Hi, I'm a 14 year old boy and I recently started going out in a company (with a friend in my class). The problem is that everyone is open, they talk calmly and I am shy, I hardly speak, only if they ask me something. In the company we are mainly 3 boys and girls (sometimes others come). I have no problem talking to boys, but I just get involved with girls, and I don't know what to talk about. I just want to somehow overcome the shame all of a sudden, but I can't do it. You are not a fortune teller to tell me what to do, but at least give me some advice to relax a little, that with this shame I am nowhere.
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I'm like that too, I'm already big, it's slowly passing, but you're the way you are, don't try to change, learn to appreciate and love yourself, don't think about how you look in front of others, you can't understand that, if you want to say something - say it, if you are not told - do not, enjoy life. However, people think mostly about themselves at all times and do not look so much whether someone likes you or not, there are those who will like you and others do not. Do what you like and don't care ...
Friend № 1 told you exactly. My best friend was like you. Girls will love you a lot, and men will look for you, because if you are ashamed and uncomfortable talking, it means that you are very sensitive and hold on to the female sex. They are not stupid, they will feel it. When I told you about my friend, it so happened that after 2-3 years they clung to him like flies and he gained self-confidence. Be yourself, like your friends are many, but like you are few, you would give much more to a girl than them. I think he understood me. If you want to write. Good luck!!!!
Dude, I'm 19 years old and I can tell you that shame can't be overcome ... it can't be easily overcome, it will be very difficult for you ... I wish you success, don't give up, aaa, and don't forget, if you have no problem talking to boys, think you're good for your sexual orientation ... I used to be just like you
Hi, I'm the author. Thank you for the comments left though. Something new came out - I'm almost certain that a girl in our class likes me. Tomorrow I will go with her to the mall, along with another boy and girl in my class. Should I admit that I have feelings for her, or should I keep quiet? I think the first option is better, but can it cut me off I know?
Go to number 3- why should I think about my sexual orientation? I like girls, which means I'm not gay.
Listen to me and you will not go wrong. Don't watch porn, don't shine! Don't copy them your friends. Have your own style and don't glorify them. Be yourself. Porn works subconsciously and makes you weak without understanding, as do chicks. All athletes do not shine before a match because it interferes. When a person does not shine and does not watch porn, he is more focused, more confident and more sociable. There are a lot of articles in the forum like yours on 28-year-olds who are still virgins and lonely, and that's because they love nasty porn and chicks.
number 6- I did not say that I shine.