Hello. I have been working in a private company for 10 years. Five years ago, the woman in question started working for us, and more precisely in my shift. It immediately caught my eye because it is very beautiful. After a few days of interrogation, I found out from above that she was married and had a child. A son. a little note before I introduce you to the essence of the story: I had a serious girlfriend with whom I had been for 3 years, but I found out that she used drugs without my knowledge. And here's the story: I came home from work and she called me - Come on, you were coming to visit, I'm waiting for you for 30 minutes. Without thinking, I started the car and went to them. And so it all began. For 4 years. I'm crazy about her and she's crazy about me. It's nice to be together. I don't need her to tell me, I see him and she sees him. I always put her before me. I think first of her, then of me. The problems come from the fact that I want to live with her and the little one, but she is afraid for the child. And rightly so, of course. The child is before us 2. I'm ready to watch them both. I will start a second, third job if necessary so that they are not deprived of anything. The point is that I do not have my own home and the only option is accommodation. I know it's not right and it's not good for all three, but don't you think that if she wants to be with me so much, she'll be ready for this step. There are quarrels, of course. There is no connection without quarrels. Like me, I insulted her, but we both know that it was an outburst of anger. Then we reconcile and it turns pink again. Just at the thought of lying next to him and I GO CRAZY. He says that he does .. with him once every 3 months and it has big requests and arrangements on his part. She says that when she is with him, in rare cases she has the feeling that she is being raped, ie she is not happy. The only reason she did it was because she was afraid he would drive her away and she had nowhere to go. How could he not be with me, even if he was staying. I am ready to take care of them no matter what it costs me. I will not deprive her or the child of anything. And the poor thing is a terrible cutie. So my dear readers, give me some advice. that she was afraid he would drive her away and she had nowhere to go. How could he not be with me, even if he was staying. I am ready to take care of them no matter what it costs me. I will not deprive her or the child of anything. And the poor thing is a terrible cutie. So my dear readers, give me some advice. that she was afraid he would drive her away and she had nowhere to go. How could he not be with me, even if he was staying. I am ready to take care of them no matter what it costs me. I will not deprive her or the child of anything. And the poor thing is a terrible cutie. So my dear readers, give me some advice.
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Don't spoil the family! The child above all !!!
Don't you think this family is already broken?
To the author: I'm not sure this woman has serious intentions for you. If you truly love someone, all other circumstances will come second. I think she does not want to be divorced in the eyes of society, relatives, colleagues, friends. Do you know that this is very convenient for her - she has a husband who takes care of her and the child, she is married, and there is a separate lover who adores her. For your part, you have no family, no child, you are alone. And the fact that you do not have a home, I consider it a plus in your situation, because if you had it, it would eventually come to you for the home and find another thrill. This woman is quite cunning and, no matter how unpleasant you are, think about the things that become obvious from the side. You are the variety, that's it. If you're not, it will be someone else. And you don't ruin families. The family is spoiled only by the participants in it. Participants wish to be with someone else. No one can be tempted if he is not tempted, no one. There can be no excuses like: 'but wherever I go, he will drive me out'. This is complete bullshit. Also for sex with him is complete nonsense. If a woman is disgusted with someone but has sex with him for what you are, it is called prostitution. And this is a mentality, a way of life, a style of behavior and it does not only refer to sex, but to the overall personality of such a woman, as well as a man in fact. This is marketability and usability. I have expressed a personal opinion, this is how I see things and I do not claim accuracy. Your life is yours, you decide. Be happy! Soul if he is not tempted, no one. There can be no excuses like: 'but wherever I go, he will drive me out'. This is complete bullshit. Also for sex with him is complete nonsense. If a woman is disgusted with someone but has sex with him for what you are, it is called prostitution. And this is a mentality, a way of life, a style of behavior and it does not only refer to sex, but to the overall personality of such a woman, as well as a man in fact. This is marketability and usability. I have expressed a personal opinion, this is how I see things and I do not claim accuracy. Your life is yours, you decide. Be happy! Soul if he is not tempted, no one. There can be no excuses like: 'but wherever I go, he will drive me out'. This is complete bullshit. Also for sex with him is complete nonsense. If a woman is disgusted with someone but has sex with him for what you are, it is called prostitution. And this is a mentality, a way of life, a style of behavior and it does not only refer to sex, but to the overall personality of such a woman, as well as a man in fact. This is marketability and usability. I have expressed a personal opinion, this is how I see things and I do not claim accuracy. Your life is yours, you decide. Be happy! Soul but having sex with him for what you are, it's called prostitution. And this is a mentality, a way of life, a style of behavior and it does not only refer to sex, but to the overall personality of such a woman, as well as a man in fact. This is marketability and usability. I have expressed a personal opinion, this is how I see things and I do not claim accuracy. Your life is yours, you decide. Be happy! Soul but having sex with him for what you are, it's called prostitution. And this is a mentality, a way of life, a style of behavior and it does not only refer to sex, but to the overall personality of such a woman, as well as a man in fact. This is marketability and usability. I have expressed a personal opinion, this is how I see things and I do not claim accuracy. Your life is yours, you decide. Be happy! Soul
Hi, I'm a woman and I've been in your lady's place. Things did not turn out as you expect it to. Not because I did not love him, but because material security is really important and last but not least the child, because of which I aimed for the material, not for my own benefit. A person can always be fine, but with a child it is different. I haven't stopped loving him, but I'm used to the thought. And not everything comes down to these two reasons, a bunch of questions start (if he loves me just because I'm not there completely and for how long, he will love me, but the child if he suffers because of his father, if he insults my child how would I react to whose side I will stand, etc.). The only answer to all my questions was the same: I don't deserve to ruin my family just to try it.
I absolutely support Soul's opinion! He doesn't love you! For three years I kept a parody of a relationship with a free man on the other side of Bulgaria. We saw each other twice a year in reality, our other contacts were only on Skype. Every day and every night until dawn. She knew she wasn't sleeping with her husband, and she couldn't help but understand him, I was with him almost constantly. But it was better for him to be married, he didn't even care that I waited months to be alone with him. And as paradoxical as it may sound, I was bound, but I kept my feet closed to the one I lived with while he jumped on everything that wore a skirt and had the audacity to flaunt it in front of me. And yet, if this man had even given me a hand once, had he only once hinted to me that he wanted me to be with him, I would never have stayed with my husband. But for him there is no binding option, and I do not want to share my last years with a countman. I know I'm not indifferent to him, but I also know that he prefers to do it with anyone, as long as he is not responsible for it. For almost half a year now, I have been writing to him in a month or two, just enough to find out that nothing has changed and to quarrel again. But I loved this man, and even though we're separated, I still haven't jumped back into my husband's bed. No, I'm not true to my lover, I'm true to myself. Everyone has a choice whether to do something or not. Your married woman also has a choice. You gave her a hand, you offered her to live with you, you even accepted her child. What more could you do? If she loved you and wanted to be with you, believe me, she would. I would also go to a tent with the person I love. But I didn't have that choice. But I had another - to keep respect for myself by being alone. This is the difference between a temporary passion and real feelings :) Because I'm sure there will be comments like - you deprive your husband of freedom by standing with him, and you don't give him what he deserves - let him to add that in order to seek a connection outside my family, my husband took the first step. However, when he realized, I was already with the other. I let him know that there was another man in my life, and I gave him carte blanche to do whatever he wanted. If he had wanted me to leave him, I would have left him. Apparently, however, he is also more satisfied with a woman who has no right to claim. I see this in the face of most people today - everyone is looking for an easy non-binding relationship. Relationships that do not require the sharing of responsibilities, but only pleasures.
Rent an apartment. This will both show her that you are ready to take care of them, and you will know if she is really ready to leave her husband. If you want to mark several places, offer her to look at them together, to choose a home together. By her reaction you will know what she intends to do and whether she is serious in her intentions. In words, it was easy - there was nowhere to go, so she stayed with him. Well, find a place to go, and see if he comes.
I've been living in a room for a year and a half. She comes to me, but only to see you for a few hours and comes home again. I don't know, I haven't stopped drinking. My head starts to hurt as I start thinking about it. Thank you all for your opinion, good or bad.
Number 5, and what exactly does your case have to do with the author's story? They are absolutely opposite ... Kubrat
I don't think anything will come of this. Forget this woman, find another unattached one and start building your life.
I'm 5, Kubrat. And what exactly is different? She is married to a young son, so am I. He is a free man, mine was too. Just because we haven't actually seen each other every day doesn't mean we haven't communicated every day. Nor does it mean that we have never talked about living together. On the contrary, we have led. But if I hinted to him that I wanted to be with him, he would tell me that he was too frivolous to take care of himself, not his wife and child. And if he had offered me to live with him, I would have gone to the other side of the world if only there I could be with this man. That's the difference. If I had the choice she has, I would never waste it. That's why I said that I don't think she really loves him. She may be in love with him, she may like him as a man or as a lover, but she doesn't love him. Falling in love and sincere love are two very different concepts. If you love someone very much, there is no force that can stop you from being with that person! Except himself, of course :)
And to add again, Kubrat, that I may still remain misunderstood. I just wanted to tell the author that he gave this woman a chance to choose. And if she loved him, she would go to him. Rather, I make a comparison with the man I was with for these 3 years. If he loved me and had sincere feelings, wouldn't he at least find a way to try to live with me? But there are people for whom it is enough to diversify their lives with someone, without necessarily putting feelings into their relationship. If my husband forced me or forced me to sleep with him in any way, I honestly tell myself that I would not have eyes to go to bed with the other one later. I've always wondered about both women and men who do it with one during the day and go home and go to bed with the other in the evening as if nothing had ever happened. I can't and don't want to accept it.
Number 5/10/11, you've got it right, and I'm glad you're thinking soberly about the situation you're in. You should not waste time regretting what happened, but draw the necessary conclusions and move forward. It seems to me that most of them have already been made :). We humans enter into relationships with each other to learn different things - as to love and respect, but not only others but ourselves, to learn responsibility, honesty, loyalty. This tale - they got married, then ate for three days, drank and had fun is just a fairy tale. We build ourselves as thinking and creative beings, we expand our worldview and show that there really is a God in us. There is no such thing as a settlement of life - nothing is static, life is a process in which some things are born, others die, and some take strange directions. Every relationship should be maintained as something really alive, but not through strawberries, cream, silicone and thongs, but through the personal development of each participant in it. Otherwise, if it is not there, all these dramas, collapses, breakdowns, divorces happen and every joy is really temporary - a moment and then everything collapses. Do you want to read a book :)? 'Paranoia of Passion' by Robin Norwood, it's in the Spiral. Regards, Soul
Man, don't bother with this woman, it doesn't make sense. Some time ago I was in a similar situation, I had a relationship with a married woman. At first, like you, I played with love and thought that she loved me too, that we could have more than a secret relationship, and so on. Well, nothing like that happened, I wasn't even the only one. I was tormented, I couldn't eat, I couldn't sleep. She naturally denied it, saying there was no such thing, but the facts said otherwise. In the end, I told myself that there was no point in making my life miserable because of someone I was just having fun with. I continued the relationship, pretending to be pleasantly distracted, filling my time with her as she did with me. Believe me, such women will never divorce unless they are expelled. It is convenient for them to have a man to support them, to pretend to be loving wives and at the same time have fun with their lovers. You are neither the first there, nor will you be the last. By the way, from such women you can best learn how to look after your interest, I do not mean to use people, but simply to judge the facts, making the right choice. Of course, lies, hypocrisy and impudence are also on a professional level, but these are not things that a normal person would want to practice.
Well, number 13, it's as if you described my existence in the next 2 years. And I don't want to see like that, everyone tells me you're wrong, I don't believe it, but it's exactly as you write it.
I am the married woman in this case. And I say I love my lover. I arranged a job interview for him, but he couldn't pass. If he had succeeded, or if he had found another job in the city because he was not from here and was not working for the time being, although he had potential, he would come to live here. We came up with something we can do together, a kind of part-time private business, so we can see each other. If things work out for him, and he settles permanently in the city, the child will get used to it and at some point we will move out with him, but there are many uncertain things ... And costs for him, as you can see. And there is a risk that he will not be able to get used to it here at all or not find any work. That's what worries me and I'm not a user, I dare say, just reasonable caution, maybe I'm a little more, I dare not take risks. If I had no child I would take it,
Author, you're big ... stupid. The beauty took you down herself, she has fun, she hangs you to get what she wants. She has a family, a home, a child, a husband to support her and a lover to give her attention and great sex. Whether they love each other with their husbands, how much sex they have, whether he swallows him, whether he lets him anal, etc. is not your job at all until you become a titular and start taking responsibility. You will not become a titular because the lady is satisfied with the way things are. From now on, only the beauty's husband will find out about you (sooner or later), eat his curtain, as it is his turn, part with the lady, and she will take another boy for a toy.
So the stories about women who follow their hearts are only in fairy tales. Women pursue their children's interests as well. They just want someone to fuck them out of the house to satisfy their ego. I know what I'm talking about. A woman, if she is dissatisfied or suffers from her husband, she will divorce directly and will go to follow her heart. However, most of them are not so dissatisfied with their husbands and stay with them, even skillfully cat them. One of them broke my heart and I don't go into such films anymore if a whole regiment of naked married women chase me.