Hello. I had a two-year "relationship" with a man, a relationship - purely sexual - and quite rarely - in a month, when he decided. It turned out that besides me there are others on the branch :) we live in one block. Of course, like a complete fool, I fell in love, and he kept telling me that there was no chance for a relationship and not even to think about it. But blind Sunday had struck me so hard that I kept imagining it would be a miracle. And a few months ago I poured out everything I feel and we're done. For the record - we're both single, 30 - he never actually had a girlfriend. Recently, he started urging me to see him. I told him that he had been acting like an ass for two years, even though he knew I had feelings. And I don't want to go back. He said that if I agreed to see each other, we would set a number of times a week, in which we have seen each other !!! And he hadn't done that to anyone - that is, he stabbed a chick and then covered himself! And willing girls - a lot. That is dtrashen "gesture" !!! Haha And he gave me until tomorrow to think and if I refuse, not to expect any normal behavior from him anymore! At the moment, I am even angry and ashamed that I share such nonsense. But I just can't explain his behavior. And I'm angry that he's starting to confuse my brain again. Please, I'm embarrassed enough to share this serious life drama - be condescending. that I share such simplicity. But I just can't explain his behavior. And I'm angry that he's starting to confuse my brain again. Please, I'm embarrassed enough to share this serious life drama - be condescending. that I share such simplicity. But I just can't explain his behavior. And I'm angry that he's starting to confuse my brain again. Please, I'm embarrassed enough to share this serious life drama - be condescending.
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Abe, get rid of him :)
You have put yourself in a very disadvantageous position, from which the only decent way out is to stop dealing with it. He has you for nothing. At 30, you can no longer afford to waste time with people like that.
Cut it most brutally!
What kind of women are you ... humiliating you. they beat you. they curse you. they treat you like a rag. and again you run after your abuser .. what kind of people are you ??? And at the same time, decent men sit alone ... why do you always run after the lunatics
Forget that jerk. He should be ashamed, not you. He asks you because he doesn't want him to be abandoned, then if you accept he will continue as before. don't give up. Drop and look for a decent boy who deserves your love. This is false.
girl, the same thing happened to me. but within 1 year. we are over 35 ... think what 1 year of lost time means to me, given that I am looking for a partner with whom to have a child. the drama ended a few months ago. to remember this man. I was and still am partly in love with him ... but in fact, apart from a scheduled sex for him, he didn't give me anything. more precisely, it was always missing. and whenever I sought intimacy with him, I received a scandal. yes, and I found that there were other monkeys on the branch ... everyone has the right to live as he understands. I know for myself that I can't stand it. I deserve a lot, but a lot more. several months have passed. I totally lost touch with this man. but at least my heart is much calmer. I hope to meet my prince soon.
It's not your fault you fell in love. It's not your fault you fell in love with garbage. Because from what you write, yes he is. Don't play his whistle, don't agree to his deals. Don't be second, or exactly one of them. For a short time I shared my husband with a mistress. It was very, very short because he played it quickly, but I can't describe to you the pain and suffering I went through. It also affected my health. It's awful, don't do it to yourself, you don't have children like me. No matter how much you are in love, the day will come, believe me. I wish you to make the right decision.
Well, you yourself and the other "willing girls - a lot" get involved with such people yourself. When the choice is wrong from the beginning and the person himself is wrong and his character is unfit and you choose him by superficial and external features and hope to change it, the result can be only one - in the end you are used and disappointed. M
Get rid of him and find a decent man. But obviously you don't become one either, since at 30 you allowed yourself to be in a purely sexual relationship for two whole years. A waste of time, he used you as a prostitute instead of building a normal relationship with someone during that time. But you allowed it too, so you both benefited.
And this woman of 30 !? Wow boy ... how long do you plan to be a toy? Don't you have a mind?
Hello, I am much younger than you, but let's say that I have been in the same situation and I recommend you not to deal, you will feel sick and hurt, but it is better to leave him than to torment yourself. He doesn't deserve it if something had happened if it had happened 2 years ago
Apparently he misses you in bed and that's why he makes the "big compromise" - to give you days to see. Don't get tied up. It is clear that he has no real feelings for you.
Such a humiliating proposal is answered only with sarcasm, otherwise the sender does not understand the absurdity of his expectations. Tell him that you care about him and you don't want him to be overwhelmed, that's why you refuse to see each other at all. And since there are so many candidates, start collecting a fee for them, ha-ha-ha!
This must be some neighborhood simpleton, experiencing like Casanova on the block ... horror! I still didn't understand how women like each other ??? Stop giving in to his stupid desires, stop humiliating yourself! You are 30, not 17! Drop it and find a man on the spot! ELSA
Tell me, girl, how did this one choose him? Is it because of his appearance, his arrogant manners - his "confidence", that he can predispose you to talk, because he demonstrates his position and financial capabilities? As long as you look at these things and not the character of man, the external and not the internal, the packaging and not the content and principles or the complete absence of such your life is going to be a chaos of coincidences, wasted opportunities, disappointments, infidelities, divisions, etc. irradiated by propaganda you put imaginary criteria in front of decent people who they can't cover them and you say the man MUST be this and that, MUST have achieved this and that, MUST have this and that, MUST look this way and that, then yourself you are doomed to misery because you look at the outside and neglect the important, because in order to be happy, it is necessary for both of them to have worthy characters, to love each other, to be faithful and good to each other, and when one or both of them have flawed characters, when they cheat, when they are rude, when they lie, when quarrel, etc. what is the use of one having the appearance or money or position or any external allure when his character, the inner man is vicious and evil. Understand that you have to look at the person, his character, the principles by which he is guided in his life, you have to have similar values, similar understandings of life, high morals and loyalty, this makes the bond between the two healthy and this is what unites them. when they cheat, when they are rude, when they lie, when they quarrel, etc., what is the use of one having the appearance or money or position or any external allure when his character, the inner man is vicious and evil. Understand that you have to look at the person, his character, the principles by which he is guided in his life, you have to have similar values, similar understandings of life, high morals and loyalty, this makes the bond between the two healthy and this is what unites them. when they cheat, when they are rude, when they lie, when they quarrel, etc., what is the use of one having the appearance or money or position or any external allure when his character, the inner man is vicious and evil. Understand that you have to look at the person, his character, the principles by which he is guided in his life, you have to have similar values, similar understandings of life, high morals and loyalty, this makes the bond between the two healthy and this is what unites them.