Please advice, the situation is very strange. I am a 26-year-old woman, supported and liked by men. Half a year ago, I ended a four-year relationship with a much older man, in which we even got engaged. I realized that he was cheating on me, I immediately packed my bags and moved out. I had nowhere to go, I stayed with a friend for a few days, but I had to solve the housing issue quickly. I didn't have much money. Well, I came across an ad in which a man was looking for a roommate. I went for an inspection, I liked the place, the price was reasonable. He looked like a good boy to me, 32, intelligent. I didn't have many options and applied immediately. At first it didn't make much of an impression on me. Everyone sat in the room, sometimes someone cooked, we dined together and drank beer, but most of the time everyone went about their business. He didn't come home much, he was somewhere every night after work. He was seeing a girl in the beginning, but he told me it didn't work out. It struck me that he was an intelligent man with a sense of humor. I told him about the problems with the ex, he listened to me and managed to cheer me up. I began to become attached to him as a good friend. A few times I saw him only in boxers and it turned out that he has a pretty good body - normal, active sports. He made me laugh as we talked.
Otherwise, it was obvious that he was looking at me, but he was not doing anything - obviously the situation was strange for him as well. I supposedly accepted him as a friend, but at one point I felt that I was fantasizing about him and something was going on inside me. I said to myself, "nonsense, you're just roommates with him." One evening, three months after I moved in with him, we were pouring wine and talking as usual - friendly. However, by the time I realized I had been drinking more. We started laughing, hanging out. He grabbed me by the waist and kissed me. I felt that I wanted it too. We ended up in his room, and the sex wasn't bad at all. The next day I was resting and he had gone out to work without realizing it. All day I wondered if it would be awkward and how we would continue from here on, what to tell him when he got home. However, he solved the problem for me. He didn't come home until after 10, came to me and hugged me. He reached out to kiss me. I wanted to talk, but he just said "then" and dragged me back to bed. And so we have been for three months now. We sleep together, we have sex almost every night. It seems to him that I am super happy. The problem is that it doesn't behave like a relationship. On the one hand, he is very kind to me, we talk, we laugh, he makes small gestures for me. Cook me, give me massages, hug me.
On the other hand, however, he goes out again as before where and when he wants. I have no idea when he'll be home after work. I don't want him to give me an account, but at least I have an idea. And he doesn't ask me where I am and what I do. And he still wants money for my bills, which is not a problem for me. And he never asked me where I was, what I was doing, if I would be late. I felt bad, one night I went out with a friend of mine, we went to a disco. There I uploaded photos on Facebook with this boy. And the next day the roommate acted as if he hadn't seen them. It may not really be. I've tried to talk to him about our relationship, but he just says, "Let's not complicate things, let's enjoy what we have." I asked him "well, can any of us lead other people if he sees someone ...". He laughed and said, " if you love threesomes, you can. "But the truth is, he hasn't led anyone since he broke up with his girlfriend. I once told him I wanted to end this. He only said," if you feel this is best for you, so be it. We remain friends. "It was like this for a few days, until I came home drunk one night and, as usual, went to bed with him ... Two weeks ago I had RD. He gave me a great surprise.
He came with a big bouquet of flowers, he told me," We're leaving tomorrow morning. Take me for a weekend in Greece, in a very beautiful place. We held hands on the beach, hugged, had sex. We were like a real couple. But when we came back, he started to he drives it on his own - he goes out, comes home drunk sometimes and cuts all attempts to ask him at all, even unobtrusively. And he doesn't ask me - even if I leave for three days, he won't think to inquire. He says he "respects my privacy." And when he took me to meetings, he introduced me as a roommate, not as a friend. But I'm very happy with it. Please tell me what to do.
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You're just comfortable, nothing more, take comfort in the thought that a hell of a lot of people give it away like you - they're just comfortable
Do as he told you - enjoy the moment. Why do you think that the concept of relationship has a clear regulation and relationship? Why are you trying to put your relationship on a familiar and correct track? Accept it as it is, if it's ok with you, and don't think about anything, don't make plans, don't have expectations. If you don't find someone to train and be comfortable with, good luck!
It's just that the person wants a non-committal relationship. You either accept or terminate everything.
Heh, yes, I have your problems ... Well, this is a super-cool modern relationship! You still don't have children and common responsibilities ... I don't know, but at least for me this would be the ideal marriage - you are both separate persons, you have some common space, interests, activities (even if it's just sex and a little romance). He may not be ready for a new relationship yet, he may just be looking for a break. He may not think that he has known you well enough ... If common things come up, you should become more responsible and at least basically synchronize your plans and intentions.
Babe, recover! Put the connection question on the edge and if it pulls - wash! Where will he fuck you, where will you pay him ?!
It is very possible that there is no idea or desire for a serious relationship with you. You may be very beautiful and have a desire for sex. But what? Are you ready for a serious relationship with him? Do you want something much more serious with him as a family, children ... If you have hesitation and the answer is NO, then continue in the same way. Did you ask him why he doesn't have a girlfriend at the age of 32 or doesn't have a serious relationship and keeps going out and getting drunk like a teenager? This is very important. At 25-26 it's time for a serious examination, and he went through this period 5-6 years ago ... If you yourself are not sure about the connection with him, continue like this. If sex is good there is nothing wrong:) ... Greetings and all the best Man, 25
The man just has fun, without any commitments. It's cool for him to fuck you and make you cool from time to time, but he obviously doesn't want a relationship and probably has no feelings. If you feel something for him, the only way is to make him fall in love with you. But there is no point in pushing more for talks, it is obvious that on his part, at this stage there is nothing to talk about.
Oooo is it beautiful? I'm looking for just such a man like him !!! What bothers you will not weigh on me. You are conservative, and he is very, very relaxed. This is where your problems come from. It will not change. Something I don't know how you can't see is actual cohabitation. You are almost married. Even if you are married with children, that will be your life. Many families are like that. How old is he? He just wants personal space and freedom that you are not ready to give him.
Congratulations. ;)
I don't know, but you drink a lot. Otherwise - ask him, not us!
Apparently for him you are a neighbor for sex and nothing more
My quo, enjoy as the boy told you. At the same time, look for the relationship you want with another, because he clearly says and shows that he does not want anything serious. A good start may be to find a normal self-contained home if you feel you can't stand this type of "relationship."
Enjoy what you have and experience. Don't complicate things with your questions.
This (in my opinion) is the perfect man for you, but I have no idea how you could keep him - maybe, but only maybe, if you start doing something together, something small but interesting for both of you. For example, I have never been excited about cooking, but I cook with great pleasure with my roommate - we sit, read various recipes, decide, shop, do experiments. I taught her to pick mushrooms, she didn't teach me (yet) to knit, when there is nothing to do we indulge in sex and so on until the next joint work. In general, I am freer, I can fan my duck all day, but when there is an opportunity I try to have a drink with her.
Enjoy what you have :) If you don't like the lack of commitment to others, look for another place to stay.
He does not want a relationship, but a neighbor for sex. So, if it doesn't suit you, pack your bags. It is.
Sit down and tell him that you feel divided by this relationship, tell him that you are not indifferent and you have feelings and if he offers to stop again, do it in a second, no matter how difficult it is for you, because it is obvious that you have feelings, if he wants you to continue in this way, stop again, because over time the feelings will become stronger and it will be very difficult for you. If he thinks and thinks you are important to him, he should ask you to start an in-depth relationship. If he offers to stop you, consider changing your accommodation, because as you hang out with each other, passion will always prevail and crush you in one place.
"5. Babe, recover! Put the question of a relationship on the edge and if you pull - wash yourself! Where will he fuck you, and you will pay him ?!" The author did not say she was a prostitute and took money for sex. The money he gives is for rent and expenses. Author, you can change the accommodation and in the next roommate can offer something more than sex (hardly). Author, aren't you surprised that it came to sex? Every man, having read that you will be staying with a man, it became clear to him that he will have sex. Are you seriously surprised? You literally put up a sign: "I offer myself." However, you didn't mention that you only have sex in a relationship - did you?
To the author: I don't know what city you are from, but if I were your roommate, I wouldn't go to get drunk, I would take the train to a nearby village or town, I would go for a walk and the next day I would come back , and if it's true - here are the travel tickets and see for yourself, I can show you photos! At least you would know I'm not like the others! I may want to visit the Fair in Plovdiv, as long as I want to, you would hardly stop me! I'm not like your roommate getting drunk every night in pubs - my feet will lead me to the station on their own!
N. 5. "Where will he fuck you, even if you pay him?" Oh, why not! Well, when he fucks her, doesn't she get pleasure! Bray, only men had to pay. Are you just fucking for money? If so, then you are a prostitute.
Who needs these miles of writing and outpourings, given that you have tried to find out if there is a desire on his part for something more and you have received the very direct and crystal clear, I quote "... let's not complicate things, but we enjoy what we have ". Obviously, for him, a possible serious relationship is a complication of your current relationship, which seems to suit him everywhere. Don't look for a calf under the ox, because a 32-year-old man according to the description you give, if he wants something more than sex with you - he will tell it to you and show it as directly as when you wanted to talk and he kissed you and he dragged you directly to bed because he obviously wanted sex. Do not be romantic, but think and act wisely. If he tells you that - ok, if not - tell him
My father and I have an apartment where we rent it out and because we have some mother and daughter who want to reduce the rent, we told them we will let you go without money, but we want regular SEX !!!
H 21, you better hide! It is written short and clear and your comment is absolutely inadequate, sorry! from n 5
Защо, да бързате да се обвързвате? Аз имам 5 год. връзка в, която и двамата не се бяхме наживели, аз исках да излизам, той искаше и с други. Ако имахме отношения като вашите и не бързахме, да се обвързвахме толкова набързо, може би щяхме да сме по щастливи както всъщност беше и в началото. За напред като сме готови и сигурни щяхме, да живеем много добре. Моя приятелка беше като теб и във връзка с такъв мъж, сега са женени имат и дете, запазиха приятелското, страстта и всичко. Ние се обвързахме рано, лъжехме се вместо да сме заедно не ангажиращо, загубихме доверието помежду си, и общо взето съсипахме всичко. Заради едното заедно сме, а всичко до преди това беше супер, преживяхме и това де, но нищо не е същото. А те ли, те се обичат, бяха готови и не се ограничаваха излишно. Той явно има чувства, но му е рано, не е сигурен и т. н. иначе нямаше да те води никъде ако беше за единия секс. Остави му свободата, а той ако реши ще бъде с теб. Казва ти за тройка ако заведеш някой, е какво още, за да схванеш, че не е безразличен. Ако беше нямаше да ти обръща внимание (масажи, изненади), щеше да ти каже и, че сте свободни всеки може, да си води който иска, а не да те базика, че друг няма работа един вид там. Мъжа е страхотен, ама ти явно искаш послушно куче. :) Връзката не означава, че няма да излиза или, да изневерява, само усложнява нещата, когато и е рано и скапва всичко, а ако има любов то времето ще ви събере.
Number 5/24 I have long wanted to ask the same thing: how much do you usually get paid for sex? And is it free?