Hello! My story is this ... I'm 16 and having sex for the first time. I was in the mood that everything would be fine, I knew that everything could go wrong, but I was damn calm all the time. My friend, who also had a missionary position for the first time, with a condom, everything was like in the books. It didn't come in the first time, it started coming in gradually, but I was still narrow. He was damn careful and acted very slowly so as not to hurt me. After much feeling with his fingers, etc., he entered, but stopped at the hymen. From then on, at every touch of the hymen, I screamed in pain. Is this normal I started with so many stories and situations, I knew it would be painful, but for a person who is in pain, I didn't think it would hurt so much. Please tell, is it normal for it to hurt so much? I'm very worried that the panic I've created, I will not try again. As I was sure, now I am afraid of these unbearable pains, what should I do?
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Everyone is different. But it's normal, don't worry. In time, the pain will go away.
After a while, try again, now you may not have been very aroused and moisturized. Next time, let the foreplay last longer and use a lubricant.
And just to add - You can try to masturbate and get to know your body, if you have not done so.
Read on a medical site. There are cases when a gynecologist has to remove the hymen. But it is more possible that your gentleman's inexperience is the cause.
Are you sure you didn't confuse the holes?
Don't worry, girl! I was also lucky to have a healthy hymen ... I guess our pain was identical. My first husband was quite experienced and managed to predispose me, but the pain was pain. Because of this pain, my first time was actually 5, 6 times. Gradually, every time deeper and deeper, on the 6th I didn't even realize that everything was over and we were having completely normal sex: D. I know that the pain is unbearable, but this is life, some are lucky not to have blood, others like us are not so lucky. It will happen someday, just don't despair and blame. And to avoid seeing your next post asking: How long will it hurt? - Even already open, the first 10 times there is a slight pain, but then you will understand what exactly people mean by "sex".
The problem is with your friend. When the hymen is reached, the member is not held on it, but is abruptly inserted and torn. So everything goes for a moment. He inserts it carefully, but the membrane is incredibly stretchy and any stretching brings pain. So you will have to try again or find a more experienced boy.
Your friend needs to penetrate you abruptly. :)