Hello! I hope they upload my story because I really need advice. I recently became quite close with a girl and we became inseparable. I feel very close to her and I can share everything with her. In the beginning we got along very well, but lately we fight quite often. In principle, neither I nor she are angry about all sorts of nonsense. But once she made me lie to her parents, and I'm very much against it. I'm not going to tell the story because it's very long, but she really made a big mistake because she fled to another city and she hadn't even told me. Eventually I started looking for contact with her friends and found out exactly where she had gone. When she came home, I was furious and I didn't look for her for days, and she didn't look for me. But the heart does not ask for a head, one day I looked for it, but alas there is no answer. I wrote to her for days and finally she decided to answer me and told me, that so far she has been offended by me for something else. Anyway, then we got better. Then we quarreled a few more times and of course I kept looking for her because I couldn't stand being without her, even though it was still her fault. And now again the same problems, we quarreled for great stupidity, but I promised myself not to look for her this time. It's been a week and she can't think of me. I don't know what to do, I care about her and I love her very much, but she does a lot of stupid things and in the end she doesn't admit her mistake about them and someone else should always look for her. I wonder if she cares about me at all ... Is she dumb, just like me now. Advise me what to do? Should I apologize to her again or wait? Is she a friend of mine at all if she never looks for me, I know it's stupid and childish .. I also know that there is no friendship without quarrels, but .. Then we quarreled a few more times and of course I kept looking for her because I couldn't stand being without her, even though it was still her fault. And now again the same problems, we quarreled for great stupidity, but I promised myself not to look for her this time. It's been a week and she can't think of me. I don't know what to do, I care about her and I love her very much, but she does a lot of stupid things and in the end she doesn't admit her mistake about them and someone else should always look for her. I wonder if she cares about me at all ... Is she dumb, just like me now. Advise me what to do? Should I apologize to her again or wait? Is she a friend of mine at all if she never looks for me, I know it's stupid and childish .. I also know that there is no friendship without quarrels, but .. Then we quarreled a few more times and of course I kept looking for her because I couldn't stand being without her, even though it was still her fault. And now again the same problems, we quarreled for great stupidity, but I promised myself not to look for her this time. It's been a week and she can't think of me. I don't know what to do, I care about her and I love her very much, but she does a lot of stupid things and in the end she doesn't admit her mistake about them and someone else should always look for her. I wonder if she cares about me at all ... Is she dumb, just like me now. Advise me what to do? Should I apologize to her again or wait? Is she a friend of mine at all if she never looks for me, I know it's stupid and childish .. I also know that there is no friendship without quarrels, but .. although it was still her fault. And now again the same problems, we quarreled for great stupidity, but I promised myself not to look for her this time. It's been a week and she can't think of me. I don't know what to do, I care about her and I love her very much, but she does a lot of stupid things and in the end she doesn't admit her mistake about them and someone else should always look for her. I wonder if she cares about me at all ... Is she dumb, just like me now. Advise me what to do? Should I apologize to her again or wait? Is she a friend of mine at all if she never looks for me, I know it's stupid and childish .. I also know that there is no friendship without quarrels, but .. although it was still her fault. And now again the same problems, we quarreled for great stupidity, but I promised myself not to look for her this time. It's been a week and she can't think of me. I don't know what to do, I care about her and I love her very much, but she does a lot of stupid things and in the end she doesn't admit her mistake about them and someone else should always look for her. I wonder if she cares about me at all ... Is she dumb, just like me now. Advise me what to do? Should I apologize to her again or wait? Is she my girlfriend at all if she never looks for me, I know it's stupid and childish .. I also know that there is no friendship without quarrels, but .. but she does great nonsense and in the end does not admit her mistake for them, and another must always look for her. I wonder if she cares about me at all ... Is she dumb, just like me now. Advise me what to do? Should I apologize to her again or wait? Is she a friend of mine at all if she never looks for me, I know it's stupid and childish .. I also know that there is no friendship without quarrels, but .. but she does great nonsense and in the end does not admit her mistake for them, and another must always look for her. I wonder if she cares about me at all ... Is she dumb, just like me now. Advise me what to do? Should I apologize to her again or wait? Is she my girlfriend at all if she never looks for me, I know it's stupid and childish .. I also know that there is no friendship without quarrels, but ..
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Frequent quarrels in a friendship are not normal, let alone the fact that your "girlfriend" blames you for everything and does not admit your mistakes. At the risk of offending you, the young lady in question apparently contacted you in the beginning while she was interesting to her, but she no longer wants to communicate with you and ignores you. I know how bad it is to lose a friend, but you don't need people like that. It is best to focus on people who will appreciate you and take you seriously, she let her break her head.
You don't have to look for her, if she doesn't look for you, she doesn't need you. Find another company that you will have fun with and you will not fight constantly. :)
Relationships with friends are almost like relationships with a boyfriend, ie feelings should be mutual and both parties should be willing to compromise. You can't just look for her, apologize to her, etc. If she doesn't look for you, no matter how sorry you are, accept that this girl doesn't care about you, at least not as much as you care about her. Sometimes it's hard to make real friends, and that's why I understand that you do your best to make things right, but as I said, you both have to make an effort. You can't just take the initiative and not think about you for weeks. So wait a few more days and if there is no reaction from her ... well, everything is clear. However, there is no point in apologizing to her once again for something you are not guilty of. Or at least it doesn't make sense if the apology isn't mutual, but to look for her and almost humiliate yourself and pray that she is your friend - it makes no sense, this is not a real friendship! Look for people who will really appreciate what you do for them and will not leave you in a position to beg them to be friends.
I was in exactly the same position as you. I will advise you to listen to the others who have commented and not to look for her. I hope she looks for you and you get better. If not, I know how nasty the feeling is. But focus on people who won't have to constantly apologize and constantly worry about your relationship because they will appreciate you just the way you are.
Hello, a girl who had the same problem as yours wrote to you. I can't lie to you because you will live in illusion. It will not change because of you or anyone else. She obviously doesn't care about you. If you keep apologizing to her, you get weak and next time she'll do the same because she knows it works. I was like that with my best friend for years, but once I defended my position, she no longer treated me like a puppy. If she doesn't realize her mistake, you have to wait for her, but not apologize in any way. Now you're going to stand up for her and that she wasn't like that, but think about my words. Best wishes, a girl in the same situation