty have become quite perverted lately.
There was a man somewhere in the world who won a lawsuit against his wife because she didn't tell him she had been tampered with by plastic surgeons, and after he married her, she gave birth to an ugly baby with her inherited ugly genetic traits.
Not all boys like Barbie girls and not all girls like Ken boys. Author, as soon as you fall in love with spoiled princesses, get together with them! I'm sorry, but this is immature.
31 - The beautiful woman is the one who is not made up and men look at her again. At the moment, Shrek can be turned into the first beauty. Ugly women need a lot of manicures and make-up.
@ 41 I read the article and looked at the pictures. They are amazing! The baby is the same as his mother before plastic surgery. You can lie to a person, but nature can't! Asians were certainly ...
It is much more pleasant to communicate with an ugly but smart woman than with a beautiful muffin! Nice apples, pigs eat them.
Author: You don't have to be Barbie or Ken to be at least a little cute. I support myself a lot, I had pimples - I went to a beautician, you can start calling me gay, but this is basic support. I bathe regularly, I fix my hair. As a child, I had an eyebrow, but I remembered that I had to fix it. Yes, my ex fell for a muffin. But not all pretty girls are muffins. I liked round chicks (no, with shapes, but slightly plump straight), I also liked like boards, but beautiful in the face. However, this girl's very nose confuses my health, she's not Meryl Streep to suit her. She could look a little good with a little beautician, a hairdresser, and good clothes, but she likes it that way. How do you suggest I tell her to change? And yes, I definitely like more girls, I'm not an inflator, so I give her a chance.
"but personally, according to my taste, she doesn't attract me at all" - if you're not attracted to why are you dealing with the girl? You leave and that's it. Or as long as you are not dry, you use it for consolation and then you will throw it away. You're not worth it, so your ex was a jerk. If such topics excite you, then you are complex. If this girl was rich or famous, you would like her nose, but if it's not Meryl Streep, it's not worth it !? You're not worth it, sir, let the girl find a decent man!
From number 42: Author, now I think I understood you better. No matter how important the character is, one cannot help but be completely supported. Why not suggest to your girlfriend to spend a day in the hair salon, for example, if she will do something with her vision, maybe she will be calmer if you support her. In my opinion, the problem is that her glasses accentuate her nose. Make it, but without attacking it, take them off, at least for a day and from there judge for yourself, but if you want to keep it, you will need patience. I see from your philosophy that you are a smart person, I am sure that you make a good decision. Good luck!