My problem is this. For Christmas with my friend, with whom we were together for 5 months we had promised to give each other a gift, I naturally gave mine. He went to 25 just to buy me a present, came back and told me he had ordered jewelry. It's January 16th, and I haven't received my present yet. I'm not a materialist, just a gesture is important. What to do How do I remind or hint to him?
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Author, if you are not a materialist, why do you expect jewelry? If it was a gesture, you could be content with a teddy bear. The man simply has no money or is not given for such nonsense and hopes to forget. Gesture gifts are made on the holiday itself, not prayed after. Gifts of materialism are milked after the holiday. Eva
Eva, you didn't understand the author correctly. She did not want her boyfriend to buy her jewelry, he chose to buy her jewelry, but only in words. Author, when you grow up, finally drop the gesture was important, the gift was important. with a gift without a gift all this, do you love each other and are happy you don't need anything, memories remain in the heart, not in the gift
I never expected jewelry, he just told me he ordered jewelry for me. I never forced him to go and order from me and I would be happy with a bear. I just wonder why, after he told me he ordered it, he doesn't give it to me yet? I never told him to give me this or that. Since we've been together, I've only made gifts. I never hinted or wanted to him. It's just naughty when you give not to receive the same gesture. And he has money because he is the head of the company where he works.
The girl is not materialistic, it just sucks when someone tells you first that you will exchange gifts for Christmas, then to come back just at Christmas and say, well, I ordered her jewelry, and now it's been more than half of January and not to have received her gift. She did not want custom jewelry. From personal experience I know how you feel at the moment when only you give, and your gesture was not returned to you once. There is still a chance!
Yes, I never wanted jewelry or anything expensive, I would really enjoy the smallest gift as long as it is from him. My gift was not expensive at all, I gave BGN 30, on January 10 he had a birthday and then I bought him a gift and gave him BGN 20, provided that I do not work, I collected all the money from my own pockets, but anyway. I wanted him to be happy, I hoped for a small gesture at least once, but he didn't. And I know he loves me, but I don't know why he does it!
Once he has robbed you, you will wait for him ... :)
Author, usually people who do not deserve - receive the greatest gifts from us, and those who deserve do not receive ANYTHING! This is life ... Think about whether the gestures of both you and your girlfriends are not aimed at paying attention to the Muhlovtsi ... Old truth - I love you, you love another, he loves another - she loves another ....
It seems that you are a materialist, the fact that you know when he went to buy you a gift and you did not stop it, speaks of the fact that you definitely want your gift back. When you make a gift, you are not expected to get the value of the money back, and as far as I read, here you are constantly talking about BGN 30, BGN 20 .... And even worse, you want advice to SURELY receive a gift, lest you be the only one to spend !!! It is best to tell him that you want BGN 50 back, because you spent them for him. I don't think that speaks well for you! Too bad for you, if you are a young person and for you maybe love costs MONEY!
I think he lied to you and didn't order you any jewelry for some reason - he either didn't have the money or he forgot. Don't remind him of anything, be more reserved until he realizes himself and decides to tell you the truth, whatever it is.
Не, аз не мисля, че съм материалистка, защото, ако бях нямаше да си правя труда да купувам аз подаръци. Не съм го спряла ли? -да спрях го понеже имах далеч по-хубави планове от тези да го чакам да ми купи подарък. Не държа непременно да ми се купи подарък, просто поне да не беше ми казал, че ще ходи еди къде си, и без да го питам да ми каже, че ми е купил еди какво си. Боли ме от факта, че предполагам лъже. Говоря за 20, 30 лв, за да изразя, че подаръка ми към него не е кой знае колко скъп, но важното, че съм се сетила и че съм го подарила с любов. Любовта не струва пари за мен, ако съм искала любов за пари още отдавна бих оставила сегашния ми приятел. Жалко, че не си ме разбрала номер 8. Авторката
Hello, Author! I wrote above - I know that you are not a materialist, but you are still a woman and I think it is normal to want and expect a gift. The gift can be expressed in attention or surprise, not exactly material and may be many times more valuable than money, BUT he did not do that either. Believe me and you as well as the others who wrote - I am not material either, but when you do for other gestures - it is normal to expect the same. And as long as they wrote nonsense - all those who do not want to return the gesture - ha ha ha nonsense or will quote me books in which it says that God has helped thousands, and only one has turned to thank him - yes - They are right, but I am not God like you. This is no excuse for not having money. I'm tired of supporting men in love in my purse ... There's a friend who's also in love and she's a treasurer again. So,
number 11 Thank you very much for the comprehensive answer, in which I did not encounter an attack, but advice and understanding. That's exactly what I want advice. Thank you all. I have a development on the issue, the boy called the jewelry from which he ordered my jewelry and they said that after January 25 it will be ready. It will be clear if it is a lie, if it is true!
Author, I'm №11 again. As it sounds to you, if I am in your place - now whether it will take me away or not - it will still be mine, people have said - after rain - a hood. Now St. Valentine's Day will come, then March 1, then March 8, etc. It is not a question of money again, I say respect again and it is not just a question of holidays. I have made thousands of gifts, thousands, thousands, and yet I expect my gesture to return - even in the form of attention - to see that he cares. Yes, yes, but it's not good to receive, but to show NO to whomever you want. Everyone has their own version of the issue, because everyone's experience is different. But I'm tired of enduring and making gestures - without even saying Thank you / it's true that I did them with love and the thought of making them happy, but I'm also a person ... at least that's what I think / then I'm told, but you're just like that and I thought that you don't need to be shown respect because you know that I respect and love you - yes yes ... I become like them, mercantile - even though I am much older than you and realize later. I hope you have luck and happiness and know - Love and respect are not bought with money! The worse your behavior, arrogant and dissatisfied - the more respected you are! Good luck in life!
Thanks a lot number 11: * I will take your advice !!
I agree with you, author and I understand you very well. It's not about mercantilism on your part, on the contrary - he is mercantilic and squeezes his money. It is normal to ask him for such gestures and any loving person would return this gesture. BGN 50 is not a small amount for a person who does not work. January 10 you say - Capricorn. I was with one. Well there is no more mercantile being. I received 4 times less salary, but I always tried to make him nice gifts. I was depriving myself of something to make him happy. In return, he kept all his money in a bank, and I received the crumbs ... Something for 1-2 leva, or something old, given to him, as if it were nothing. The excuse was - collected for "our home". Well guess how much he collected. At one point he took off his hat with this money and emigrated to Canada ... And dogs ate me. My advice is - do not give him ANYTHING again until he gives you the promised gift, or at least something for St. Valentine. Don't listen to those here who explain to you how important love was, not gifts. I used to comfort myself like that before, and then you could see how much love he had for me ...