Hello, please approve my topic because I need help and I have a lot of personal audacity. A 26-year-old woman from Sofia married a 25-year-old man. He is a nice man, very closed, he doesn't have many friends, even his few friends wondered how a woman like me tied him up when we left. We met on a course and so about 6 months a day we saw each other and spent a lot of time together, we liked each other. We got engaged and somehow when the course ended, we saw each other again, I can't say that he didn't pay attention to me, but it wasn't the same for me. We also have a problem with sex in the beginning we did it once every 2-3 weeks and I think that this is due to the fact that he has a lot of work, etc., but later he left work and is literally at home all day. It is supported by rents because there are two apartments in the center. We hear each other every day, but lately we see each other once every 10-15 days. As for sex, he told me that he was just a guy who doesn't have sex, which didn't surprise me given his character. I am 1000% sure that there is no other woman because he does not talk to other women. Sex bothers me a lot and I definitely miss it, I'm a very sexual person. I wouldn't cheat on him because I gave him my word and I wouldn't break it. As a soul, humor, sharing, understanding is ideal, but is it worth being with this man? thanks in advance but is it worth being with this man? thanks in advance but is it worth being with this man? thanks in advance
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If you have a sexual discrepancy, never have one in harmony. As a complete idiot, I lost 7 years because the person met all the other criteria and we had very good chemistry.
I think you know the answer to your question. But like other people here, you're looking for some confirmation from outsiders. There is no way your relationship can be successful if one feels uncomfortable. If you are going to suffer in some way and force your nature, what is the point? The person is not only low in libido, but has communication problems at all. And it will not change. You're wasting your time with him.
He prays to ask himself the same question! That he may be smarter than you is most likely
Go to a sexologist, but first sit down to smooth things over
Maybe sooner or later you will break up if that's the case.
Are you actually married, I didn't understand? I don't think you need advice because you know the answer yourself. You differ in a very important aspect, on which strong relationships are based. You write that he is closed, he doesn't have many friends, he doesn't go to work, he stays at home all day, and you meet every 10 days! What does he do after all, isn't he crazy with boredom, don't you go out together - either on a trip, or on a walk, or on a play? It's just a virtual connection, a hologram. Maybe she's afraid of your expectations, which she can't meet, so she avoids meetings. More recently, young people with the same problem wrote here, which surprised me a lot, because I thought that there were reasons for this, such as age, emotional state, fatigue, taking psychotropic drugs and more. I sincerely sympathize with him and wish him well,
Are you engaged without living together ???
Married for a year, do you see each other once every 15 days? Haha. I am the author of the topic My wife is a bitch and I can tell you that I have not separated from my wife for more than two days for 11 years together. So you are practically not married. Watch the actions, not the words.
In my opinion, absolutely not. Even for me, this is not a relationship, seeing each other twice a month and having almost no sex? I and the man I see only for sex are twice a week and we do it for five hours. I would not cause such a "connection".
When you ask such a question, you subconsciously know the answer. It's time to say it out loud.
How are you married, but you hear each other every day and see each other once every 10-15 days? Don't you live together?
Well ... What can I say? This is not a marriage of yours, but a farce. How is it possible to see each other once every 10 days without an objective reason (I am referring to trips abroad, etc.)? Apart from that - with what mind do you take such a serious step with a person who is obviously light years away from your own temperament? I know that many people live in the delusion that things change over time, but the truth is quite different. I think you are in a hurry with the marriage, but this is a personal opinion. To your question whether it is worth it, I would answer - both you and he are probably good people, but totally unsuitable for each other. And if you believe or hope this will change, you're wasting your time. So it's not worth it, at least in my opinion.
Well, you decide if it's worth it. Shall we tell you? If sex is important to you - you run and find a sexual athlete. If the other things are more important - you stay ... If you stay, you will surely find some discrete connection in time (5-10 years) and so on ..
Your words made me think Not everything is sex, not doing it every day is not fatal. I'm trying to look at things, don't you think you're petty because if I start explaining that there are things more important than sex, I'm going to need a lot of time to write
I envy you for the "problem", honestly. I am dying for such a humble, decent, pure MAN. Sex is just a nice detail in relationships, which in no way has even the slightest importance. Those who bow to him so much and put him on a pedestal are not right for me. Is fucking more important than the person next to you? Will you miss a wonderful person because of him? Look away from your genitals. There are other things that are really important and matter. Author, would it be better for you to have some male, mentally ill, perverted whore next to you, who would make you a rag ??? Appreciate your husband on time. A man like him is a real diamond. You are very lucky.
After saying that there are two apartments in the center, it became clear to me why you got engaged to him at the age of 6 months without seeing each other and without knowing each other. Hold on tight, you'll run out of rental money.
18, be careful what you wish for! I know a similar type - these are antisocial people, they do not want to communicate, they do not want to develop, they do not work (if you find such a diamond you will have to feed it), they are self-sufficient. They are not interested in others, they are limited due to the lack of social life and experience, but with a rather inflated assessment of their own self, no empathy, no emotion, closed like rats in their holes. I personally would not spend two days with such an individual. Maybe you're something of the sort. And you're wrong about sex - it doesn't matter to asexuals, not normal people. There is no good and lasting relationship without good sex. This is a natural need and if it does not go with one person, it is most normal to break up with him and look for another. And if you think that all men except asexuals are whores, you're just wrong.
Number 18, can't you have a normal man who wants to have sex? Or do people fall into two categories, decent impotence and sexual freaks? Author, it's very simple. If sex is important to you and not important to him, things will not work out. Too big a foundation is this to get past it. Imagine, for example, number 18 with a hyper-sexual, who wants him every day, where and how he came. Well, there is no way to get things done. Otherwise, there are obviously other wrong things in your relationship. For example, you are married and you see each other once every 10-15 days, how does that happen? Don't you live together? You describe him as antisocial, and he has already become unemployed. There is a lot of rot in your relationship and the more I think about it, the more it seems to me that the lack of sex is not in the first place.
Just don't offer infidelity, the most disgusting thing in the world. Any woman with dignity would not give up. Not absolutely do not diverge, just one sex .... oh without him is the end of the world? Visit a professional and do not betray your husband!