Hello, I have a friend of 8 months. In the beginning everything was fine .. we hurried in my opinion, but .. a fact. Move to live with me because I live alone in my apartment. He helps me in the household, we love each other, but there is a big problem. I am a person who loves life ... I love to travel, to have fun with friends, to visit new places and generally to be constantly somewhere in the world and in our country when I have free time. I am a student and I work. I have opportunities and so do my parents, while he doesn't. That didn't bother me until recently. I'm not the type of girl who wants expensive restaurants and gifts ... it doesn't matter, BUT. He just sits at home and watches TV in his spare time or gathers with friends and plays some stupid computer games like he's 12 and he's 24 for good. One time he didn't come with me when he invited us to a reunion or something, once he didn't offer us to go somewhere and his justification was the money (I pay the accommodation and the bills, we share the food). His salary is around BGN 1,000 and I don't know where he spends them and he still has no money. The other problem is that it is only in words, but no action. For example, he starts something outside of his job for extra income and gives up quickly, starts a second thing and gives up again for his reasons. He has ambitions for something, but he sits and clicks on the computer with his stupid friends, who do nothing all day but just smoke weed and nothing else. I have talked to him countless times on this topic, but there is no result and that is it. Every time there are scandals and quarrels. He just knows his. At the same time, I am angry at why I go everywhere alone, with my friends or my parents on trips and outings. He is almost angry that I prefer them to him. I can't explain to him that I like sitting at home with him and watching movies. It's hard for me to get used to his routine! We are young people after all. When I get up at 60-70 I will sit at home without any problems. I had a relationship before him with another boy we were touring with, surprises, travel, etc. (he didn't pay me for them) and I kind of miss that and I can't get used to sitting in us all day and watching movies. He keeps telling me that it was enough for him just to sit with me, hugged and spend time together. I understand that, yes to me, but the routine of his lifestyle kills me. I love it, it's hard for me to say no and I don't know what to do anymore. I apologize if I have spelling mistakes, but I wrote it quickly. We are young people after all. When I get up at 60-70 I will sit at home without any problems. I had a relationship before him with another boy we were touring with, surprises, travel, etc. (he didn't pay me for them) and I kind of miss that and I can't get used to sitting in us all day and watching movies. He keeps telling me that it was enough for him to just sit with me, hugged and spend time together. I understand that, yes to me, but the routine of his lifestyle kills me. I love it, it's hard for me to say no and I don't know what to do anymore. I apologize if I have spelling mistakes, but I wrote it quickly. We are young people after all. When I get up at 60-70 I will sit at home without any problems. I had a relationship before him with another boy we were touring with, surprises, travel, etc. (he didn't pay me for them) and I kind of miss that and I can't get used to sitting in us all day and watching movies. He keeps telling me that it was enough for him to just sit with me, hugged and spend time together. I understand that, yes to me, but the routine of his lifestyle kills me. I love it, it's hard for me to say no and I don't know what to do anymore. I apologize if I have spelling mistakes, but I wrote it quickly. n (he didn't pay me for them) and I kind of miss that and I can't get used to sitting in us all day and watching movies. He keeps telling me that it was enough for him to just sit with me, hugged and spend time together. I understand that, yes to me, but the routine of his lifestyle kills me. I love it, it's hard for me to say no and I don't know what to do anymore. I apologize if I have spelling mistakes, but I wrote it quickly. n (he didn't pay me for them) and I kind of miss that and I can't get used to sitting in us all day and watching movies. He keeps telling me that it was enough for him to just sit with me, hugged and spend time together. I understand that, yes to me, but the routine of his lifestyle kills me. I love it, it's hard for me to say no and I don't know what to do anymore. I apologize if I have spelling mistakes, but I wrote it quickly.
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This is called character incompatibility. I don't think there are any fixes, sorry.
It is not the incompatibility of characters, but differences in value systems.
You are not for each other, it is clear.
Well, your friend is a gamer, and I'm the one with the difference that I like to travel and visit sites (and I'm a very interesting person in general), but don't judge him for liking games and not being childish just because of you women it seems to you. Just as you like to stand in front of the mirror for 1 hour (figuratively and for example I say it), which we find stupid, so we have interests that are not shared by the female audience in general. Regarding the topic, I think you are 2 different types of people with different interesting and I don't know how you lasted 8 months like that. I also wouldn't want my boyfriend to be in front of the computer all day and generally staying at home all day and eventually you don't have any variety and it starts to get boring after a certain period, not to mention if it's a regular routine for a long time. years. The decision is yours, but personally I see incompatibilities and postponement of the inevitable that will happen at one time or another. M 25g.
Difference of interests. Income difference - if they are in favor of the boy is not fatal, but in your case, if you think it is a problem now for the future there will be a problem. My friend had no problems during the time when he supported his wife while she was a student and took her on trips. And when he became highly paid, his income fell. The question is increasingly being asked: why should she pay him? It is always a problem when a woman makes more money.
Girl, you're wasting your time, there's no future for this relationship, you're not for each other, experience it, break up with him and that's it. You're just bothering.
You both look at life in a radically different way. Even if one of you, he or you, nevertheless, decides to change completely to make your relationship more homogeneous and harmonious, he will become a different person and things will be destroyed anyway. You sound like someone who has already made a decision for himself. Bring this decision to an end and end the relationship that they are tormenting and harassing more than a pleasant challenge and motivation for success.