Please give it to me without any comments. The problem is the following. I have been in a relationship with a girl for a long time, 9 months now, we generally fight at the moment for nonsense, but when we see each other and hug, everything calms down, otherwise we often fight on the phone, on Facebook. I'm quite jealous and already in the second, third month I already knew the passwords for Facebook + the whole story for the last 5 years about her, I even recorded something as she shared it with me, while deciding whether to have a serious relationship or not, I thought she was decent, she doesn't lie, she doesn't use me, but I missed a lot of important facts, namely that she is stupid, selfish and at times crazy. During the whole period of our relationship, I did not feel any jealousy in her, but last week we went out with a friend of hers, who has gathered us at least 5 times so far after we quarreled, and she is jealous of the fact that this friend of hers first made her pat her on the back, but she refused, and then me and I patted her 2-3 times. For the first time I felt what it's like for someone to do circuses on the topic of jealousy, I've done it to her countless times, unreasonably, but hers is nth times unreasonable, we were still together, this is her friend and I haven't massaged her, and patted on the back, we did not talk like boyfriends in her presence, but we talked because she was silent and we had a conversation, to sit and all to be silent. Some calm before the storm, I had not seen her in such a light just ... The day before I saw pictures of her, and one with a boy (she did not sleep with him, she did not kiss), but she rode for the picture with some idiot 2 years ago photo and I quarreled with her, why should there be such a photo .. memories I do not know what, I shout ok and I eat for the least because of this picture, I'm picky, but in this case there is something for it, and in hers there isn't? !!
The next day we were out with the car and I called her, let's drive a little. He drove, then on the way back he wanted again, I shouted ok, but I clicked on the phone .. in 5 minutes we would hit each other twice, the girl is hellishly dumb as I said and she doesn't widow at all, I had to watch what she was doing and arguing with me, I'm angry, I shout ok I'm wrong .. The same day in the evening I go to bed and I want to sleep, she does not have sex I do not know what. I was pulling on kisses and everything, but at one point I shouted come on, I'm going to waste a little time and we did what we do there and then I went to bed, but after 1 hour at 2:30 she wakes me up again for sex .. kisses me, it annoys me, I ran and pulled myself, I want you, I want you ... ok, a little bit again and at one point I shout let's go to bed, she didn't get any more angry with her sex and kisses and I was pulling again pulling, at one point and calling you want me, but I don't want you, leave me alone to sleep and she smelled and got angry on the other side. Now I know that I will be angry, we will see each other again and our drama will start again and we will be together ... In principle, for me this is the first serious relationship and when we part for a day, two and we are nervous, after all the emotions I miss her and I wonder how long this will last.
We are 23 years old. For her this is not the first relationship, but it is probably the first relationship with so many extremes, but when I'm without her I somehow try to see that this thing is not normal and not for me, another issue is that I can not to throw myself from relationship to relationship because I fall in love easily, it's hard to break up and I hate lies and use, I've never felt it once before, otherwise, with all these disadvantages, I have left 100 times, but in general, I harass her. My problems are with her sexuality. I had a period when I just didn't have any desire for about a week and she was angry, she got into some crises how I didn't want her, etc. She had a period when she wasn't very well for about a month and we didn't nothing, I didn't insult her once, I didn't get depressed, etc. I sat and yelled at myself when then, big deal, but her sexual impulses resume again and that's exactly when I need to sleep, so I'm got to get up in 8 o'clock, and she is currently unemployed and still asleep (now it's 14:14), that's why I consider it a great selfishness to scratch her ... she wanted me not to bother with nonsense at all. I'm not so sexy if you don't turn me on 100% with lingerie and it's not just sex and I want to eat, but to have fantasy in everything. We quarreled and now we will get along again, but I'm tired. And why is she stupid? That's the way it is, but I tell her where the mistakes are. In one sentence with 10 words she can make 9 mistakes, but at times her thoughts are like a small child's, but somehow this naivety makes me fall in love with her and love her in spite of everything, but we fight for the most the little one.
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Dude, all I know from what I've written is that your girlfriend is very unconscious and has no idea what she wants, no spiritual development and improvement, just sucking and sucking your life energy. And don't forget that whatever you get together with, that's what you become - the stupid girl has decades to catch up to develop, so you're more likely to go to the red or just waste your time.
You're both not old enough for a relationship, especially you. Do you know that jealousy is the killer of any relationship? Besides, you're full of guys at your age. Why? Take and read what you have written and when you realize it, you will find the answers to the questions you ask yourself.
I don't believe you are 23;)
All in all, your story cheered me up. I even laughed. However, there is one thing I want to tell you - refusing sex is horrible for a woman. The same thing happened to me that you do to your girlfriend. We women are sexually active at night. There are some moments when we really want a particular evening and when we are rejected and a miracle happens. Personally, I also acted like your girlfriend. I'm getting really nervous. I'm getting irritable. I get angry, I turn my back. And with a lot of refusals to have sex, when a woman wants you, it gets SCARY. I was so stressed that I could constantly pick on anything. Something is wrong with me. I turn against him and subconsciously just look at how to irritate him. I fight for everything. Sometimes I start insulting her. So yes ... you compromise too.
About sex - when she wants you and you're tired, there's a very simple solution: get her to do the work for you! :) Tell her the following: "Okay, you want sex - good. However, I'm totally tired and I'm at work tomorrow. But if you're done, come upstairs and show me how much you want, so you'll save me work and we'll both be satisfied! "In general, a man does 90% of the hard work in sex, it's easy for women - they just open their legs. And the dumbest thing is when they are told that we are tired, they start to get angry and insult. After all, women could enter the situation of others, show a little compassion ... after all, the amount of energy expended in sexual intercourse for a man is TWICE greater and more stressful even than the gym! There has to be a balance, just tell her to take the active role and you will have fun and rest more;
When I read the story to you, in the style of writing and the way of speaking, I thought he was writing a 16-year-old teenager. Then when I saw that you were 23, I was surprised. Well, don't get upset that your girlfriend is stupid and reckless - and you don't shine with a high intellect for your age, you even think quite childishly. On the one hand, she was stupid, on the other hand, he loved her very much because of her stupidity. Well, I don't care. When I am annoyed by stupid people, I do not communicate with such people, and you were both stupid and selfish, and you like her precisely because of her childlike innocence and immaturity. A complete contradiction. As for sex - what prevents you from saying firmly and clearly that you are tired, and you not only come here to complain, but you have sex 100 times even though you are tired. Full of nonsense and contradictions at all, unsuitable for 23-year-old BIG ALREADY people. You've got a perfect date with your girlfriend,
And I think she's the perfect woman for you. I am a 45-year-old woman, I have a son your age and I am convinced of my words. Let's see your problems: 1 Her jealousy is not really love jealousy, but disagreement with your actions. When you are a couple and she refuses to do something for someone close to her, you never make the mistake of proving that she is not right to refuse. Think about how you would feel in her place, your friend asks you for something, you decide to refuse him and she immediately agrees to offer her services. On top of that, you continued to have a conversation with your girlfriend, which is the reason for your partner's dissatisfaction. She is not crazy, you are the person who behaves inappropriately. Fighting with her for a photo from before your relationship is not jealousy, but a disease on your part. Jealousy cannot go back to the past before a given relationship. You can't be jealous of her sitting in the same class with a boy at school. 2. She is also right about driving. Firstly, as a driver, why do you give your car to an incompetent person? Third, we were going to hit each other, there's no reason to argue with her. If you decide to teach her or you teach her seriously or you don't let her drive at all. 3. For sex! It's not so hard to sit down and tell her nicely in plain text, as well as to us the reason why you don't want sex at 2, 30 in the morning. For example, I like and love you very much, but I go to work during the day and in order to be fresh at work I need at least 7 hours of healthy sleep, so please at 23-24h to honor me with a peaceful sleep. She is not selfish, you did not say what the problem was. Conclusion! the girl is neither crazy nor selfish, and stupidity is a bonus to the lack of many partners in the past. If she was smart, she wouldn't be careful about you, and no one would have grabbed her by now if that was her only problem. As you describe her, she has no other problems, she is perfect, and her stupidity makes you fall in love with her, so you are for each other, you only lack honest conversations and correct attitude, especially on your part. After all, she is perfect and you are not perfect.
I think you'll be fine with it if you break up. I don't see how this relationship will develop, you are in a circle and there is no way out of it, you only do the same thing, you get along, etc. over and over again. I don't see any sense in this connection except to waste your nerves and to fill your time with nonsense, there is nothing else in this connection and if one of you realizes it then you will separate.
To number 5: reading the author and very likely doing just that, even in cases where she also wants / leaves her to do her own work / Funny but sad ....