Hello :) I am a girl, 14, this year in a new class and in a new school. For me, the situation is like this - there is a girl in my class with whom we were in the same class for seven years, we have never been close, but she does not seem to realize this and takes me for her best friend. She entered our current class just to be with me again, no matter that she didn't particularly want this specialty, nor did she know anyone. At the moment, I'm dating three other girls with whom we are close and have the same interests, and she's dragging after us, which makes me very sick, but we just have nothing to do with her. I want her to make friends with other people, to make new friends ... But she is obviously too shy and she can't do it ... And I already like to be everywhere with me all day long, and to have nothing let's say. Any tips
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I know this type of girls ... I've been in the same situation and you should know that I don't understand this girl from good and from hints that she is not wanted. There are 2 options: 1. You are silent and try to get out of it so that it is not too cruel. 2. You become the biggest nightmare for her and you shout in her face that no one wants her, including you. It's naughty, I know ... But that's your only choice. She will be angry with you and hate you for a while, but then she will pass and leave you.
So the interests of you and those three are the chalga, the parties and the split high batkovtsi, and she is shy and doesn't have these stupid interests like you and you don't want her. The poor girl ...
Abe number 2, how did all this solve it and I was in such situations as the author and I was not at all like your description that you gave for her, after all the best friends have their secrets and do not want outsiders, plus this was a very disgusting and impudent a girl who was so annoying to us and infuriated me came to us straight in, but I kept telling her that I would go to the village when I was going, and so I managed to send her away, otherwise she was sitting on a bench next to us waiting for me to go out. God, no one wanted her, I was disgusted and she pushes me, in such situations my apologies, but you're wrong ..Author, tell me that you can go out again, but you have girlfriends with whom you want to be only four without her because you have known each other for a long time, for example, and you want to be alone, you are so used to being out with them. and say that you are at the cinema or in your grandmother's cousins or in the village, say such things and that you want to introduce her to new people so that she has more friends, so that she is not alone, offer to help her and introduce her to people like her. friendly with a few lies you will not offend her and she will understand you at least you will get rid of her without offending her success :)))
To number 2. GIVE HIM the right to rule the world of this person. To the author: What exactly worries you that she is dragging with you. It's too ugly or fat for sure, and MMAs and other bullies and shaved heads and legs won't like you for sure. I didn't understand why you were uncomfortable moving with you. Pick up a topic for conversation, a movie or a book. I will tell you only one conclusion, if you lose it you will make a big mistake, because nowadays these (shy, anxious) people are super rare.
Look her in the eye and tell her to get lost. Everything else is unfair to her and you.
Introduce her to other people and then slowly move her away from you.
Until number two - the author has not said anything like that. I advise you in the future to refrain from "putting" words in people's mouths. To the author - the girl may be really too shy and looking for familiar faces. Try to get into her situation and try to get to know her better - you may have more common interests than you think. You have to learn to take an interest in people - ask her questions, get to know her. Personally, I didn't really understand what you didn't like about your classmate - that you had nothing in common or the fact that she was following you? If she's not a brat who thinks only of herself and lives on the backs of others, I don't see anything wrong with trying to get to know her. If you are really so uncomfortable with her and if you really have nothing to do - then it will be good to be honest and tell her the truth without rudeness to her. Friendship does not happen by force - it is not a given. Try to explain to her that you don't mind her, but you just don't fit in and you're embarrassed. Help her socialize and get closer to others in the class. Well, good luck and I will ask you to write details, because I did not understand what exactly is the problem - you just do not have common interests or the girl herself is not pleasant to you as a character? - Moonlight
№ 1 you are not right at all and I have been in a similar situation and I have felt very well when I am wanted and when I am not. And I was such a girl and I was in that situation when I felt something was wrong, I was just leaving or backing away. I had a "friend from school" who, when we finished, saw "how much she cared about me". Well now I follow, and she sells clothes in a store. Maybe the girl realizes things, but just closes her eyes to the truth. I say that because I have experienced it on my back. And the author gave you the advice to tell her that no one wants her, I just have no words. It is not known how sensitive she is to how she can react, some even take their own lives, for example, when one day 9th grade the first days everyone shunned me, I ran away and did not want to go home at all! Then I tried to chat with everyone in the class and until the 12th grade I had a pretty good attitude on their part. To the author: The situation is very similar to the one from the movie "The Gang", if you haven't watched it, I advise you to download it. There, the main character is a sweet but rather shy girl and lives with her rented mother in a guest house with one of her new classmates, which is a muffin. The parents try to befriend them, but it doesn't work out, even though Claire feels bad about them, but she still tries to be like them and like them. In a difficult moment, however, it is clear how much they cared about her. And with the help of the family butler, she realizes that she can find other friends and is not obliged to be close to people from whom she suffers a nasty attitude. So he finds a new girlfriend with common interests, and they both realize that they are far above the stupid muffins intellectually. Hopefully this girl will realize in the same way and find decent people!
give it to us reading colleagues here, we will be better friends than you
Try to make friends with her. It can be a nice person :(
I'm in the same situation, only now I'm in 7th grade. I do not know how to repel this girl, the only thing I "apply" is ignoring, paga for a while, but after 10 minutes she is still with me. We are completely different, only one "hello, hello" we can say, this feeling is disgusting (on both sides). If you can somehow repel her, but not rudely- WRITE, because it would help me too: D
Yes, I have 1 tip - grow up! The girl wants to be your friend, introduce her to the other girls and you're done. It was a very difficult decision! AKATIM
Is he likely to like you?