Hello, I have a problem and a solution will hardly be found, but I need to share it with someone, because there is no one because of its nature. My boyfriend and I are 24 years old, we have been together for almost a year and we already live together. But shortly after the beginning of our relationship, the problems in sex began. He gained 15 kg. and he couldn't keep his erection, we went through the agony, we went around a lot of doctors, it was found that he had low testosterone levels, he took various pills, he lost about 10 kg and things seemingly improved in a few months. Now he has problems again, this time not with the erection, but with the desire, very rarely to have any desire for sex. He wants me, that's not the problem, I'm ready for any experiments in bed, we tried everything again, but again nothing. Maybe just the problem physically and mentally. I'm already thinking about serious things, but that bothers me a lot. I want to help him because I see him crushing himself mentally, almost because he's not a man. I don't press him to have sex either. I want him to be completely calm, but it bothers him a lot. I would never cheat on him, and yesterday he offered to find me a lover in a moment of despair. Help me with a decision, I can't look at my boy like that. Thank you in advance!
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Well, there's nothing like that. Sex is not important. The important thing is to love each other. Trust yourself, he sex is not important was dear ladies. Love is important.
Oh, look now ... Your situation is difficult and very ... I am a 21-year-old man and I have had a serious girlfriend for 3 years and something similar happened to her, she had lost her desire, but I see that something is wrong. .. And basically I like toys, fisting and so on and generally wide girls just drive me crazy. So recently I realized that she wants to touch and be her master, to tell you I was a little jealous because it was very difficult to make her say, I even made her do it but the cool thing is that now we are literally on a new page sex is unique she ai she trains every day with big toys and carries plows outside and I drive her crazy and she cums 10 times when we get together and have sex for 2 or 3 hours. See try to find out if there's something he likes and doesn't tell you, some fetish, if not a relationship without sex you can't know, this is the way two people remove the accumulated negativity. If it doesn't work out and you don't find anything, come to me and I will make you a happiness program to deal with until you find a new partner;)
Threesome with another. Someone will fix you and it will not be infidelity because he will be there.
To drink in the morning and in the evening, tea from grandmother's teeth. They sell them in pharmacies. And most importantly to play sports to have normal weight!
Author, did your friend accidentally use some kind of substance to maintain a super muscular body? Because the effect after stopping them is weight loss, weight gain, erection problems and sex in general.
DO NOT act like you are his mother! This kills the attraction a lot. Don't talk about him with the words "my boy", as if he were your 7-year-old son. Let the attitude not be like that. Behave like a sexy friend, give him blowjobs while watching TV, testicular massages, kiss, tell him you want to slap your ass, not tell him "my boy, I can't look at you like that, I'm sad: ("Change something in your appearance - hairstyle, hair color, typical clothes, lipstick color, etc. The limbic nervous system is dull - in a man seeing the same woman, but slightly changed and thinks she is another woman and is he preparing to inseminate her? And did he talk to a psychologist? Offer him to talk to a psychologist, but without you. You may not be attracted to him (sorry, but it's possible) and therefore not have sex with him. At work. There may be problems with colleagues. There may be problems with the parents. It may be in an existential crisis of some kind. In general, a lot of options.
You can go to a therapist and talk to him. It can give you guidance. Indeed, in general, weight interferes with sexuality, but they should not be the main problem. At the beginning of my relationship with my husband and he was insecure, he could not, there was some harassment. He kept thinking about whether it would happen to him, etc. And all this because of his former girlfriends, who refused him sex, respectively, he decided that nothing was happening, they cheated on him, etc. Well, I can tell you that when we met he was very insecure about a mature man, but with a lot of talking between us, he is great now. It all comes from an inner attitude. Talk, if you love him be patient, help him get through this so-called depression and I think things will work out. Success!
I may be attacked by some commentators, but every day sex and cohabitation get tired. I'm tired of it. Sex every day, I really can't stand it at times. I love it, but I'm not in the mood. And he just repeats to me: appetite comes with eating.
Well, this is a sex section, not for people who don't have sex. I had the same problem, it didn't work out at all. To a man of that age, if he doesn't, then he is impotent. He may worry once, twice, but not regularly. I endured this horror for three months. I also went to a sexologist who gave me stupid advice not to leave him. And try Viagra. Scary. After he managed to do it at all, and only with the maximum dose of Viagra, sex was disgusting. And how could it not be, since he must have had sex 10 times in his life. He doesn't know where to put it, he's lazy, bored in bed. Otherwise he is in top shape, he plays sports every day. If the dream of your life is to be with an impotent man, congratulations! Some women look for just that because they don't like sex. When I look, you don't care much about sex when you're still with him. After 3 months of torment, the boyfriend in question cut me off.