I love my friend very much and I know that there are no perfect people, but sometimes I notice some hints of aggression towards me. I do not like. For the second time we had a physical collision. The first time was a long time ago, we quarreled and I hit him. I did it to make him realize what he was talking about. I didn't want to hurt him or compete with him, he is over 1.90 tall and probably weighs twice as much as me. He hit me very hard and I fell. Then we clarified, because I was also very guilty, and we forgot the incident. Here is something similar happening again. My best friend is going through a difficult time. We chatted all night on the phone because she was alone and in need. She shared many of her personal thoughts and concerns with me. At one point, my friend decided I was texting someone else and started pulling my phone. We pulled again, he began to twist my arms and pull me.
Since he had already pulled out my phone, I got angry and plucked it. Finally, he pushed, began squeezing my wrists, and said he could crush me. The next moment he grinned and began to reassure me. He was acting crazy and scared me a lot. Honestly, I don't know if he realizes what he's doing. I was angry with him for a few days and he kept following me and asking me "what happened?", Seriously? He is an intelligent man, it is strange that he did not understand. On the fourth day, I told him that it was not normal for him to use his power against me. He apologized to me "okay, sorry" and thought the problem was solved. I don't know, we're a young couple. I can't tell if he's kidding if he doesn't know his strength. He may be very kind and gentle, but at times it bothers me. He was really very aggressive at that moment. I use the "great" force when I feel defenseless and there is nothing else I can do. Why does he do it? !?
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It doesn't sound harmless.
Whatever you were looking for, you found it :)
So, no matter how hard you hit a man, he shouldn't hit you no matter how much it hurts. I don't know if you live together and argue about what it will be ... This is not a man's behavior ..
This one is kind of crazy. Run away because you don't know what might happen next. Yes, you may love it and find it difficult, but you have no choice. Once a man hits a woman, a second and a third will follow, no matter how much he promises you that it will not happen again.
Often, in my opinion, you are also to blame. You can't hit someone and snatch them and expect them not to react. A person on a subconscious level will react in some way even at first. It is no coincidence that it is always said that the most dangerous place is next to the driver in the car - even if his child is sitting there in the first seconds of some threat, the instinct is to protect yourself. So with him - as far as I understand he didn't hit you, it's not like hitting you in general, but in moments when you touch him and he attacks you - the difference is that you're small and it really doesn't hurt as much as it you hit (plucking always hurts no matter how big you are), and he has more power and hurts you more than you hurt him. You both need to rethink how you solve your problems - whether you talk or fight each other.
№4, these are some clichés and unconfirmed statements! I hit my wife hard twice. One time I even threw her over the bed, but she deserved it not 100, but 1000% and she knows it very well! Let me tell you - both times it had a strong and lasting sobering effect, and after the second time (5 years ago) I no longer had to do it - much more consideration is given to what he says and what he does. Don't put everyone under a common denominator and don't take facts out of context (to judge them) - these are the most wrong strategies in life!
Leele ... if my friend touches me he will meet my father's fist /
My grandfather, God forbid, used to say that a woman should not get used to a fight, because until she gets it, she will not calm down and leave you alone ...
Wow ... I listen and I don't believe it! What authority do you have on a man you allow yourself to hit and pull (even accidentally) !? And what self-esteem does a man have who allowed his wife / girlfriend to terrorize him? !! On the other hand, what should be this jerk who will slap his beloved? - I'm sorry, but in my opinion, run with two hundred from each other - it may be hard, but better now than in 10 years. And in conclusion, to say that we talked to a friend some time ago and she said something too wise to me, I don't know if she heard it or read it somewhere, namely that in order for a relationship between a man and a woman to be excellent, it is enough for couples to strive to fulfill the wedding vow: to be faithful to you, to love and honor you in wealth and poverty, in disease and health ....
№7, how long will Dad wipe your ass? Don't you think that at some point you will have to manage your life on your own? Be very careful in the picture, because a person is the one who is most proud of and the one who denies and condemns the most in life - this is exactly what accumulates on his head in a size of 10 !!!
Well ... it would be good to tell him in advance who you are texting and what you intend to do. I think it's perfectly normal for him to get angry if you don't tell him. And now for his "physical" interference ... and you are somewhat to blame. What the hell is it for you to hit him, push him, pull him, etc. Oh?
To the author-Whatever called just called. It is not reasonable for a man to hit a woman, but for a woman to pull and push a man, this is quite a rural performance.
Violence by one of the partners, whether male or female, is unacceptable. But in both cases described by you, you are the one who started the "battle". Although it is stronger, you need to understand that you should not reach out. Otherwise, you can ask for paint not only from this partner, but also from everyone else. And if you had bothered to explain to him who you were texting and why, the fight could have been avoided. But if he is jealous for no reason and has already attacked you twice, run away - there will be a merger fight, and every next one will be more and more traumatic. I guess you're young, don't commit to someone who reaches out. I wish you to find the right person to be very happy with.