Hello. I have been reading the stories on the site for years and now it is my turn to tell my story. My friend and I are expecting a baby girl. When my friend found out that the baby was female, he was not happy at all and I saw the disappointment in his eyes. Why don't men rejoice when they find out that they will become the fathers of girls? He was excited to tell his parents, and now he wants us to wait until Christmas after realizing we're expecting a girl. We are both a little over 30 and have a relationship over 10 if that matters. Will he be rude and uninterested in his daughter? Does anyone have experience with such a situation and how the father treated his daughter after she was born and in her childhood. Thank you.
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My husband was also disappointed at first, but he passed quickly when he saw the child. The soul gives for it, loves it very much and takes care of it. 4 years later our son was born and he is even happier. Don't worry about such things, enjoy your pregnancy and take care of yourself so that you can make it to the end.
cultural features of our savage, Asian folk psychology. you already know if his attitude will be different, you don't have to ask.
We have a girl and we are waiting for another one, but we don't know the gender, my husband didn't make any requests, he is looking after the child. He just wanted to and was a little disappointed either in himself that he hadn't made a man. However, to be born alive and well is the most important thing. Otherwise, I know men who want daughters. You can talk to him, probably when he is born it will be different.
Hi, I can only reassure you. My husband 11 years ago understood that we were expecting a girl and he was sick for several months, but when he was born and to this day we already have two girls, there is no one happier than him!
You have a primitive man. My wife and I had two boys, and if you know how I prayed at least the third would be a daughter. Grandpa Torbalan
I notice something else. There is usually a special bond between father and daughter, as well as between mother and son. I was impressed that fathers are very considerate and understanding of their daughters. I have many familiar men who wanted a son, but once their daughter was born, they were willing to give their lives for her. Women wear out children, they get used to the idea faster and start to feel the baby very early. The man realizes things only when the baby is born, he simply has not had the opportunity to live with him for 9 months 24/7. Do not despair, give him time when you give birth and he sees his daughter, he will be happy, he will hug her, he will touch her hands and he will fall in love. Daughter or son, he is a child, carries his blood.
Abe, are there any other Neanderthals to fuck their mom? This is only available in India and Bulgaria. And if you have a boy, will your Neanderthal get a second dick? He should pray for his child to be alive and healthy, that if he is not, sex will be his last problem for the sick ego.
Come on, again, summaries and reasons to spit on our people's psychology. I really wanted our first child to be a girl and I was glad to have a daughter. She later became her little brother's most caring poop. I realize that when I got married I was too young and I really wasn't ready to be a male father yet, and when my son was born I already had a lot more to pass on to him as a life experience, as a man to a man. At the same time, I now feel too old to communicate with a little girl and I am happy to have an older daughter. Thank God for my two wonderful children!
What are these men you found? When it was too early for the baby's gender, my husband's parents were told we were expecting a baby, his father asked my boy or girl he preferred, and he replied "it doesn't matter, just be alive and well." You deserve such men, dear ladies, and tell your men, who are so disappointed, to hit their heads against the wall and reread their biology textbooks!
He will get used to it, calmly. He had just imagined that a boy could happen and the reality disappointed him. But it would be bad if he didn't know the sex until birth and hoped for a boy all the time. He will gradually get used to it. Reassure him that he may be lucky the second time, although Bruce Willis has 5 daughters for example :)
Lower individuals always identify very strongly with their gender. They just can't do anything else, and often have nothing to do with it.
I am a 12 year old girl. My mother recorded the announcement of the fathers that he would have a daughter ... how he was just happy, I don't know why and I thought that men are more happy than boys, but not my father :) My mother wanted me to be a boy, but, alas ....
Girls' fathers are disappointed because they see what modern girls are becoming. They smoke, drink, fuck at the age of 13-14, should they enjoy it? The most unfortunate thing is that it is not someone else who makes them like that, but they themselves turn into muffins, and the boys look for it, quickly find them and depersonalize them as individuals. Every parent is happy to see their children succeed in life, whether they are boys or girls.
Oh my God! In the 21st century, in a country that is supposedly modern, are there still such primates? !! Excuse me, if I'm rude, but in what remote village was your friend born? What kind of person should you be to not love your child just because he or she is of a certain gender? !! I am a woman, but if I had felt the slightest hint from my father that he preferred to have a son instead of me, I think I would never have forgiven him! This is HIS child, damn it! What does his gender matter? The only important thing is to be born alive and healthy! And as for the nonsense of what this 14-year-old girl would become, I'm referring to comment 13, the problem is not that she's a girl, but that these girls had parents who didn't do their job. You raise her with love, pay attention to her and be by her side and she will not turn into a muffin, nor will her biggest dream be to find a rich uncle, to give her money for silicone. And no one among the boys has failed? So it's not about gender, it's about upbringing!
I would consider whether to live with such a man in the future ..
There was a similar topic, I think it was. My husband is disappointed that we will have a girl - something like this: your husband is a fool if he does not want the child to leave now, I am a man and I know that a man should not offend a woman when pregnant whatever child it is. Drop it
To №14! Would you write how old you are and do you have children? Apparently you don't, because you're still in the clouds !? When you land, then comment on life on earth!
I am a 37 woman. My father was terribly disappointed that I would be a girl and even lost a bass that was for a case of beer. However, I am my father's weakness, not my brother's. So everything changes when the child is born. And men have told me that they wanted a son, but daughters are their weakness.
I think she will love him again, don't worry. At first I thought about what kind of person would react like that, then I remembered myself. I really wanted a child, it turned out late, over 30. I was very happy to be pregnant and I always wanted her to be a girl. Because I didn't know what to do with a boy at all. What they play, what excites them and how to raise him. I wanted a girl to be more confident as a mother. Well, boy came. Yes, I was disappointed. And I hid it, I suppressed it, because the important thing is to be healthy and blah-blah. I couldn't even imagine how nice it is to have a boy! It must be different than having a girl, but my child is my favorite person and always will be. So I think that your husband had some hope, now he is disappointed, not by you or the child, but by the fact that the hope will not come true. But then he will really discover the charm of fatherhood, the happiness of calming the child, of putting him to sleep, of teaching him something, of carrying him on his shoulders. Be calm.
Number 19, I'm a woman of 37 and thank you, but for years I can no longer afford to soar in the clouds. And yes, I have a daughter and I know how difficult it is sometimes to raise and educate her, but I try. I talk, I explain, I listen and I hope that I will do if not perfectly, then at least decently in the role of a parent and when she becomes a teenager she will not ask for silicone for her birthday, nor will she tell me that her boyfriend is 45, but he is rich and drives a jeep.
I was told that my father looked visibly disappointed when he was told in the maternity ward that he had another daughter when I was born (40 years ago they did not know in advance), but for me and my sister he was always the most -the wonderful and caring father and we have always had all his love and support, and also of our mother. On the other hand, I realize that he has compensated for the lack of a son by joining me in some of his male interests - football, fishing, gardening, and to this day we go fishing with him, discuss matches and varieties of vines and fruit trees. At the same time, as a child, he took me to dances, to painting, to the piano, so neither of us was harmed. He is not just my father, but my best friend. And he was disappointed that I was a girl! I think he thought quickly. :) And you don't know if he'll think about it when he sees her,
My father really wanted me to be a boy. And after he found out that he would have a second daughter and other reasons, of course, he left my mother. I never saw him. Only on photos. And my husband's father, even though he had 2 wonderful sweet boys, abandoned his mother. Thus, our children will never have a grandfather to teach them various things due to human stupidity and vanity.
Apparently he imagined that there would be no chance of giving birth to a boy, given his age. He will love your daughter, of course. After all, you work for a boy, even if a girl is born, that's how it was written for you - it's still double happiness.