Hello, males! Could you translate into your (male language) how to interpret my husband's behavior: he loves me, but we don't sleep together, we don't cheat, but we flirt with the opposite sex, we work, but we don't have a family budget - everyone is dependent, the children they are common and we take care of them together and with dedication, we share our problems - but everyone solves them independently, I am happy when he is with us, and he prefers solitude. (What will you prescribe to me, share your experience, make a proposal for positive actions on my part, what would you as men expect from your wife in such a situation?
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Elementary Watson. Many men who no longer love women behave this way. Whether it is right, I leave it to everyone to decide, and I am not the person who has the right to judge him. He doesn't want to share his life with you, but he can't break away because he feels responsible for his children. He doesn't want them to think of him as a bad father who no longer loves their mother and abandons his family. He does not want to cheat so as not to set a bad example for the children and so that he does not become a bad one. In short, you are roommates, but with common children. I'm sorry to have to tell you, but your relationship is gone forever. If it was so from the very beginning, it is possible that he is just weird, but even so, there is no guarantee that he loves you. If it came later, he definitely has no feelings for you and I don't think he ever will. Maybe it's not your fault, your relationship may simply be exhausted. I hope I'm wrong, but the situation is definitely not good. Good luck though!
My ... you wanted emancipation, feminism ... They you - they!
He may have love (I doubt, rather a habit and respect), but he has no love, no obvious thrill. On the contrary, the man needs to protect, protect, touch, hug at night and of course sex. You're more ... like friends, roommates.
But you are not responsible people at all. How old are you at least? If the children have not changed you, then the separation is ...
It's not love, of course. To me, it's more like a kind of coexistence than not being alone, or if you catch each other, it doesn't turn out to be better than what you already have. In other words, it sounds to me like a fear of the unknown and her habitual coexistence. I think such a thing is ridiculous to maintain, but you know it.
I support with 4 hooves comment 2 because we are all men pigs and they tickle you aha;) Aren't you in love with a colleague from your work or the ex has returned from the shadows and now you understand that your husband is a dull gray and you are all day do you think or are you in love with an anonymous chat kind of aren't you modern you claim?
Expectations in such a situation .... getting used to the situation on her part! Man obviously does not want to break up his family, to look after his children together, but there is definitely no love. Why are you sure she's not cheating, a little ... I think it's crazy for you to "push" and not have another. Well, if I draw the right conclusions from the fact that you do not sleep together. But even if you have intimacy from time to time, ... I'm sorry, I think you already know it, there is no love.
"I'm happy when she's with us, and he prefers solitude." - what more does she need, why does she ask others what they think, and not ask her husband what she needs? Is the opinion of wooden philosophers more important to her than that of her husband? After all, the meaning of coexistence is HAPPINESS. If happiness reigns in her family (she feels it herself), what more does she want? She is happy when her husband is in the family, the children are also calm and happy. What's wrong is that the man loves loneliness (what do some idiots do to me), there are moments when everyone wants to be alone. Just because they sleep separately doesn't mean they don't interact with each other at other times. Lately, this is a completely normal practice, is it more normal for someone to snore at you all night, to spin and wake you up every 5 minutes, or do you enjoy sleeping in a gas chamber, filled with farts? This will not be a dream, but an inquisition. Sleep is a personal necessity, and a vital one, so that one can be alert the next day. I don't like to give advice, but when asked, I answer. The author asks how to proceed. This is very relative, it depends on the character of her husband (whom we do not know), but she can apply general rules. It is enough, first of all, to bring yourself in a pleasant to watch. If she has a torn dressing gown and rollers on her head all day, like an alien, her husband will not only be lonely, but he will make a bunker. But if she is attractive and kind, if she corners him and tickles his ego, then she will become a princess for this man. The author wants an opinion, that's why I express it, I do not give advice on how to proceed. There's a saying, "look at me with one, look at you with both," it is very valid for families, and not only. Rejoice that there is peace in her family, because if she starts nagging a lot, she may lose it.
You did not mention whether his behavior was constant or at certain times. If these are some momentary states, don't worry, men experience negative emotions from stress at work and so on. But if this goes on for a long time and there are no indications that it will be okay, better talk to him and find out if it makes sense to compromise with yourself on behalf of the children. If they are the only thing that connects you, that's bad.
The relationship and relationships are exhausted forever. Decide!
I'm not married, but that's not normal for me. As you describe it, you are currently just roommates. The question is whether you accept such a connection or not. Personally, I couldn't live like that for a month, I just don't understand it.
I want to answer you as correctly as possible, I will be very happy if I can help. Sit down and talk to your husband. Seriously and without scandals. Since he's a man and sometimes we don't understand you, tell him that the conversation is really important to you, not another mutter. Sit down and don't leave the room until you know each other, even to smoke! Then they paid BGN 100 for 2 (minimum) consultations with a marriage specialist. Bulgarians are specialists in everything and we understand everything, so we can't do anything. I doubt that anyone on this forum is COMPETENT ENOUGH enough to give you the right advice, especially after the little information you have given. If you hold on to marriage (and it seems so), act smart, if your husband holds on to you, explain to him correctly how important this is - I think you will arrange things as you wish. Be healthy Corwin
Oh dear, I'm a woman, I know, your question is to men, but I was sad :( you look good-natured, men were honest, but ... naturally masculine. I'm of the same opinion as them, but that doesn't mean at all, Well, if you still have feelings - you can load yourself with a bucket of ice cream, some chocolates, a pack of handkerchiefs and 2 girlfriends :) But after that it's time to look the truth in the eye, prioritize, make decisions. Think positive, maybe that's how yours works. Except ... love will be somewhere out there ... outside;) A hug from me!