Hello, Maybe it's because it's summer and people are walking lightly dressed, but I'm impressed by an interesting trend. And she is, say, pretty girls, so to speak, walking with outspoken fat men. Or if not fat, then at least some ugly bellies. I also know such men. Let's say at the beginning of their relationship they were well put together, not some tough ones. I'm not talking about any fitness maniacs or anything like that. After 2-3-4 years of relationship, these people are at least 15-20 kg heavier than before and look awful. On the beach the same job. Massively some fat people with pretty girls. In my opinion, the situation is the same with them - a long relationship, because hardly any woman would like such a bump. I guess there is a similar case here. I wonder how women react to all this. Do they say, for example, to train and eat less? Do you accept that you go out with a person of 80 kg, and after a while he becomes 95? For example, if you go to the beach with other couples and only your friend / spouse looks the worst, does that impress you?
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Author, you are too inclined to judge, too categorical - I guess you are quite young and you have not yet met your partner, nor have you had a long and serious relationship. I suggest you soften the tone a bit - people are people, no one is perfect. You will not be pleased if it turns out that someone is discussing you in a similar way - that you are not full it became clear from your posting, but you certainly have other weaknesses - whether you want someone to poke them in your nose or comment on them in a discrediting and insulting way? When a person has a good relationship and is happy in it, the last thing that will concern him is to dig in someone else's bowl, look for flaws in other people's couples and ask himself similar questions. If someone is with someone and obviously likes it that way, then there is a reason for that. In addition, to gain weight as a result of family life - my observations, however, are, that it affects not only men but also women. The reasons are similar for both partners. When a person is alone - he eats it, he mixes it up quickly, he doesn't - when you are in a couple, however, eating acquires a different status - it is a daily unifying ritual - you cook together, arrange a table, talk and share at the table, eat together, pamper yourself with favorite foods, shop and plan together. Another moment when you find a partner with whom you feel really good and live with each other is that mentally you somehow relax - you are loved, the person at the meeting likes you and accepts you. You don't have to impress someone, you're busy - you're no longer on the market, you don't have to look (no one wants to be alone, and unsuccessful attempts are really stressful and tiring). It's just that when you find yourself in a stable relationship, it brings you relief, it calms you down. You have a center of stability, you have support. When you love someone and they make you feel good, 10 kg on top is really not the most important thing and believe me, you don't care about that. Yes, if you are worried about your partner's health or you see that he / she is not feeling well with the new weight, of course you will encourage them to exercise or you will think about changing your diet - but if the person next to you is the right one, if he has been with you in difficult times, if you have struggled with life together, then this will definitely not be something obsessively important to you or an occasion to replace it or throw it out of your life. There is no greater happiness than finding someone who understands you and with whom you feel good - author, I wish you with all my heart. 10 kg on top is really not the most important thing and believe me, you are not all about it. Yes, if you are worried about your partner's health or you see that he / she is not feeling well with the new weight, of course you will encourage them to exercise or you will think about changing your diet - but if the person next to you is the right one, if he has been with you in difficult times, if you have struggled with life together, then this will definitely not be something obsessively important to you or an occasion to replace it or throw it out of your life. There is no greater happiness than finding someone who understands you and with whom you feel good - author, I wish you with all my heart. 10 kg on top is really not the most important thing and believe me, you are not all about it. Yes, if you are worried about your partner's health or you see that he / she is not feeling well with the new weight, of course you will encourage them to exercise or you will think about changing your diet - but if the person next to you is the right one, if he has been with you in difficult times, if you have struggled with life together, then this will definitely not be something obsessively important to you or an occasion to replace or throw it out of your life. There is no greater happiness than finding someone who understands you and with whom you feel good - author, I wish you with all my heart. Of course, you will encourage them to exercise or you will think about changing your diet - but if the person next to you is the right one, if he was next to you in difficult times, if you struggled with life together, then this will definitely not be something obsessively important or an occasion to replace it or throw it out of your life. There is no greater happiness than finding someone who understands you and with whom you feel good - author, I wish you with all my heart. Of course, you will encourage them to exercise or you will think about changing your diet - but if the person next to you is the right one, if he was next to you in difficult times, if you struggled with life together, then this will definitely not be something obsessively important or an occasion to replace it or throw it out of your life. There is no greater happiness than finding someone who understands you and with whom you feel good - author, I wish you with all my heart.
My friend gained 15 kg last year and honestly, it suits him much better and I like him that way. I wouldn't go with a fat guy, but just because someone has a little crumb on them doesn't make them one. God, I only gave such men, I'm tired of watching fitness enthusiasts stand with complexes. Why should we be so superficial.
And I was like that - from 70 kg I became 95, and my wife did not move from 55-60. Now at 45 I lost 20 kg and I am 75. Fortunately I do not have sagging skin and I look, and I feel 10-15 years younger :) :) Before the new one I felt like a fat fat man and neither my sex was going well, nor anything else. the problem is that a lot of women started looking at me and my wife doesn't like that stuff !;)
In less than a year, my ex-boyfriend had probably become double compared to the way he looked when we met. He trained from time to time, but ate extremely unhealthily. I have told him many times to change this because he will have health problems, but ... Nothing has changed. And he had obviously decided that I was a given to him when he relaxed so much. And to the question, no, we do not agree to go out with such a person. My desire for intimacy diminishes and this kills the relationship. And I don't like sex with a fuller man - I sweat a lot, I get tired much faster, I don't get aroused enough and so on .... Otherwise I don't care about people's opinion or what it looks like. The important thing is that he has been neglected and this affects both of us.
I am a man, and I have noticed this trend. In long-term relationships and marriages, most people relax. Especially if the couple has a child and commitments - work, kindergartens, nurseries, travel, etc. At such a moment you do not think about your body at all. I have a cousin who had a child 1 year ago. He has always been in shape, a former kickboxer. Well, when he had a baby, he did a tummy tuck and relaxed, but as I said, the priorities are different. Now again trying to step up a bit, and watch straight push-ups with the child on his back and things like that. That is, if there is a desire, there is a way. And if you put things right, you can always look decent. There are a lot of women who just fall for the big bedside tables. I know some of them. It's just that our Balkan mentality is such that under "a healthy and tough Bulgarian" implies someone 120kg. tripe, eating 2 loaves a day. Honestly, I'm a little annoyed by men who don't look like anything, but want their wives to support themselves. And so it goes to extremes, stuffed babes with bellies at hand.
Oh, horror. When I fell in love with my husband, I completely forgot to draw him on the scales, how frivolous of me. I do not notice at all what he looks like against the background of known and unknown beach men. He is my husband and he looks like that, I do not care at all what he looks like against the background of others. The same goes for him compared to me, although I'm probably 10-15 pounds over what he was when we met. In general, does love tell you anything, or do only cellulite and belly on the beach matter?
Honestly and frankly - it doesn't impress me at all and I don't feel bad in any way. I have a story here - pounds gain and lose, but the fool stays that way for life. In the sense that I will swallow some 10 kg on top, but the nasty attitude is something I will not be able to handle. But it has happened to me that my partner has gained weight. He joked that he had gained weight because I cook very well. Dumb excuse, but a nice brush for my ego. It didn't bother me that he was overweight, it only bothered me if he grumbled. That's why he didn't grumble. He had decided to get up at 6 o'clock every morning to run. I took it as a joke because I'm a nasty woman and I forgot that I should support him and believe him. Indeed, on the first day he turned off his alarm and continued to sleep soundly and soundly. However, after a few months he decided to train. At the beginning of our relationship there were tiles, then he got a beer belly, now he has a normal physique for a man without embossed extras. I've liked him all these years because he's a unique guy and I just want him to put up with his condition for the rest of my life. As long as he's healthy, I'm happy.
Yes, of course it makes an impression. I am in such a relationship - I try to maintain myself, and he slaps himself with satisfaction, and of course the result is visible ... in both. I love him ... I love that he's nice and kind to me, he doesn't cause me any problems and he doesn't deal with other women, so in general I don't worry much.
I like thin and tight men. If my friend dropped out like that, I wouldn't like it at all. I would probably encourage him to improve his eating and exercise habits. I believe that it is the responsibility of both in the relationship to take care of and maintain their body and appearance. Cohabitation is no excuse to look like nothing. On the contrary, it should motivate you, because there is someone to strive for.
And my husband often asks the same things. All his acquaintances have beer bellies, and he is thin at 36, wears 30 size jeans from basta fashion, he has a flat stomach, he still has muscles since he trained for a while. It catches the eye a lot. No matter that he is considered weak, he always thinks that he should be a tooth and be a machine ...
Apparently they get used to women and this is not a problem for them. I am the same. My wife and I have been together for 15 years. I am 180 tall and in the beginning I weighed 75 kg. Over time, I passed 90, my maximum was 94. Absolutely no problems on the part of the woman. And she was 53 kg in the beginning, but she got older. When she was pregnant she passed 90, after giving birth she dropped to 70. I can't be angry with her, she still gave birth to a great daughter. But I didn't like myself that way. At 40, I decided I was going to lose weight. Diet, fitness and regained the previous 75 pounds. Come to think of it, most of the family men around me have bellies. In the gym, however, there are quite a few around my age who train. The woman's attention to me grew a lot. The only one I don't like is my wife.
When you love a person, whether he is thin or fat does not matter, and especially what others think. This question would also apply to women ..! Why are there men who want and like fat women ...? It's the same with women, if she likes him the way a man is, why would she care what he says, "sulu"
I don't know why, I also constantly wonder when I look outside among people ... Massively shapeless figures of men, with bellies, fat, or not very fat but with a belly ... Only a young man to catch the eye with an athletic figure ... Why don't people respect their bodies en masse ???
Because no one would support themselves if they didn't have to. It's so much sweeter to think of sweets and pizzas. And if your poop is caught ... why bother. Not to mention that the belly is usually in direct proportion to the property. Most obese people have passwords. Simple account, clean relationship. And women love "bear", you know;) Brother.
15, but very simple. Because after a certain age it becomes difficult to maintain. Yes, it is true that if you support yourself, it can happen. But over the years, the body changes and maintenance becomes more difficult and time consuming. And people at this age have to combine work, family, other activities, and their priorities are different. And in general, if you haven't hit the genetic lottery, it's not easy, and it doesn't make much sense, because there are more important things that take time. It is easy for young people, because their body is different and with minimal effort they can be well maintained. Moreover, they are not so engaged. It's one thing to go to lectures for 2-3 hours a day and when you get home your only commitment is to click on the computer, because your mother has already prepared and cleaned, it's quite another to work 8-10 hours, 2 more to travel and when you come home you have to take the children to training, which takes another 1 hour at least plus 1 hour and in the meantime you have to go shopping, cook, clean the house, separately you still have to go to the bank, to someone service to repair an electrical appliance. And in the midst of all this, you have to find time to eat, bathe, get ready for work and sleep. And somehow fitness or having 2 white hairs becomes your last problem in the world. And even with so many expenses, to be honest, BGN 50 for fitness is starting to appeal to you. And somehow fitness or having 2 white hairs becomes your last problem in the world. And even with so many expenses, to be honest, BGN 50 for fitness is starting to appeal to you. And somehow fitness or having 2 white hairs becomes your last problem in the world. And even with so many expenses, to be honest, BGN 50 for fitness is starting to appeal to you.
Fun topic - I liked it. I have been married for a long time, my husband was tall, thin, tall, with a very good figure. In the last few years I gained weight, more on my stomach. He is not greedy, eats normally, but loves sweets and drinks beer. It doesn't bother me at all, so this is my boy, the father of my children. I'm just worried that it won't affect his health. Otherwise, I kept my figure and he's proud of it. Well, I've had periods too. in which I relax and gain a few pounds, but he knows that in this respect I am iron-I say "end, so far" -I'm back to normal. It's nice to look good, but I think other things are more important As Exupery said through Winnie the Pooh's mouth, the best is invisible to the eyes.
She is absolutely right 17. In the past, my day started in the pool and I went to work after 2 km of swimming. And this every day. Yes, it pays off because I have a tight figure, but at the age of 48 I can no longer maintain this regime - I do not have time. This morning I had coffee with my mother and she scolded me: why don't you go for a manicure, why don't you go to a beautician, why don't you change your hairdresser - in that spirit. And I had barely found an hour free to see her. My husband is in the same hall, he is 185 cm tall and weighs 76 kg, he goes out at 6 in the morning and comes home at 9 p.m. What kind of gym sleeps on the table in the evening with an uneaten bite of bread in its mouth? Well, what I want to say is, look at us - skinny both, chronically tired, who hasn't had lunch, who hasn't drunk water all day .... Do you want to look like us? No, of course!
We have been married for 2 years and I am a skinny woman with constant low weight problems, I gained 15 kilos quite quickly, haha. I'm already normal, but I weigh those 65 kilograms. I am 180 tall. My thighs have become big, my belly is flat. The man gained a few pounds, about 5-6, but made a big belly. Weak legs, young man and belly. We are both under 30 years old. But really eating has become a ritual. Evening is the only time we can enjoy each other, so we cook together, try to pamper ourselves, eat something delicious outside on Saturday and Sunday, and enjoy life. The result is this. We came to our senses and realized that at the age of 20 we can't continue like this, after all we don't even have children yet, and we're getting on quite steadily. It is certainly from a good life ... We started with fitness, it is located for half an hour, 3-4 times a week.
When I met my friend, he weighed about 150 kilograms at a height of 1.90. He was so mentally stressed that he didn't think about his body at all. I am a sports person, and I imagine with my height of 1.65-49 kg how we looked in your eyes. But that didn't stop me from falling in love with him at all. I would again! To date, it is 60 kilograms lower, and all those who have not noticed it before, turn after it .. Each of our condition is temporary. I fell in love with his good nature, and one of our favorite things is to train together.
For me, weight does not matter, the soul is important!
18, "As Exupery said through Winnie the Pooh's mouth ..." !? And since when is Winnie the Pooh the Little Prince !? Shock !!
After a certain age, a man begins to produce less testosterone. From which follows the retention of fat, fluids, lack of muscle tone, slings, abdomen, gynecomastia, etc. When we add alcohol, things get even worse. Alcohol increases estrogen and generally has a lot of calories. Because of this, not only in Bulgaria, but also worldwide, many people after 30 years, just keep more fat and are out of shape. We can naturally prevent these things by exercising and eating well. It's just that many people don't have time, find excuses, have children and a lot of problems to take adequate care of their body and spirit. Change requires self-discipline and desire. Feeding is about 70 percent of the whole process. Personally, I do not always have time for fitness, so I started investing in a home one. Stand for pull-ups and buckets, several dumbbells, push-ups, lever and bench. I bought the woman an exercise bike. I get up in the morning before work, I train for 30 minutes. one shower and I'm ready. Everything else is a discipline in nutrition.
There is such a thing. It seems to me that while the woman is pregnant and the men are beating hard "for two", you are wondering who will give birth. Yes, but then the woman tries to get back to normal, and the man can't remember. However, there are worse. Usually around 40, as they have already written here, the man remembers to look outside to see if he is still fit. And then some push-ups, gyms, bicycles, running, presses start, and when he stumbles a little, his self-confidence reaches the ceiling and catches his mistress. Didn't you read the other comments - as they lost weight, the women started to turn after them ... And this caresses their ego to the point of scratching that job, to see if they are still walking. And they become one ... Number 18, Winnie the Pooh and Exupery met only on a shelf in a bookstore.