Hello, I am a 17-year-old girl and I have had a serious friend for 4 years - as much as me! We have been together since 7th grade. We love each other a lot! We now live in his parents' other apartment. We study in one class - everything is great. Last day I found out I was pregnant, I haven't told anyone yet! What should I do now I want this baby, but I think I'm too young for a child and he's young! And I want education! Should I have an abortion without telling him ..! Thank you for the answers!
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Hello! I think talk to him first. If you have been together for so long, he should know that you will both make the right decision. Good luck ;)
Once you have taken the initiative to live together, then you must be ready for such a situation. Once your parents have agreed to this option, then they should be ready too. You are right to be young as a child. But my advice is not to have an abortion. It is risky and much more dangerous than giving birth. It may happen that you can't have children later. Unfortunately, you are too young to rely entirely on yourself and your parents will have to help. I know it sounds a little selfish, but what's wrong with getting an education while your child is small and grandmothers fussing around when you're busier? Then you will have the opportunity to build a career with an adult child, you will not have to go out on maternity leave and interrupt it. You can study part-time, so you will be close to the child when he is small. Only before exams will others have to take more care of him. After being with this boy for so many years, it means everything is fine, you didn't get pregnant by some accident. This is one option, the other is to have an abortion, but should you tell him or not? My advice is to tell him. Even tell your parents and make the right decision. If you have an abortion without telling him - it's very selfish. He has a right to know, because this child is his. Imagine not telling him and one day he finds out - it can kill him and ruin the relationship. I wish you to make the right decision. And remember that the child will bring you much more joy than anything else. I'm 32 and it so happened in my life that I still don't have children. Now, if I go back in time and put myself mentally in your situation, I would keep this child. It is not known what can happen in this life. If you keep it, you will never regret it. If not, it can weigh on your conscience for the rest of your life. Good luck, darling ....
The first thing you need to do is tell your boyfriend ... you've been together long enough ... and you're mature enough to discuss it and decide what to do :) and yet I know a girl who gave birth at 17 and now she has a great daughter ... but you're still young ... talk and decide ... that's the right thing to do. Good luck :)
Darling, I guess it's terribly difficult for you to make a decision and you're damn confused. But I think it's right to talk to him or your mother, at least to get the best decision for you. Let's say you're not very young, even though it's too early to be a mother at 17, but it's not just you, so ... The whole family is the people who have to make a decision! Don't act alone !!! Talk to someone! It is true that learning is also important, but you can graduate as a private student and look after your child if you want to ... My advice is to sit down and talk to both of you, and you can share with your parents - after all they are your family and will support you, even if they are shocked, aggressive or angry at first (I guess). Good luck!!!
You remember that it is not only your child.
And why don't you tell him and have an abortion. He must know so that such cracks do not happen again.
FROM THE AUTHOR: Thank you very much for the advice. I'll tell him - but I don't have that strength yet! Very difficult for me! His and my parents are very good people, so I can count on them for everything. I am very afraid of the thought if I have an abortion now and that then I may not be able to get pregnant again! Thank you !
I will be brief and clear. Tell him, if you don't tell him, you will regret it for the rest of your life :) I wish you a lot of success and love.
Do you want this child created by love? And I advise you to give birth to your child, obviously now is the time for you .... to be a young mother :))))). And to the fact that it will be difficult for you, it is true, but even at 30 it will be difficult. :)) There is time for everything and for school and for a child, and for work. There is a desire, there is a way, there is no desire, there is a reason ...
It depends on whether your relationship with him is good! Otherwise, the other comments are correct. If you are ready to raise a child and live together, this is a gift :)))
Think hard. A child cannot raise a child. Don't be angry but you are both children. It's good for both of you to make a decision, and if you want this child and if you go hand in hand together, I don't see what can stop you. And when it comes to education - do you have parents or relatives they need to help you. Do not despair in life, everything happens for a specific reason and this reason is always for the better. Good luck and success. WHATEVER YOU DECIDE, YOU ARE IN YOUR RIGHT. IN BOTH CASES YOU WILL BE RIGHT.
Thank you all for the answers! I told him and our parents! Everyone accepted him well ... except him - he is a little shocked but now he is very happy! When the baby is born, my mother and his will come to live with us - they will change and we will look after the child together! Everything went well at least! Thank you ! Now there is another problem - how to give birth? :) but I'll handle it.
From Number 2: I'm glad you listened to our advice. You will not regret this. And what is the problem with childbirth? Is it normal or cesarean?
I'm sorry but I can't help you in this case.
Ace I think you should not have an abortion, and definitely share it, and after a while tell your parents, of course they will take it a little strange, but still have no choice, and I heard that in Peru there were 5 one year old girl who was pregnant ... hahahaha ... a bit strange, but ... :) :)
I think that once your parents have accepted that it is normal to live as a family at the age of 17, they will also accept that you are pregnant. Because it's expected, don't you remember? So gather them at home and tell them all the news at once. Do what you want, and let what you want happen. Good luck.
I'm sorry but I can't help you in this case.