Hello .. I am a boy I have a special question for girls .. but I will not refuse advice from boys .. if they know the answer to my dilemma and can help solve the problem :) I will be brief. (relatively ....) I have tried many times to talk to the fairer sex. But I always fail ... I tried to understand why. And I have some suspicions. Which I want you to tell me if they are justified. So .... in the beginning some people wind up for "chat" as if ... they show interest. It is clear that appearance is a major factor ... I am convinced. But even those who lie to "bite" after a while withdraw .. I show them in every way that I am well-meaning. polite .. cultural .. disciplined .. caring .. informed .. tolerant .. frank. I think .. all the good traits that I have .. and that I also thought that .. and girls value it more than anything. BUT .. even if we find a common topic of conversation .. then after a certain time of processing they soon lose interest and distance themselves. End of the game .. and that's it! WHILE what I hear from the mouths of "weak" men ... in a sense. unintelligent .. rude .. impudent and even stupid. Any with a disgusting character that I think ... I surpass them. Not that .. I say that .. I'm high level. I just believed that ... I have everything I need to satisfy a girl's desires - in my character. It turned out that the girls easily tied to such anti-heroes. I was surprised at how many ladies spin in a week - which I can't for years! What he told me was that ... there is no secret formula. He just complimented them on their looks and gifts - and that's it !! Then they ask him to take them to the sea ... sleep with them. Even with a few for one night. So .. really !! ?? Aren't girls interested in a person's personality but are selfish people who want to hear only good stories about their appearance? Flattery? And then to be "properly used" I'm just too shy and I find it outrageous and worn out to talk to a girl about how beautiful her eyes are and how "sexy" she is .. I rely on my knowledge but .. it seems a great pity .. after they have given you a few chances to anoint them and you have not done so - they throw away. "You didn't tell me that ... I'm a chick ...... goodbye!" Maybe I'm getting bored of them? Is that correct? Is it so difficult for a girl to be enough that ... someone likes her and thinks that she is beautiful without repeating it constantly and just looking for a story - to touch the mind and not just the body for one night. I'm disappointed ... I'm convinced that even the biggest fool can sleep with a "chick" even if he pretends to be a jester and I won't even impress her if I recite Hamlet by heart. So .. what do you think !? Why am I being cut? I will be very grateful if you help me !!! Thanks in advance :)
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I only like and appreciate boys like you. I don't know what you came across, but they're obviously not decent, so don't regret the "missed". They missed you. And the one who told you how turnover he is, either sleeps only with whores, or lies. There is no other option. Appreciate yourself, love yourself and you will always find a girl who is worthy of you. I hope he appears very soon. I wish you from the bottom of my heart! F, 22
The sage of Shopa, Vute, said: "The woman must lie! If you do not lie to her, let him go and lie to her!" So it doesn't pretend to be kind, polite, tolerant, etc. - such are their "boring" women. Exactly the opposite - it is made of gamen, mutra, of split batka. Tell them nonsense and fabrications ... Such things are quoted nowadays. "Fight to be respected!" there is a fairy tale.
Your qualities are very good ... If you want to be someone's friend. A man must have other qualities that you obviously lack in order to perform his function.
This with Hamlet made me laugh. F19
Very often high intelligence goes hand in hand with loss. And no one ... absolutely no one on this planet likes lost, congested and antisocial characters. There are no women, no men ... just no one wants to stand and have someone project insecurity on the other side. No matter how much you spin it, no matter how much you suck ... that's it. Women are not interested in money and gifts (not that they are missing), but in attitude. From emotions, from confidence, from behavior, from self-confidence, from security, from ENTERTAINMENT. What if you're smart? Will you have intellectual debates for 13 hours a day? Let me ask you, you, being such a superior man, what can you give a woman? As I listen to you, you seem limited and a bit complex by the fact that they prefer "lower" individuals than you ... Shall I ask you again? What can you give? Because you are obviously inexperienced. PS There is no woman on this planet who wants someone to call her "chick" Bratan.
You'll forgive me, buddy, but I don't see how you can convince anyone that you're smart. You are illiterate, and tangible.
Dude, if you're only trying out girls who go on holiday to Bali, have 130,000 followers on Instagram, or are at a different disco every night, maybe you should change your criteria a bit, huh?
Well, come up with a way to get cool babes to tie you up, aren't you very smart? Accept the truth, boy, you are either liked by women or not. Whether it's fluid or charisma, it's not related to money or education, etc., or you have it and you stick to it or you write here and philosophize, but it's no use.
Thanks for the answers FROM THE AUTHOR: Up to №1 Thank you very much for the support! :) I'll wait .. Until №2 I have no intention .. to start a girl who would allow herself to be deceived. A relationship .. which is based on a lie .. completely loses its meaning. Do№3 If these qualities .. are mainly physical and this is what the girl is looking for and not reason and feelings .. then I do not want to be such a "man" this is sex and not love. Until №4 I wish they laughed too ...: D Until №6 I'm not illiterate .. I just have difficulty with punctuation. :) Plus ... literacy is not closely tied to intellect! I bet ... a lot of items are stronger to me than you are. Including areas that are not studied in high school. However .. it doesn't make me smarter .. but being informed is useful. Read more - talk less. Until №7 I definitely do not try and would not try with this type of girls. :
Number 2 is absolutely right, probably the genius: e will beat him to pieces, but that's because the truth hurts. They cannot be objective and it is always someone else's fault, so they would not realize how the growing naivete among them (fueled by this need to fly in the clouds) is the reason why a large number of them unwittingly became k. ** you.
Well, why did I memorize a verse by Pushkin - it also works with quality individuals.
If you learn to write and commas instead of putting dots in a word, it will be great!
First, don't underestimate your opponent just because he hasn't betrayed his strategy. One thing may happen to you, but the reality may be different. Second, women like smart men. But we also like funny men. If you try too hard to please her, behave and talk stiffly, you can't laugh, you won't have much success. Third, if you are targeting those who give in to the second compliment for their beautiful eyes, you are obviously not that smart. This usually indicates low self-esteem on the part of the girl, if she did not like the fool in question for other reasons, it depends on how much they have met and what kind of vent she is looking for, but in the greater percentage of cases it is. Girls with low self-esteem cheat, write to others and flirt with others even when they are in a relationship because they do not believe in themselves and seek more attention. Just like boys with low self-esteem.
You explain yourself too much and become annoying. Many of those who read your post have skipped one line. There are people who talk, talk for a long time and the meaning is summarized in 2 sentences. Probably when you chat you catch one or two girls and you want a lot of attention to be given to you. Your acquaintance is boastful, he is such a busy vadali. You just keep communicating with people and you will find a girlfriend.
Browse the site and you will find many such topics with your "problem". Not only will you understand, but you must impose it on your will. I am a man of 40 and my life is a real failure precisely because of these "qualities". I'm the same as you as you described. With the difference in age and experience if you can call it that. Dude! For such gentlemen, there is no place in today's world! If you want to be a pad, a rag, or a dragging mollusk, keep it that way. I have given over 15 connections to the end of my abilities. And after a year or two, when there was nothing left to squeeze out of me, they left! They swore that someone like me was not to be missed, etc., until the moment they told me that not everything was money, bills, food and attention. I also needed presents. Excursions. Flowers must be twice a week. For cancellation in domestic duties, It's not a written law that I have to participate in absolutely everything. Should I continue, or do you feel where I'm going? In two sentences I will confirm it for you. Because we are careful with the "fairer sex", I was so gently turned to sit on the most clumsy that now I pull my hair and I'm sorry that I was a man with squats! If you continue in this spirit, you will suffer and regret terribly much. Find other topics and think more seriously. It's about your life. Don't waste it! If you want to be twenty-five. Or full, don't care about people's opinion! Go to a gym and push! Push and learn to insult. Be a wild, simple peasant. Otherwise it does not happen. I was so gently turned to sit on the most clumsy that now I pull my hair and I'm sorry that I was a man with squats! If you continue in this spirit, you will suffer and regret terribly much. Find other topics and think more seriously. It's about your life. Don't waste it! If you want to be twenty-five. Or full, don't care about people's opinion! Go to a gym and push! Push and learn to insult. Be a wild, simple peasant. Otherwise it does not happen. I was so gently turned to sit on the most clumsy that now I pull my hair and I'm sorry that I was a man with squats! If you continue in this spirit, you will suffer and regret terribly much. Find other topics and think more seriously. It's about your life. Don't waste it! If you want to be twenty-five. Or full, don't care about people's opinion! Go to a gym and push! Push and learn to insult. Be a wild, simple peasant. Otherwise it does not happen. Be a wild, simple peasant. Otherwise it does not happen. Be a wild, simple peasant. Otherwise it does not happen.
Author, from # 3 On the contrary, I was referring to personal qualities. That's why I likened you to a "girlfriend". Excessive goodwill, politeness, resourcefulness do not go to a man, because these are feminine qualities. Feminine tenderness needs masculine strength to complement and protect it, and again I am referring to character, not just physics. If such is absent, the woman either gets nervous and becomes permanently dissatisfied, or marries to compensate for the deficit and totally crushes the man. As for love, sex is an integral part of it, otherwise we are talking about friendship. A man must be able to make women want him, otherwise he will still stay in this proverbial friend zone.
Hello :) I am a girl of 18 years, I completely agree with №1, I personally am not so interested in the appearance and capabilities of the boy, I am interested in how he will treat me, for example, to love me, court me, appreciate me, makes kind gestures, etc. and I reciprocate. I also like and appreciate guys like you because you have all the good qualities that not all guys have and that makes you special because they are few so I haven't had a serious relationship yet haha: D, I don't even know when such a boy will find me, but I have hope, and as for the girls you talked to, they weren't your type (they weren't for you), even though they didn't realize they had missed a good boy. People are different, there are girls like you .. Be yourself! ;)
FROM THE AUTHOR: I was left with the impression that ... it is necessary to change and not be myself? If a girl doesn't like me the way I am with these qualities, there is no point in lying to her and myself. Both sides are losers. I don't want to become a barbarian just because of the number. Look .. And I don't want to be with anyone just because of her body and .. I'll give you some advice as an unmarried virgin .. as ironic as it is. If you can't point to a star in your partner's sky ... if you can't talk to her for hours and she doesn't understand you ... or there's no interest, there's no point in continuing. :) I'd better stay the way I am .. but if no girl likes what I have .. it would bother me more the fact that in that case the girls are not left anymore ..: D :) and I do not lose because the problem is not he would be in me because of the inappropriate time and place. Better ... be it alone but not with someone I won't be real with. I hang out on Badoo every day waiting for "She" to appear among all "They" ... and it's better to wait, hopelessly ... than to commit to just flesh ... I have ethics and I stay true to my credo. I don't want to be a "barbarian" Stay true to yourself. Be what you are ... because otherwise whoever is next to you will not be with you but with someone else but it is not you. It's not real. :) Is it worth it then? Be what you are ... because otherwise whoever is next to you will not be with you but with someone else but it is not you. It's not real. :) Is it worth it then? Be what you are ... because otherwise whoever is next to you will not be with you but with someone else but it is not you. It's not real. :) Is it worth it then?
Because you're full of mold. No woman wants a jerk and a woman. Apparently you are not oriented to the right sex.
Author ... For someone who promotes being yourself, very quickly define other men as "barbarians" and women who would not like you as "not girls". Quite hypocritical. It's not bad to be yourself, but in many cases this is used as an excuse not to develop. After all, everyone is a version of themselves, never the only version. Should a girl who is rude and clumsy, behaves like a man and has no elementary upbringing continue to be herself? Surely someone will be found to like her, but what, what will be their relationship, what example will she give to her children? Think about my words, because at this stage your thoughts are on a very naive and immature level. And take it easy with the labels, they don't suit your claims.
Enough with these chats was people. Get out. Understand that it is easy to write, but it seems difficult to speak. Be wild, primary and real. Everything then falls into place. Good luck!