Hello! I would like to share the current situation. I am an 18-year-old boy, 12th grade. I have very little time left for school. I am also an Israeli citizen and I will serve in the army, most likely from September to October this year. I feel quite optimistic, I am ambitious and serious by nature, and I also adapt relatively easily to the environment. My future seems clear, and my parents and relatives support me. However, there is one aspect of my life in which I feel inferior - to create a relationship with a girl. Honestly, I've never been in a relationship before, I've confessed my love to a girl we had a good relationship with, but she didn't feel the same way about me. I was in love for a very long time and I was tormented by it. When I told her, I felt kind of liberated, and I said to myself that I want to pay more attention to learning and sports (I train judo). I wanted not to think about a relationship because I thought I wasn't ready yet, I felt I wanted to achieve things in life before they got engaged. Lately, however, I realize that I feel lonely. I feel that I want someone close to me with whom to share my thoughts and give her love and, accordingly, to feel loved. Recently, a classmate of mine, with whom we are friends, introduced me to a very nice girl, a year younger than me. I have a feeling that we are both attracted to each other, but I am expected to be proactive.
And my doubt comes from two things - I'm afraid of disappointment, if it's not just a fantasy, and now is not the time, just when I finish school and have a plan for my future, to think about it. And my second, the biggest question is, if a serious relationship arises, I would not want to end it with my immigration to Israel. I don't want to make her feel abandoned, because even though I've known her recently, she doesn't seem ordinary. I don't want to act immorally and doom her to loneliness. Some people say that it is possible to keep in touch from a distance, but it sounds quite unlikely to me. I have a great desire to tell her, but I also want something more serious than a boyfriend just for the idea. I want to find someone with whom we will really share a lot in common, and I think this girl is like that. But on the other hand I have a plan for the next 3 years of my life, and it is not in Bulgaria. How would you do? Thank you for your attention! I don't want to make her feel abandoned, because even though I've known her recently, she doesn't seem ordinary. I don't want to act immorally and doom her to loneliness. Some people say it's possible to keep in touch from a distance, but it sounds pretty unlikely to me. I have a great desire to tell her, but I also want something more serious than a boyfriend just for the idea. I want to find someone with whom we will really share a lot in common, and I think this girl is like that. But on the other hand I have a plan for the next 3 years of my life, and it is not in Bulgaria. How would you do? Thank you for your attention! I don't want to make her feel abandoned, because even though I've known her recently, she doesn't seem ordinary. I don't want to act immorally and doom her to loneliness. Some people say it's possible to keep in touch from a distance, but it sounds pretty unlikely to me. I have a great desire to tell her, but I also want something more serious than a boyfriend just for the idea. I want to find someone with whom we will really share a lot in common, and I think this girl is like that. But on the other hand I have a plan for the next 3 years of my life, and it is not in Bulgaria. How would you do? Thank you for your attention! but it sounds pretty unlikely to me. I have a great desire to tell her, but I also want something more serious than a boyfriend just for the idea. I want to find someone with whom we will really share a lot in common, and I think this girl is like that. But on the other hand I have a plan for the next 3 years of my life, and it is not in Bulgaria. How would you do? Thank you for your attention! but it sounds pretty unlikely to me. I have a great desire to tell her, but I also want something more serious than a boyfriend just for the idea. I want to find someone with whom we will really share a lot in common, and I think this girl is like that. But on the other hand I have a plan for the next 3 years of my life, and it is not in Bulgaria. How would you do? Thank you for your attention!
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Get out of the barracks and then think. Now you have a road, don't confuse it.
There can be no long distance connection. I tell you from experience that you should not start a relationship if you have a barracks. Unfortunately, ours was destroyed and there are many mother's sons and Liglevs on the streets. I would very much like my son to enter the barracks. It's not as scary and disgusting as it sounds. I am glad that I was able to serve and improve my way of thinking, that I had to learn to rely only on myself. I don't know how long you will serve, but it worked very well for me. If you start a relationship, even if she swears allegiance and eternal love, the girl will not wait for you. You will constantly think about her. And if you run away to see her, a court-martial awaits you. I had a death with a machine gun. His girlfriend left him and the boy committed suicide. Get your job done and then think about a relationship. You will change your thinking a lot in the barracks.