Hello, please men, explaining how great they are and how the problem is in me, that I am a weak lover, do not comment. I've been with a lot of women, some have ended, others I haven't been able to orgasm for a number of reasons, I guess everyone has had unsuccessful sex from a fleeting relationship. I also had serious relationships. It's different there, you know what, how, when your partner likes it and you emphasize it, to deliver orgasms. My ex-girlfriend and I brought her to many clitoral orgasms, one after the other, as well as vaginal. The common denominator is a contraction of the muscles, closing of the legs instinctively, a change in the sound it makes and many others. I've also been with a woman who, ending up spraying, has things in common with her, except that liquid comes out. The problem is that I came across a woman who we have sex with, she is always ready for sex, we don't get bored, we've been together for 2 years now, but I don't feel when it ends. It's just like imitating an orgasm, but not exactly, because in the end, when I ask if it's over, he says yes. Several times I felt her tremble, I ask her if she's done, she says no yet. (I'm not asking her because I want her to tell me I'm good, but because I want to know what she likes so I can emphasize it) So my question is, can you finish without muscle contractions and visible scars inherent in most women. I'm really confused and I'm starting to worry about sex, as if she's saying she's just ending so as not to offend me, when in fact she's failing. I would be very grateful if someone could explain things to me more. and because I want to know what she likes to emphasize it) So my question is, can you finish without muscle contractions and visible scars inherent in most women. I'm really confused and I'm starting to worry about sex, as if she's saying she's just ending so as not to offend me, when in fact she's failing. I would be very grateful if someone could explain things to me more. and because I want to know what she likes in order to emphasize it) So my question is, can you finish without muscle contractions and visible scars inherent in most women. I'm really confused and I'm starting to worry about sex, as if she's saying she's just ending so as not to offend me, when in fact she's failing. I would be very grateful if someone could explain things to me more.
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I am a woman. Cumming and orgasm are two different things. Not every woman's ejaculation is accompanied by an orgasm. To be able to finish and be quiet. For muscle contractions, if it's wider you may not feel them clearly, maybe. However, I say again. . . cumming and orgasm are two different things. And men, if you've had a woman who claims to have had an orgasm every time she has sex with her, she's either lying to you if you've slept more than 2,3,5 times or she hasn't had an orgasm yet. In any case, talk to her to be as honest as possible with you about your feelings, to get the most out of both sex, explain that it is important for you that you will not be angry or depressed. Tell her that you are more and more attracted to get to know her sexually and on a level of sensations, in a long relationship this is music for a woman's ears and I think it will make her relax.
As you describe it, I would rather say that it does not end, but it does not want to tell itself. She's probably never finished, so she doesn't know how to imitate it. Some women are ashamed of this and prefer their partner not to understand. Consider whether it is appropriate to talk openly or not to raise the topic if you think it will feel uncomfortable.
Number 1, what's the difference between cumming and orgasm that first time I hear this? And don't mislead the inexperienced with this statement, which I didn't even fully understand - how does it end without an orgasm? I personally have never simulated an orgasm and I end up in 99% of the acts without touching and additional stimulation with my hands ... and in most cases I end up for about 5 minutes of sex, sometimes more, but sometimes after about 20 insertions, ie for less than a minute.
From number one to number 3. It is possible to cum in 99% of cases, I say that not every cum is accompanied by an orgasm, not that if you almost always cum you simulate an orgasm. In men, ejaculation is marked by ejaculation, in women this term is not used. The idea is that the so-called ejaculation refers to the physical condition, the secretion of fluid accompanied by convulsions in men and convulsions accompanied by different amounts of moisture or fluid in women. Orgasm is interpreted in different ways according to different sources, but in essence it is a process that affects the nervous system and hormones much more. Orgasm begins in the brain, and ejaculation is a reflex of the spinal cord. From a physiological point of view, orgasm is an enhanced release of neurotransmitters and hormones under the control of the autonomic nervous system. Along with the euphoric sensation created by the released neurotransmitters in the brain. Both sexes can have an orgasm, but in men this happens less often and is much more difficult because we are lucky to have more nerve endings in our inner part, and this biological detail is a big factor. In terms of sensations and mental state at this time, different people may describe orgasm differently according to the intensity of orgasm and the way their body reacts to this process, with one may have 5 of 5 features listed as characteristic, another 3 of 5. Orgasm can be controlled and interrupted, suppressed, and this does not lead to pain, as in the controlled interruption of "ejaculation", which is observed in men. Ejaculation is a reflex that usually cannot be stopped, once it has started, without painful contraction. I can't say if the woman has it, because I haven't interrupted or suppressed my "cumming" until orgasm, yes. Usually, for this to happen, you have to control yourself in sex and know your body and mind well enough in those moments, because this is a state in which sometimes it is very difficult to control some of the manifestations of orgasm, what is left for yourself orgasm, but often occurs involuntarily from anxiety, especially in us women. Thus we deprive ourselves of the pleasant sensations accompanying orgasm, which is a loss for ourselves, of course. In my cases, I know why I did this, but I do not advise others to deprive themselves of this pleasure. I will not talk about the simulated orgasm at all, because I do not approve of it. No one really benefits from cheating between partners. There is also the so-called dry orgasm. In us women, a similar phenomenon can be observed a few days before or the first days after a cycle, when we are drier. During this period we are especially sensitive as often women who receive such characterize it as the strongest. Dry because it is accompanied by an extremely minimal amount of moisture, of course, when the intoxication of orgasm subsides, rubbing is guaranteed, but for me it was at least worth it. In men, a dry orgasm is called when they have an orgasm, but instead of ejaculating as a result, the semen that is already in the tubes is returned, and the sensations are the same. An example to make me understand better, that orgasm and ejaculation in slang, ejaculation is the term, is not the same. And number 3, I hope I have satisfied your curiosity. For a written answer so much. If you want to know more, you will already be looking for information and I hope you will synthesize it correctly, because there are sources that are not only inaccurate, but downright misleading. Author, you will forgive, but I think that this long comment can be useful for you or for another reader who wants to explain the difference. There is no summary article or book with the listed facts, my information was obtained from various sources and what can be proven, for me and the partners I had, has at least been proven over time. And it's not a bad idea to do something like that! you will forgive, but I think that this long comment can also be useful for you or for another reader who wants to explain the difference. There is no summary article or book with the listed facts, my information was obtained from various sources and what can be proven, for me and the partners I had, has at least been proven over time. And it's not a bad idea to do something like that! you will forgive, but I think that this long comment can also be useful for you or for another reader who wants to explain the difference. There is no summary article or book with the listed facts, my information was obtained from various sources and what can be proven, for me and the partners I had, has at least been proven over time. And it's not a bad idea to do something like that!
It's me again, number 1. I forgot to clarify. Some sources equate the moment of shorter and much weaker in intensity pleasure before ejaculation with orgasm. I don't think that's true. When I talk about orgasm, I am talking about the actual orgasm, which is sometimes distinguished by calling it a multi-orgasm because of its duration and strength, and in some places is described as intertwining orgasms. This is what men and women look for as a sensation when talking about orgasm. I would also include the squirt orgasm here, because in essence it has the characteristics of an orgasm, just the ejaculation, the fluid that we women secrete is much more abundant and from this point of view it is wrongly called female ejaculation. I see it as an orgasm. This is a process that arouses interest and scientifically in the beginning only in women. One of perhaps the first studies on female sexuality. A very interesting historical work on the subject has passed through my eyes, but I do not remember either the source or whether the medium was electronic or paper. The other is a moment of pleasure before ejaculation "cum".
I thought the slang word "cum" meant getting an orgasm. How ignorant I was.
1/4/5, in three extensive comments did not say anything to help the author, moreover - wrote some stupid theories in which only you believe. In everyday life and in colloquial speech, orgasm is called "cumming" and that's it. There is no need to share your passion for various perverted sexual practices - the author's question is completely different. I agree with the opinion on the case of the commenters under numbers 2 and 3, and at 3 I nobly envy her and sincerely rejoice for the full sexual life.
of 7 Please read: "the author's question", thanks.
When you feel that she is trembling, you do not bother with questions (you cut her like that) but just continue in the same rhythm or a little faster. You can also include the hand by massaging the clitoris very gently but quickly. Do not speak, but act !!! If you feel that you are finishing in a moment and you will overtake her, I include fingers, tongue or even finished - continue without stopping until you clearly feel that she is too! I suspect that in her sublime moment, you are ahead of her by seconds, and your questions not only do not help, but infuriate. Otherwise, as far as I understand, you both have no problems with sex, we just differ in time, so to speak ... turn your fingers in the last minutes.
I personally don't think she gets an orgasm. For me, there has never been a "cum" without the convulsions that accompany it from orgasm. I can even share from personal experience that I also lied at the beginning of my sex life about getting organisms. As I got older, I remembered to feel my body better and how to get it done. Talk to her and show that it is important for you to be satisfied. Again, from personal experience I will say that I had a friend for whom the problem was in me. I mean, I'm something flawed, and he's a super lover. From there, I may have planted a complex until I found a partner who was interested in my needs and it was important for him to be satisfied.
It has happened to me to be with a man who doesn't feel like I'm coming. I even felt bad that he didn't understand what pleasure he had given me. So it is possible, but it is possible not to end, but to lie. You can't be sure.
6, of course it is! The ignorant is another ....
I have also been simulating an orgasm in recent years, with my current partner I have been a few seconds away from orgasm, but it doesn't work, and I wasn't close at all with my ex ... and when I think about the beginning of my sex life, I ended each day and many times! And only with one person, we had almost nothing in common with him, except sex, he was divine ... and since then I can't finish with a man, I'm very nice, I don't stop having sex, my libido is highly defined, even very high, I'm always wet underneath ... I have no idea what the problem is..but I'm embarrassed to talk about it with my boyfriend, he knows this ex of mine and if I tell him that since I'm not with him, I'm not done, somehow it will be very awkward, he will get nervous, he will get very sick because he is terribly jealous, and he will be surprised because it is obvious ... that I love sex very much, I am perverted, it is obvious, that I'm very happy when we have sex and irritable and nervous, when we don't, I just don't get to the end ... most likely I have the problem, I don't think I relax enough, but honestly I don't know what to do, I really want to cum again during sex, and just to mention that when I masturbate I cum every time and for a short simulation and my orgasms are long and long ... if anyone has an idea what I can do to cum again, I will be very grateful to him! I am writing in this topic because my reflections on my condition may be useful for the author, but if necessary I will make a new topic. And as for him, your girlfriend may not really be able to finish for some reason and she's just embarrassed to admit it to you! most likely I have the problem, I think I don't relax enough, but honestly I don't know what to do, I really want to cum again during sex, and just to mention that when I masturbate I cum every time and it for a short simulation and my orgasms are long and long ... if anyone has an idea of what I can do to cum again, I will be very grateful! I am writing in this topic because my reflections on my condition may be useful for the author, but if necessary I will make a new topic. And as for him, your girlfriend may not really be able to finish for some reason and she's just embarrassed to admit it to you! most likely I have the problem, I think I don't relax enough, but honestly I don't know what to do, I really want to cum again during sex, and just to mention that when I masturbate I cum every time and it for a short simulation and my orgasms are long and long ... if anyone has an idea of what I can do to cum again, I will be very grateful! I am writing in this topic because my reflections on my condition may be useful for the author, but if necessary I will make a new topic. And as for him, your girlfriend may not really be able to finish for some reason and she's just embarrassed to admit it to you! that when I masturbate I cum every time and for a short simulation and my orgasms are long and long ... if anyone has an idea what I can do to cum again, I will be very grateful! I am writing in this topic because my reflections on my condition may be useful for the author, but if necessary I will make a new topic. And as for him, your girlfriend may not really be able to finish for some reason and she's just embarrassed to admit it to you! that when I masturbate I cum every time and for a short simulation and my orgasms are long and long ... if anyone has an idea what I can do to cum again, I will be very grateful! I am writing in this topic because my reflections on my condition may be useful for the author, but if necessary I will make a new topic. And as for him, your girlfriend may not really be able to finish for some reason and she's just embarrassed to admit it to you!
With the clitoral orgasm everything is clear, but with the vaginal ... I can last 10-30 minutes, but I do not feel the "scars" in the clitoris, I see and hear in the vaginal (if there is one at all). My wife and I have commented on this "problem", the answer is ending quietly !! ?? which deeply doubts me, but also somehow saddens me. If there is a problem in me or in her, it is normal for her to share it, not to hide it, we have not been married since yesterday!