Hi, I'm 17, girl. I live in a house in Sofia with my parents. My father has always been a lover of alcohol, but he didn't cause any problems unless he was shaking hard. It's time to say that although lately I have the feeling that he lost his alignment, he didn't hit my mother or at least I don't know .. However, they fight a lot .. I know I'm not the only one and I read a lot, but somehow I hope that sharing will make it easier for me. They quarrel, vicious, hateful .. you feel hatred in my father's voice and pain in my mother's ... and when they don't fight they don't talk .. they don't look at each other. So far I haven't been so sick. They have been sleeping on different floors for 2-3 months, they avoid each other .. My father drinks and drinks more and more .. and my mother smokes .. I don't know what to do .. The problem is not only that .. Their quarrels affect me, but they do not affect me as much as my father's attitude towards me. He constantly humiliates me at every opportunity, calls my friends obscene words, just wants to be his and twists everything I say. I am terribly disappointed with the world, with life .. At the age of 17 and honestly my worldview has changed to such an extent that I do not think there is anything good .. or at least for me .. I know that there are good people, but how to I still believe after my own father repeats to me that I am nothing and teaches me morals like "collect some money for you when you can ... but how will you collect ... you are stupid and you are not hungry and you do not understand". I just don't know what to do and I'm very ashamed to talk to anyone about it .. that's why I'm writing here, at least a little of the lump to get away .. but they do not affect me as much as my father's attitude towards me. He constantly humiliates me at every opportunity, calls my friends obscene words, just wants to be his and twists everything I say. I am terribly disappointed with the world, with life .. At the age of 17 and honestly my worldview has changed to such an extent that I do not think there is anything good .. or at least for me .. I know that there are good people, but how to I still believe after my own father repeats to me that I am nothing and teaches me morals like "collect some money for you when you can ... but how will you collect ... you are stupid and you are not hungry and you do not understand". I just don't know what to do and I'm a hell of a shame to talk to anyone about it .. that's why I'm writing here, at least a little of the lump to get away .. but they do not affect me as much as my father's attitude towards me. He constantly humiliates me at every opportunity, calls my friends obscene words, just wants to be his and twists everything I say. I am terribly disappointed with the world, with life .. At the age of 17 and honestly my worldview has changed to such an extent that I do not think there is anything good .. or at least for me .. I know that there are good people, but how to I still believe after my own father repeats to me that I am nothing and teaches me morals like "collect some money for you when you can ... but how will you collect ... you are stupid and you are not hungry and you do not understand". I just don't know what to do and I'm a hell of a shame to talk to anyone about it .. that's why I'm writing here, at least a little of the lump to get away .. as much as my father's attitude towards me. He constantly humiliates me at every opportunity, calls my friends obscene words, just wants to be his and twists everything I say. I am terribly disappointed with the world, with life .. At the age of 17 and honestly my worldview has changed to such an extent that I do not think there is anything good .. or at least for me .. I know that there are good people, but how to I still believe after my own father repeats to me that I am nothing and teaches me morals like "collect some money for you when you can ... but how will you collect ... you are stupid and you are not hungry and you do not understand". I just don't know what to do and I'm a hell of a shame to talk to anyone about it .. that's why I'm writing here, at least a little of the lump to get away .. as much as my father's attitude towards me. He constantly humiliates me at every opportunity, calls my friends obscene words, just wants to be his and twists everything I say. I am terribly disappointed with the world, with life .. At the age of 17 and honestly my worldview has changed to such an extent that I do not think there is anything good .. or at least for me .. I know that there are good people, but how to I still believe after my own father repeats to me that I am nothing and teaches me morals like "collect some money for you when you can ... but how will you collect ... you are stupid and you are not hungry and you do not understand". I just don't know what to do and I'm a hell of a shame to talk to anyone about it .. that's why I'm writing here, at least a little of the lump to get away .. he calls my friends obscene words, he just wants to be his and twists everything I say. I am terribly disappointed with the world, with life .. At the age of 17 and honestly my worldview has changed to such an extent that I do not think there is anything good .. or at least for me .. I know that there are good people, but how to I still believe after my own father repeats to me that I am nothing and teaches me morals like "collect some money for you when you can ... but how will you collect ... you are stupid and you are not hungry and you do not understand". I just don't know what to do and I'm a hell of a shame to talk to anyone about it .. that's why I'm writing here, at least a little of the lump to get away .. he calls my friends obscene words, he just wants to be his and twists everything I say. I am terribly disappointed with the world, with life .. At the age of 17 and honestly my worldview has changed to such an extent that I do not think there is anything good .. or at least for me .. I know that there are good people, but how to I still believe after my own father repeats to me that I am nothing and teaches me morals like "collect some money for you when you can ... but how will you collect ... you are stupid and you are not hungry and you do not understand". I just don't know what to do and I'm a hell of a shame to talk to anyone about it .. that's why I'm writing here, at least a little of the lump to get away ..
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I think the problem comes from alcohol dependence. BUT nothing can be done because it is to the grave. Save yourself, get out, he's already ruined by life anyway, at least don't ruin yours.
Life is very difficult and maybe this is the main reason why they behave like that - this is evident from the quoted words of your father. Maybe if you're more serious - much more serious - your job right now is to study - sooner or later they will notice. In addition, parents always love their children, but they are not always able to bring that love to light. You can do it because you're young and you're not crushed by life yet - tell them you love them, hug them (your father - when he's sober so he can appreciate him), and maybe they'll take strength from you - strength they need to overcome difficulties.
We have similar problems, I will not talk in detail. But I know how you feel, especially the part with the screaming and the slow fading. I stand between the two, and the tears flow without saying a word, because I'm afraid I'll explode and then my father can do something. I completely understand you ... you are not alone. Everyone with similar problems understands them and hopes that everything will be fine one day.
My mother and father have been separated for 3 years, I was not there until they separated because I was with my grandparents. they fought but now I don't feel very different. I was 13 when I found out, and now I'm 15 and I don't really care. I see them both and I'm super good :) I hope you can handle this mess :))