Hello! I'm a woman, I'm 28, I consider myself attractive and intelligent. I have been single for 1 year after ending a 7 year relationship. Why? Well, the trivial reason - I realized that he had cheated on me many times. When I found out, we had been engaged for a month. I will not bore you with details, it is clear that I am in a lot of pain and I have not yet overcome it. I'm fine right now - alone, because I can think things through more soberly. I watch people and I'm scared. A colleague uploads photos with his girlfriend on Facebook every day, they go hand in hand, very much in love, but I accidentally found out that he regularly sleeps with a divorced lady. A few days ago, again, by some chance, I came across my own brother in a bar with another woman. It turned out very confusing. He has been married for 3 years and his wife is a great person - besides being very beautiful. And the one she was with ... well, a typical bitch - big tits, blonde hair, painted eyebrows ... I already have the feeling that I don't understand anything. I don't trust anyone, I don't know if I will ever dare to open my heart again. I have a question for all men who have cheated on their spouses and I hope for honest answers. Why, what makes you do it? Why do you risk hurting the valuable person next to you? Why, if your formal relationship doesn't satisfy you, don't talk to your partner or seek help, and instead cheat on random women? Please answer me .... who have cheated on their halves and hope for honest answers. Why, what makes you do it? Why do you risk hurting the valuable person next to you? Why, if your formal relationship doesn't satisfy you, don't talk to your partner or seek help, and instead cheat on random women? Please answer me .... who have cheated on their halves and hope for honest answers. Why, what makes you do it? Why do you risk hurting the valuable person next to you? Why, if your formal relationship doesn't satisfy you, don't talk to your partner or seek help, and instead cheat on random women? Please answer me ....
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Enough with this type of questions. Everyone can say whatever they want, but for me the complexes mostly cheat, especially if it is repeated. There is a moment of proof here, not so much because of sex. Others are frustrated by something and make single mistakes.
Because maybe the relationship doesn't satisfy them. The girlfriend can be super beautiful, sexy, etc., but for him she is just comfortable, or oppresses him for some reason. Or to want to be adored by many women. And I don't understand how there are people who flaunt their relationship, with statuses and photos, and turn lovers. It's just that they certainly don't leave because they are left alone.
It would be more accurate to ask people why you are cheating. It does not apply to gender, there are whores in both sexes. And I, like №1, think that it's not so much because of sex - every adulterer has a partner for sex at home. A misunderstood feeling of thrill, emotion leads to infidelity. Do not be surprised at your brother and colleague - contrary to this cliché, that cheating on a younger and more beautiful than the law in most cases is just the opposite.
You will get the most accurate and frank answer to this question from yourself. I don't want it to happen to you, but no one is insured against being tied to the wrong person. However, if it happens to you, the moment will inevitably come when you will notice someone better, and if this better one notices you, things are clear and this applies to both men and women. I got married very young, just like in the tale of the blind Sunday - soon the first child was born. I don't know if my wife was like that or if she changed after she felt sure I was tied in a towel because of the child, but she started showing her horns. I don't go into details, I don't remember the whims, the unreasonable jealousy, the hysterical attacks, the constant claims, the scandals out of nowhere, etc. I didn't look for and I didn't think about infidelity, it didn't come to that if it didn't count as infidelity that I met a girl and I really wanted to get intimacy with him. I sobered up quickly and I wasn't with another woman until the divorce, but I didn't want to be with mine either. When I grew up I realized that infidelity does not solve the problems in a relationship, I saw what was happening around me, the woman cheated, the man went to avenge her with infidelity and so the wheel turns, and who is the whore in this case is unknown. I chose not to be a whore, I gave my wife enough chances to get her hands on it, and when I was convinced that it wouldn't happen, we divorced. I was dizzy during the first months, but I was very calm - now I wonder why I have been in this scandalous atmosphere for so long. I want to tell you not to look for guilt only in those around you, use the time to analyze yourself and your behavior in your relationship. Try to draw your own conclusions and not allow the same thing to happen to you in the next relationship or God forbid marriage. I do not justify the infidel, but he certainly had reasons and they are not just bad sex, you may be too emotional or not emotional enough, you may not be able to have a conversation, ie to be very silent or talk a lot, you may being too focused on work, everyday life, small things, you can be boring or depressing, and you can be too open and sociable, most likely you, like my ex-wife, went with the flow, you decided that it is not you need to make an effort in your relationship, you have stopped epilating, and before you did, at home as a scarecrow, and outside you hang out, etc. things, for which I can only guess. This person is past and there is no need to discuss and analyze him - focus on yourself, make yourself like yourself and look for someone like yourself, namely look, and do not lie in self-pity.
I will answer you why I will most likely cheat. I still haven't, but I probably will in the coming years. I am 25, my girlfriend is 23, a two-year relationship, we have been living together for half a year. As people we fit in, we love each other, we live well. Before we lived together, the sex was really level, we stopped the car on the side of the road because we wanted, regularly, everywhere, almost a full program and distribution from both. Since we lived together and now there is a place where sex on demand has dropped dramatically, the poses are exactly 2 and others do not want because ala-bala, elsewhere outside the bedroom does not want because ala-bala, French happened to me last on my birthday before 2 months. Conversations help "for the day" or at most tomorrow, but I see that he does it by force, which kills my fun. Then it's the same. Otherwise, as a relationship beyond that, our relationship is great and we are together for so long that it is practically impossible to have another. That's why I'm 25 years old, if I am denied now, what do you think it will be in a few years? After 10, 15, but after 20? I have one life and I can enjoy and indulge in it, I don't know what the next one will be ....
Everyone has their own reason and morality. The ladies cheat just as irresponsibly (from the side). For me, the reason is almost always in both. "Speaking" ... Well, it's almost impossible to talk. Sometimes an essential phrase is simply omitted (intentionally or unintentionally). Other times it is plowed into some random ... The partner must be observed, researched ... His desires should not be neglected, because yours differ. And if his desires are just more, different women, if you are observant enough, you should understand him in time and dump him in time.
Men cheat mainly for variety. We are wealthy in nature. You've probably heard the saying that next to every beautiful woman there is a man who is fed up with death ... it can't be said more correctly.
Number 8 and that's enough with this stupid explanation! It was embedded in nature ... where is this nature! So if everyone chases a hepten cock Sodom and Gomorrah will happen. Isn't there something that makes us different from animals ... or am I wrong? Author, everything is up to the person. I broke up twice, the moment I felt that this relationship no longer makes me happy or I started to look at others a lot but I did not cheat! And my wives cling like flies, they like me. But for me it is a matter of principles and masculinity to be honest and to choose my partners very well.
by nature it is set to strive to spread our genes as much as possible to different recipients = biology
If you accept that humans are simply not monogamous by nature, I mean as a species, this site simply would not exist or we would be talking about philosophy and politics here. I am a woman. It is quite clear to me that I cannot tie my husband to my skirt at home. He has desires, he has an instinct, he has fantasies that I just can't satisfy because I'm not "three Filipinos and he's in the middle." That's why I don't demand fidelity from him. Of course, I am also free to fulfill my desires. Every second topic here is about this empty "infidelity". What if it doesn't have rubber to erase? I'll knock a piece and then go home. At least that's how I understand things.
Because the Y chromosome does not set the social standard for masculinity. Male puppies hurt, men less. There is a trick, however - this nonsense is bisexual. And I can ask women why my ex was such a lying geek, why the one before her turned out to be literally a whore, why the one before the previous one was spreading her legs even for the dog Rocco. Will anyone here answer me? No? I thought so. You get what's around. If there is only mud, then you need to rethink the social circle. I was lucky to be with my ex. She was wonderful, but our goals diverged. I am now with my future fiancée and we are planning a marriage next year. I will never be unfaithful to her if Armageddon follows. I know what it is, I know the consequences, I know how much I hate such false rubbish and how much I would hate myself if I repeated it. Why do they do it? Character, his lack really.
I am not a man, but I will write you my point of view. Most men fail to have the sex they want with the woman they love. Somehow, psychologically, they fail to love the * blood * and have the animal sex they want with the woman they share the hearth with. I'm talking about exactly this type of men, slightly low-intellectual, who would cheat. An ex of mine had told me that one of his friends did not want his wife to kiss his child because she was ... with Aria. "I don't justify the infidel, but he certainly had reasons and they are not just bad sex, you may be too emotional or not emotional enough, you may not be able to have a conversation, ie to be very silent or talk a lot, you may be too focused on work, everyday life, small things, you may be bored or depressed, or you may be too open and sociable, most likely you, like my ex-wife, went with the flow, you decided that you do not need to make an effort in your relationship, you stopped epilating, and before you did it , at home as a scarecrow, and outside you hang out, etc. things that I can only guess. "I like everything in this comment, but if my friend starts to doubt whether to leave me or not, because I don't feel well and I have neglected myself, it is clear that he was not the right one.