Hello! I am a 17 year old girl. Without many friends (not to say any) and many enemies. The story begins when I was in third grade. Harassed by people who don't even know why they hate me. I listened to insults, throwing stones, pushing and what not. After 2 years it was over (I will not go into detailed how), but I forgave these people and we became friends, but the relationship with my parents changed, for them I was a big failure, when I had a problem with something they always answered "yourself" you are guilty ", they beat me, they quarreled with me for the smallest thing. Even when we made the same mistakes, I was the most guilty of them all. When I became 8th grade, the same people who were harassing me, whom I forgave, started ruining my life again. Then I was in a new class, in a new school and they were in that school (exactly some of them). They came in the break, took my things, hid them in different places. They even threw my backpack, notebooks and travel bag out the window. Some watched and laughed, while others pretended that nothing was happening and remained silent. They came to me and called me you are a mistake of nature, k ** va, offspring and many other names. A serious conversation took place with the parents of these children and the school. They stopped harassing me, but my classmates behaved badly. At the end of 10th grade I met a boy, he was very nice in character, we got along great with him. We had become friends with privileges (an extremely big mistake). Everything was fine, until one day people came to me on their own and asked me "but why did you dump it for someone else", "I realized that you did it many times" and all sorts of similar questions that had nothing to do with reality. I have never had sexual intercourse with this person, nor have I abandoned him for someone else. We were just friends with privileges nothing more. I felt humiliated, depressed. I passed people and said to myself, "Now everyone believes things that are true. Only two people have seen us kiss, but I'm worried they won't say anything to anyone. We had agreed with the boy not to tell anyone." It turned out that he was a friend of the people who were harassing me. I was ashamed to leave us, I kept telling myself that what we both did was something very bad. I'm already in 11th grade. but I still think about it.Why everyone hates me.Everyone has made mistakes, but I always feel guilty when I make a mistake and I've always apologized compared to them.And yet their life is amazing, not nasty as my. I have lost hope for life, I do not find meaning in it. I do not know how to move forward, I feel guilty to this day for all the mistakes I made before. I recently had an argument with a classmate because something small made her a problem (why I sat in her place during a break when she wasn't there). He was yelling at me and insulting me in front of the whole class. Again, as always, I felt humiliated. I cried all day and thought there was black magic, a curse on me. A few days later we quarreled again, as she insulted me and I, for which I am very sorry, feel disgusting. I shouldn't have insulted her, I shouldn't have fallen to her level. Please advice. What to do, I do not find meaning in my life, we can move forward. I am constantly thinking about the past, about the mistakes I have made, about the people,
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Hello! Years ago, I too was subjected to constant bullying at school. What I can give you as advice is to ignore the people around you, be yourself, always. Never change, regardless of parents, friends or classmates. Find your environment, there will always be people with a similar character as yours, be it neighbors or your peers from other schools. It's good to stop focusing only on the negative things. In everything, no matter how awful, there is always something to learn from it, be it a lesson or a gift. For this purpose, you can make a diary and write in it every day the things for which you are grateful, as well as your experiences of the day, your good and bad qualities. There is no such thing as a cursed life, there is just everything in life - both good and bad, but the most important thing is how we see situations and circumstances, because a situation is not necessarily bad, we just label it as such. My other advice is to find a way to have fun, create a hobby, sign up for dancing or dancing at home, go to the piano, guitar, violin, read, sing, write poetry or prose, take a pet, go for a walk in nature , look for the things that make you happy .... And most importantly, you have another year left from school and then everyone goes their own way and sooner or later your current experiences will not have so much weight on your life, nothing is eternal, sooner or later everything passes, is overcome or forgotten! I say again be yourself, love yourself, respect yourself, dare! Good luck! My other advice is to find a way to have fun, create a hobby, sign up for dancing or dancing at home, go to the piano, guitar, violin, read, sing, write poetry or prose, take a pet, go for a walk in nature , look for the things that make you happy .... And most importantly, you have another year left from school and then everyone goes their own way and sooner or later your current experiences will not have so much weight on your life, nothing is eternal, sooner or later everything passes, is overcome or forgotten! I say again be yourself, love yourself, respect yourself, dare! Good luck! My other advice is to find a way to have fun, create a hobby, sign up for dancing or dancing at home, go to the piano, guitar, violin, read, sing, write poetry or prose, take a pet, go for a walk in nature , look for the things that make you happy .... And most importantly, you have another year left from school and then everyone goes their own way and sooner or later your current experiences will not have so much weight on your life, nothing is eternal, sooner or later everything passes, is overcome or forgotten! I say again, be yourself, love yourself, respect yourself, dare! Good luck! you have another year left from school and then everyone goes their own way and sooner or later your current experiences will not have so much weight on your life, nothing is eternal, everything sooner or later passes, is overcome or forgotten! I say again be yourself, love yourself, respect yourself, dare! Good luck! you have another year left from school and then everyone goes their own way and sooner or later your current experiences will not have so much weight on your life, nothing is eternal, everything sooner or later passes, is overcome or forgotten! I say again be yourself, love yourself, respect yourself, dare! Good luck!
Hello, I'm sorry for the terrible things you went through, you have to cut off contact with the people who are bothering you, forgive and move on. By the way, it's good to find out what it means to have friends with privileges :-)
You have something on you. How come the whole color is against you? And how, after everyone hates you, you managed to arrange a relationship with privileges. And how did it occur to you that he would not tell anyone? !! Well, it's sweeter than sex - to brag to everyone that you've been through this. Yes, boys and men are so smart.
I read and I can't believe how you think, at 17 !!! Look ahead, you can't please everyone and feel guilty about such trifles. The most normal reaction is to defend yourself after they attack constantly. Hold on a little, you won't give yourself to your classmates. Be more confident
Life is ahead of you! Don't despair and move on. Sounds trite, I know. Do not give up, there will always be such people. Dear child, I wish you a lot of COURAGE!
Hahaha "friends with privileges", had no sexual contact, only kissed. I just can't. Please darling grow up now, don't cut your veins. I have no words.
You are a good person and know that there are many like you. You're just in a nasty environment right now. And I, years ago, was in your position. At school I was the craziest, so to speak. But then, I met my husband, with whom we are together to this day, we also have a child. If you do not despair and if you manage to move forward, with the belief that you are not to blame for everything. That you are no less human than others. If you keep the good in yourself, I assure you that in the future, you will be very well. There will be people who will need you and appreciate you. For this, just have faith and wait for this nasty period to pass.
Hello, Mila, don't despair! I want to tell you that you are a strong and good person. Look ahead, not in the past ... We should not live in the past! I was also depressed because I was like the people you describe .. You don't know how much I cried, that I acted so that I was evil, nasty not with others, but with my friends .. I know what loneliness is, because I was left alone make your mistakes ... BUT I continued! Just LOOK FORWARD!