Hello! I am a 23 year old woman. I have a daughter who is almost 3 years old. I am married, but my child is from my ex-husband. He (my husband). Behaves very well with the child. He sees her as his own. The problem is that we live with theirs, where his brother and his family live, ie three families under one roof. The children quarrel a lot and fight with each other. Especially his brother's little one (4 years old) harasses her all day. Her parents and grandmother pamper her too much all the children beat his little daughter. Last day she almost took my eye out with a fork because of a toy. Good thing maybe my jealous that I saved her. Her eye reddened and swollen. Yesterday she knocked her to the ground again for her hair and her whole mouth was covered in blood. I'm already afraid to leave her alone where he sees her hits her and not just a slap but just blushes her. Tell me what I can do. How to save your child from harassment roses. I talked to my husband about this problem, but he defends the other. "A child does not understand" is if she does not understand, that is why parents are there to teach her to distinguish between good and evil. When I tell him to get a place to stay calm,. he doesn't even hear me slam the door and go out. Please give me some advice. Since my child is a stranger, I do not allow myself to get into arguments, but the fact that they pamper their child too much other children suffer.
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Let him watch the child alone for two or three hours. Sam will see for himself that this is not a joke. And I can't explain it to you with the accommodation. I am a man of 40 and I am also pressured to go out. I can explain it, but no one can understand me. These are BGN 200-300 per month additional costs. No one can make me feel at ease under someone else's roof. You can't drive a nail into a picture, for example. Another question is whether they will tell you to leave with notice. And kind of give up what you should to chase the wild. With a woman and a child in his arms. We are in Bulgaria. We are not so rich.
Grab the child and get out of there. Drop it the second. How can they not be ashamed of such people. Once everyone lives under one roof, they are 100% toxic and do not accept "foreign blood". What kind of country do we live in?
Do you look after your child, is there a possibility that they will not get together. Talk to the parents, the final option you pour into a dormitory or yours and wait for the man to remember that he has a wife. Isn't he given money for accommodation?
You either choose your child or you choose the man. This is the situation, there is at least a common multiple. As a woman, I tell you that your child is your care and responsibility, his health and well-being come first. If I think that my daughter is fighting too hard against another child, but I am not in a position to argue, I will just take my child and go out on my own. I would do that, I would not impose rules in someone else's home and I would not make unnecessary noise. My friend, if he wants to come with me, his job, the child must be safe and feel at ease. I think you caused this child enough stress that you took him to a house where three families live, they are very unknown. It will always be foreign. Your husband may accept it, it's different with him, but his family will find it harder to accept your child. Your friend's niece's parents obviously don't want to scold her for fighting with your child, it's entirely their upbringing. You can't raise someone else's child, but you can take yours to a calmer environment where you won't be afraid that while you're brushing your teeth, someone will take out their eye. Children do not understand, it is true, so they must be taught and must be carefully observed so as not to make big whites.
You get up and leave, if he loves you he will follow you! Obviously, the health and mental health of your child depends on it! You don't want it to weigh on your conscience if something happens to your child! Leave, I do not see another solution! Your child is more important - the one who loves you will understand you, if there are no other men! Do not leave this child to the whims of fate, it depends entirely on you! Please protect him, please, too many children are suffering! At least you, defend yours, because you can do it!
Of course, you will not leave your child alone. When you see that the other is encroaching, you will scold him and say that this is not done. And you will constantly sit next to them and watch if yours does not irritate the other with something. And don't expect a result from driving. At this age it is so. You will not let them play with a fork. Or you will keep it in different places, in different rooms. When they grow up, they will become friends. But at this age it is so. Especially the older ones are annoyed by the smaller ones.
And if you can't slam the door on the outside and find a suitable place, they won't love another's child in this house!
It is better to leave him if your child is more important than him.
Well, move out on your own. Can you push 100 people together? Dear native picture.
I'm not a parent, but you're a mother. Your child's well-being comes first. I would talk completely openly with everyone at home and in case of misunderstanding on their part I would leave. See if your husband will follow you. Being someone's parent is not just about a biological connection. She may not be his blood, but after he married you he took a family (you and your daughter). He has a responsibility to you.
Collect money and move out with your daughter. If he loves you, he will follow you.